Are my friends using our WhatsApp group to exclude and humiliate me?

[Anonymous]

So there are these two girls who were interested in being friends (it's more them than me at this point).

They had created a whatsapp group where it's me, and both of them.

Suddenly they posted today saying do y'all need a ride etc. 'See you girls tomorrow' etc. and the other one was saying See you tomorrow!! <3 etc.

And I wasn't invited. The thing is if this was a larger group i'd say maybe just for convenience but it's literally me and both of them. Plus they coordinated this plan not on this group so why not continue chatting there.

I really think they did this just to humiliate me and insult me and show me that they're meeting like to try to get under my skin.

[Anonymous]

They might just be hyper-focused on their own plans and completely blind to how it looks to others.

If you want to highlight their bad manners without starting a fight, send a light, direct text.

Since you aren't highly invested in this friendship, mute the group permanently or archive it. You do not owe them your attention.

Good luck

[Asker]

I considered it but I think from the little I know of them they are not so oblivious that they wouldn't know it's rude to discuss it in such a small group when I'm not going.

My gut is they did it on purpose. At best it could just be them knowing it could be rude nad it not making a difference. At worst it could be that they did it intentionally.

Either way - I really think that these peoplea re not worth my time

[Opinion Owner]

Since you have decided to distance yourself, you can handle the group chat in a way that minimizes drama while completely cutting off their access to your energy.

[In_Trance]

Probably not