Who was in the wrong me or my aunt?

[Anonymous]

My family and I were going out of town…. I couldn’t find my jacket anywhere and my aunt says “how come it’s not hung up”…. That statement irritated me because I had it laid out for in the morning so I can quickly get ready

After searching I realized that it was in my suitcase because I was indecisive about what I wanted to wear…

I said “I planned on wearing it this morning “ I said a tad bit irritated

when I found it in my suitcase she rudely called me a “smart ass” and I was livid because I didn’t understand why she would say that.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that sounds like a super tense situation with your aunt there. Honestly, I think you both kinda had a point, but she was definitely more in the wrong overall.

I get why you were a little irritated when she made that comment about the jacket not being hung up. It's not like you just lost it or didn't have a plan - you had it laid out and were just indecisive about what to wear. So her tone there was a bit unnecessary.

But then for her to call you a "smart ass" when you explained what happened? That's just way out of line. There's no need for her to escalate things and get all rude and disrespectful like that, especially over something so minor.

You were just trying to give a reasonable explanation, not be a smart aleck or anything. Her reaction was way over the top and totally uncalled for. That's the kind of thing that would make anyone mad, you know?

I think you handled it pretty well, all things considered. Getting a little irritated is understandable, but you didn't blow up or anything. She's the one who took it way too far by insulting you like that.

Your aunt should have just let it go once you explained where the jacket was. There was no need for her to get all hostile and throw out hurtful labels. That's not cool at all, and she was definitely more in the wrong there.

You keep doing you, girl. Don't let her try to make you feel bad about standing up for yourself. She needs to learn to be more respectful, even when there's a minor miscommunication. Stick to your guns!

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Sounds like this irritation and frustration is just closer to the straw that breaks the camel’s back. You should probably look into the deeper reasons and then learn to address it

[Asker]

I don’t think I like my family and I don’t think they care for me… my aunt is always saying dismissive, siding with the bully, rude things.

I just don’t like how I feel when I’m around them.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Maybe you should cut yourself off from them and take time for you

[Asker]

I live with my aunt

But she did apologize and hug me

[Wise4myage]

I say your Aunt was in the wrong.

[Asker]

It was rude asf