Let's face it. Everyone, even those who say it doesn't matter, care about looks when it comes to attraction. I know within a half second which of my categories a woman falls into. This isn't about being judgmental, it's just reality. And reality isn't judgmental.
Of course this doesn't mean that a woman who isn't attractive to me has no worth to me. Looks are not the only important criterion in my relationships with women, but they are one of the important ones when it comes to attraction beyond a business type of relationship. Again, that's not judgmental, it's just honest. You can't control what you are attracted to (nor should you have to). It's nature. And why should physical appearance be any less of an acceptable criterion to evaluate someone on than say intelligence or personality? They are all gifts and it's their relatively rarity that makes them attractive.
I should also mention that not everyone classifies every individual in the same category of course, pretty to me could be ugly to someone else and visa versa. So this isn't about any particular "type" or "look" although there are clearly some individuals who are appealing to more people than others.
For me, good looking and sexy aren't always the same thing. I have seen many good looking women I didn't necessarily think were very sexy and many sexy women that I didn't think were very good looking. Sexy is a certain something that gets you at the gut level. It isn't necessarily about being "pretty." Pretty also gets you at the gut level, but let's just say it's a different part of the gut. ;-) I would imagine that most men have a similar experience and that women experience the same thing with men: that to them a man can be one and not necessarily the other.
For me there are 4 categories in which I place virtually every woman I see (not intentionally or necessarily consciously, but sometimes consciously if they are an extreme case in their respective category and it draws my conscious attention). In order of rarity from most common to least common my category list looks like this:
Neither
Sexy
Pretty
Both
Most women I see are neither sexy nor pretty to me. Very few women are both. Of the ones who are at least one or the other I find more women sexy than pretty. Pretty is more rare. The rarest of all is both. Those are the women I might fantasize about marrying.
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Shoud've tried to explain HOW you put a woman into one of those categories. Like, what's the algorithm in your head? How do you determine which is which.
I have my own algorithm and categories. It's definitely hard to put it into words. It's like a 'Visual' and a 'Feeling' put together. Sure is interesting how the human brain functions.
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