Should I be mad my girlfriend sleeps with her best friend?

[60Marine0844]

Ok so my girlfriend just doesn't like to sleep alone, so she sleeps not in HER room but in her best friends room, in the same bed, cuddled up WHEN I'm NOT THERE and she's in college, so I'm a town away. Should I be mad, upset but carefree, or just passive?

My personal view is I'm f***ing pissed! But I couldn't tell her. So tell me, ill take the honesty: am I being loving but not telling her or being a little bitch?

BTW:

Her best friend a girl who's touches my girls boobs excessively and has had sex with a girl already...thoughts, anyone?

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Well I love her, and I know she's faithful, but I'm slowly distrusting her best friend, her excuse is always, shut up I know I've known her longer. I just can't say anything cause my girlfriend is stuck with her and she's often bitchy with her...but I try my hardest to bottle it all up for my girlfriends sake

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Well I did it, I confronted her about It. She told me she just doesn't like sleeping by herself in the dark and I remembered that she's told me that once before...my problem now is that since I told her how uncomfortable I was feeling she won't sleep with her best friend,but I'm afraid she won't sleep anymore.


Despite it hurting me deeply, I told her to get in bed with get friend tonight, but she fell asleep over the phone with me, so I talked her to sleep myself. I feel terrible :(

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I wish there was away we both can be happy, but since I told her how I felt she's gonna do the samething for me: she wants to help me even if it hurts her :/ I feel so selfish...


...should I feel this way?

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Well guys and girls, it's been two years. I married her. And just recently I confirmed that what I was worried about was true. I work 12 hour night shifts and she's been very active in bed without me. With just who I thought it would be. I don't know why I felt compelled to login and announce it. But I felt like closing turning the last page and letting y'all know wouldn't hurt. The divource is final. I knew I should've been worried...

[washize]

If you don't trust her, then you should end the relationship. If you think your girlfriend is being unfaithful and that she's bisexual, I don't see how this relationship can survive.

You should talk to her if you don't want to immediately break things off. Tell her it makes you uncomfortable and ask if she's faithful.

Ask her if she believes in monogamy. Some men and women are non monogamous and don't admit it.

[RedSmartie]

Of course you have the right to be pissed. If my guy was sleeping in the same bed with a gay man who always grabbed his junk, I'd be pissed even if my guy was straight as an arrow.

But unless your girlfriend is bisexual or bicurious, your problem is with the friend. She shouldn't be sharing a bed with and groping someone who is with someone else.

[Deathcabforcutie]

Yes this is a jacked up situation and sleeping with her best fried is a selfish thing to do. No grown woman is so scared of the freakin dark she's gotta spoon with her friend. This about this scenario and it makes no sense.

[Koldhearted]

Well I'd Be pissed till I found out it was with a girl. I don't know really how I'd feel. Depends on if your girlfriend swings that way I guess.

[KingsOfleon88]

Dude, why are you letting yourself to be walked on...What the f***

[KingsOfleon88]

Oh nevermind, I thought it was a dude.

[carinabina820]

If your girlfriend is bisexual or this girl is, I don't think it's any of your business. I think it's only cheating when you have two of the same--like two guys or two girls. When you're bi, I think you should be allowed to have one guy and one girl, but only one relationship (with either a guy or a girl, not both). If she's in a relationship with you and she's bi, you can't ask her to repress a part of herself because you don't like it.

[RedSmartie]

That's actually a pretty stupid thing to say. Being bi doesn't mean you have one of each. It means you pick one person indiscriminate of gender.

[60Marine0844]

We all have our own beliefs but to tell me my girlfriend is none of my business is plain ignorant, sorry about the aggressive language, I do apologize for that however, I was very upset and disliked your comment and it was a cruel response on my part :/

[carinabina820]

You think? and I'm not saying your girlfriend isn't any of your business, what I am saying is that it's not right for you to ask her to repress a part of herself unless you have specifically discussed it with her beforehand.

[Nomoreoptions]

It's not that unusual among girls to be really trusting and close to each other. You should nicely talk to her about it, saying that it makes you uncomfortable and such. If she can't understand your feelings, you won't be a good pair anyways. Best of luck.

[Noodlenoodle]

You do realize that the potential for a threesome is pretty high, right?

[SparklingFirefly]

Lol

[Anonymous]

To me it's obvious it's more than cuddling. If the tables were turned and my boyfriend was cuddling with another guy (I know, highly unlikely) I would be pissed that I was not invited for the threesome.

[Deathcabforcutie]

I would be mad and quite frankly I'd be wondering your girlfriends sexuality because I don't think that's normal.

[Moloch]

Yes you should.