My boyfriend used to shoplift, should I forgive him and move on?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a bit over 7 months now. He is the most loving, caring, genuine guy I have ever met. He treats me very well, puts up with my mood swings, comforts me and shows me a lot of affection. Everything is basically perfect, but I just recently found out that he used to steal/shoplift when he was younger. I am very much against stealing and do not approve of it at all. We had a long conversation about it, and he said he has never done it since being a teenager, except for sometimes he would take things from his friends' houses (like taking a game without asking, etc.). His friends would always find out though and nobody ever made a big deal about it, so maybe it's just how he is with his friends. But anyway - we talked, I told him how much it bothered me, and he said that for me to feel better he will never ever do anything like that again, that now he doesn't feel the need to do that anymore, that he was young and is now a different person. I really do believe that, I know that people change and mature and teens often do stupid things they later regret. But although we had this talk and he said he'd never do it again, it's still somehow bothering me and I don't know how to let go of it in my head. Am I overreacting? Am I picking at one bad thing in the past despite all the wonderful things now and the great person he is now to me? If it was you, would you forgive or make a bigger deal about it or walk away? Thanks for advice!

[DeepThoughts]

Forgive him and forget about it. My girlfriend used to do drugs, steal, and drink as a young teenager but now she's completely against it because she knows what it can do first hand. When she told me we had a long talk about it also, and she has never done any of it sense.

[RandomStudent]

Let it go! Plenty of people commit crimes when they are teenagers and regret it later.

[eringirlCA]

It was in the past I would let it go if everything else is perfect, why throw it all away for something thing he did when he was a stupid kid? And he promised he would never do anything like that again, honestly I think he's a keeper :) be glad its not drugs or alcohol.

[deannarose]

It was in his past, and he's learned from it.

I think you need to realize that he regrets doing it, and he'll genuinely never do it again. Everyone makes mistakes. As long as he's moved on from it, you need to as well.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

this shouldn't even be an issue. it was years ago. let it go

[bh6676r942]

oh yeah your totally over reacting you should just move on