Can overly strict parenting and discipline backfire and cause rebellion?

[ChicanaChick]

I have a friend that claims too much discipline, too much strict rules got her exhausted and super stressed out. As soon as she turned 18, she left the house and started drinking for the first time and got very drunk. She claimed that partying, drinking and wanting nothing to do with school for a couple years was her way of venting out, of getting it out of her system. She blames her upbringing, that her parents were too hard on her, too much discipline and too strict. They didn't even let her have a social life; it was about school and her studies; no friend's party, no going to movies, no nothing. She felt depressed in her house and suffocated. It made her want to rebel more.

I've never heard of cases like that before? People are lately complaining that there is no rules nor any discipline at all and that parents have become permissive more than ever. How about the other way? If there is too much discipline, too many rules, can that also create an out-of-control person too?

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My friend wanted nothing to do with college, nothing to do with studying from ages 18 to early 20's. She went back to school at age 25.

[bowenw]

I believe it can. If you make something forbidden it can make people want it more, or at least be curious to try it to see what all the fuss is about.

[Danny_dan92]

I’ve seen it happen before. So yeah, I’d say the best thing to do is strike a fine balance. Don’t be too controlling and don’t be too lenient either

[Jessica405]

Yes , it can. You do not own children, so you have to learn to let go slowly, while at the same time guiding them rather than ordering.

[usernameobvious]

Definitely it can - as much as too lax parenting :( equally

[usernameobvious]

Yes indeed 👍🏻 I see it time and time again

On the opposite, lack of parenting leads to a very spoilt and poorly respectful child

[ChicanaChick]

Yes indeed. That then confirms that all extremes in life are bad. Anything in extreme, whether it's too much or too little or none will always have negative results.

[slatyb]

Absolutely it can. These are the children who break contact with their abusive parents.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes. Balance is key to everything in life.

Too much of something becomes a stumbling block at one point.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Of course it can thats why you need balance! I have a few friends that are wild because there parents held on to them to tight lol

[Nikki1989]

Yes, absolutely.

[Deepinthought345]

100%

[eagle1951]

it happens