Girls, is there a fine line between being best friends and lovers?

[Anonymous]

A girl told me that to her the difference between best friends and lovers is very thin. If you're truly best friends with someone you literally just lack the "status" of boyfriend and girlfriend. However as we often see, male and female who are best friends often friend zone one or the other. Girls, what do you think about this?

[snowangle]

It always depends on the individual people. My best guy friend and I have totally friend zoned each other because we know we're not compatible on that level. We have lots of fun together and we flirt quite a bit, but we both know we're more like brother and sister. We actually remind me a lot of Joey and Pheobe from Friends (if anyone watches that show).

However, my best friend (female) is someone who, if she were a guy, we would probably get married. I love her more than a lot of people can imagine. She got a boyfriend recently (her first), and I've been so reserved with him because I'm afraid he'll hurt her. Some of our other friends have jokingly told the boy "If you hurt her, I'll beat you up." Not me. He won't get any warning from me. :)

Anyways, what I'm trying to say is, best friends are people who spend lots of time together, are totally honest with each other, care a lot about each other, have similar goals and interests, and are long term. I think romance is all you need to add to that in order to be lovers.

[BrighteyedAsh]

I have a best girlfriend like that. We're strictly d***ly, but she's my most absolute friend. The girl I trust the most. The one who gets me so much that she knows exactly what I mean even when words fail me. Who knows my neurotocisms and quirks and gets them without having to 'get' them.

[BrighteyedAsh]

Well, the way I understand this, is because relationships work best when friendship is the foundation. But it doesn't have to technically start as a friend and grow into romance, you start as a romance, and build the friendship within, so that on the days you're not very romantically inclined, you still value your lover on a deeper level. It IS a very fine line, or rather, more appropriately, a delicate balance. And a necessary one. Without that deeper development and built respect, trust, and pure enjoyment of each other, much the same as friendship, then you're left with nothing when the shallow part of romance fades away. Relationships are about lifelong companionship, and what is that without being the best friend you want to do everything in life with?

[Asker]

Amazing answer! There are plenty of different opinions but I think yours is the one that makes most sense. Thanks..

[BrighteyedAsh]

Thanks. I'm glad you found it to your liking. (:

[pretty15]

Every girl loves her best friend. But a lover is different... there is a line but a very fine blurry line which rarely is maintaned. Its not about physical attraction...

If you wish to see for yourself, watch twilight. Jacob and edward. You'll know. Its messy but yes there is a line which guys usually fail to see but girls know. Not being offensive.

Hope this helps..

[Anonymous]

My parents were best friends growing up as kids. They went to different colleges and helped one another through break ups and things and eventually realized that they were perfect for one another. They had the right framework from being friends and knew what the other liked and disliked. I think that it can be a great thing!

[kheserthorpe]

Either she's very physical with her friends or she thinks sex isn't very important.

Because most of us consider them VERY different.

[cazza3]

Sexual attraction. If I'm not attracted to you then you're a friend but no matter how hot you are if that's all there is I'm not interested either. My best friend is male, we grew up together but my fiance is the one I truly click with in every way