Is it common to reject how you were raised and parent your child differently?

[Anonymous]

Well my father is going to spoiled my son (his grandchild) because in his mind that's what grandparents are suppose to do. It's really up to me and my husband to guide towards the right path.

Though he did said ''he'll respect his elders''. That's based on hierarchy and older people given more priority. I did disadvantage in that method. There are older people that can then abuse their position and think they're in a power trip. Even parents have abused their position in the past. Not good. Meanwhile I'll teach him to treat others (old, young, whatever) how he wants to be treated and that it goes both ways. Just because someone is older doesn't mean my son is forced to give unconditional respect and go out of his way with the politeness, no matter what. Nope, respect is earned, not given for free nor demanded just because of your age.

[Mynameisbobby]

I was abused by my mother and older sister physically, emotionally and verbally. When I have children I will not treat them the way I was treated.

[Asker]

I'm sorry to hear what you went through. No child ever deserves that. I'm glad you're breaking that toxic cycle. Some people don't deserve to be parents at all and no all siblings are worthy of respect either.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes thats very common it happens a lot

[Asker]

True. I see so much inconsistencies in the tradicional old-school parenting approach.

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's cause it outdated

[Bklynbadboy12]

Thanks for the MHO

[Abbycado]

It is your right to parent how you want. I think it is common to adapt.

[Asker]

True. I've been educating myself more about how to raise kids. I was reading about the Montessori parenting style and love it. I got tired of the old system of rewards and punishment. Yet I'm still learning. It can be a challenge when no one ever taught me that style.

[beenherebefore]

I think it's pretty common.

[Asker]

Great. It would be awkward to be teaching my son outdated things from the time my father was born, in 1954.

[MasterKS]

its upto you how you want it.

[Asker]

True