How to have a baby conversation with spouse?

[Anonymous]

My fiancé and I got engaged last year, we've always wanted children. The one thing that is important to us is that both of our parents be around one for our wedding and two for when we have our first child. There are many things that we've talked about when it comes to having a child like timing, finances, and when is the right time. I am just wondering how other couples have had the conversation of wanting to start trying for a baby. The two things I want is to have my dad around for the wedding and both of our parents still around for our first child. I know I'm getting closer to a high risk pregnancy age and would like to have a baby before I'm there.

[HollyK21]

Freeze your eggs and don’t rush the process. Trust me, as a 34 year old who’s also currently engaged — I get the concerns, feeling like you have a looming biological deadline, along with wanting certain people around when the time comes. But I personally feel like I still have so much more to take care of and accomplish before having the prioritization of a baby. My focus right now is planning our wedding, and enjoying our time as just two before we make such a big sacrifice.


My fiancé and I are basically on the same page about all this, and reading your post, it sounds like you and yours are too, or at least you were. You both agreed that now isn’t the best time, and it’s kinda hard to dictate when it’ll happen. So my advice is focus on the wedding and other things now, then re-explore this at another time. Try not to be impatient with yourself or your partner for now if you can help it.