I’ve asked my boyfriend to shave his beard, but he won’t. What should I do? (Page 2)

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My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now. When we started dating he had some facial hair but it was shorter. Now it’s grown out down to his collar bone and is very scraggly. I’ve asked him to shave it. And I know men love their beards so I understand it’s a big question to ask. I told him he doesn't have to take the whole thing off, just a trim or if he could have it back to the shorter length it was when we started dating that’d be perfect too. He’s said “oh maybe but just let me look like a homeless person”. And we both laugh about it. But he hasn’t actually agreed to shaving it. I’ve asked him again and he’s gotten irritated by the question now so I’ve stopped asking. His beard kinda grosses me out cuz food gets stuck in it and it gets in my mouth whenever we kiss and then sometimes the shedding beard hair gets in my mouth too and I have to pull it out. I’ve told him this but he still won’t shave it. Any suggestions on how to approach the topic with him again?

AspiringArtist · Answer

If he’d ask you to shave your mustache would you be offended? Yeah. You would be. So stop trying to change him. And if this matters to you this much, then leave him.

Thatsamazing · Answer

"so I’ve stopped asking"  It sounds like you answered your own question.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Don't you have the pussy in the relationship? Let him know that your legs are closed until he shaves. He will either shave or dump your ass. Either way, you won't have to get beard hair in your mouth anymore.

AshleyMadison00 · Answer

You can't just demand something. I wouldn't either.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on why he wants to keep it. If he's just being selfish, kick him to the curb - because you make valid points for wanting it off.

Anonymous · Answer

The way I see it, you have two choices. Accept him with his beard, or stop shaving your legs until he shaves his beard!

Juxtapose · Answer

If he's disgusting enough to have food in his beard and not be so embarrassed he will do anything to change that, then he needs to go.

JakeMist86 · Answer

Get him blackout drunk and do it in his sleep! Either that or holdout and say no more sex, because the bear is gross...

EleanorRigby · Answer

Stop shaving your private parts and watch him change his opinion in a heartbeat.

Massageman · Answer

Since you dislike eating hair, don't kiss him until he shaves it.

clampfan101 · Answer

You expect him to respect your body, right? Let him do the same. Perhaps you could offer a compromise.

Nikunj70 · Answer

You can suggest him but you can not force him to do if he doesn't want or like to do... respect him and accept this..😊

Anonymous · Answer

Your son would have to obey you. Your husband would have to respect and honor your wish. Boyfriend is nobody. He does not have to listen to you. If you cannot stand it and it is getting in the middle, you have your options open.

Andreadeb · Answer

respect him! as he don't say to you how to cut or die your hair! Freedom and respect must be mutual!

Bman4907 · Answer

Cut him off. If kissing is driving you nuts because you get his hair everywhere, then just don't do it. Don't do it either.

Exorcist_Rampage · Answer

Men should be proud of his beard. How would you feel if he told you to trim your hair but you really didn't want to at all?

Anonymous · Answer

Controlling much? How about you respect his choices and accept who he is rather than telling him who you want him to be instead?

datgirl · Answer

Ok thats nastyyyyyy. 🤮🤮🤮 just grow out your leg hair, arm pits and pubes.

OfDeath · Answer

Accidentally get something really sticky in it where the only solution is to shave it off

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Sounds like he is not going to trim it. Get used to it or carry on elsewhere.

13IsALuckyNumber · Answer

Ask for a compromise. Have him make his beats shorter, but not all the way gone.

Blain20 · Answer

Be straight with him. Be sure he knows you're being serious. You may have to cut him off from affection and stand your ground.

outside_Toronto · Answer

You put up with it. Or if you feel it's really that big of a deal, you move on

Syrian_survivor · Answer

You chose the wrong guy, now you gotta deal with the consequences of your actions.

jss123 · Answer

His body his choice. You have the option to leave him if you're not happy.

Paul09 · Answer

I'll never understand how women even kiss beards? Yuck, who the F wants to kiss hair lol.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

well you can't make him but give him time an see what happens

nicholas197643 · Answer

tell him you will have sex with him every night if he shaves it

anononon123 · Answer

Is he allowed to tell you anything about your body, what you can wear it not, that's your answer

gregsskyhigh · Answer

Get him really drunk and when he passes out shave it off SIMPLE

Askaway3 · Answer

Oh, Girl, you know what to do! He will eventually have that face slick as a babies bottom!

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Cut him off! Nah, just accept it. I'm sure you do things that he doesn't like..

Gargla · Answer

Tell him why. If its becuz of some bull shit "outward appearance" answer, then it is you who should probably shut up.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't like my woman telling me what I should and shouldn't do with my body. I don't tell her what she should do with hers. I'm not a republicuck

Anonymous · Answer

How would you feel if he insisted you got a boob job?

artemis77 · Answer

wait till he's asleep then get the scissors and razor out.

Jasminne · Answer

I think you should just deal with it and let him embrace something new about himself

robs112358 · Answer

We'll stop kissing him he might take a hint

Anonymous · Answer

1. Don't have sex with him 2. Change your view and try to see the beard as attractive.

Teahappy · Answer

Leave it. Accept it. Do you wear makeup?

Pete671 · Answer

he sounds really selfish,

Hey_uoy · Answer

You should cut your hair as well then😂😂😂

I_Can_Help · Answer

You should grow one to get even.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Refuse to shave your arms, pits or pussy.

SOARER_ · Answer

You should have it or cut it while he is sleeping

BestUserName100 · Answer

I thought women loved the Neck Beard. Dikey? ..

Rangers · Answer

Ask him to shape it instead

mermaidia_lol · Answer

Shave it while he's asleep.

Anonymous · Answer

Shave it while he's sleeping

Surely · Answer

I guess that you could stop shaving?

GreenGold1992 · Answer

repeat, he'll do it eventually

BIGGESTD39 · Answer

Quit trying to change him

Hypnos0929 · Answer

Tell him to groom it then

DovahKittyLady · Answer

You honestly can't do much. It is his body.

be_tooysie · Answer

Why can’t you just let him be

GraveDoll · Answer

ummmmm. Deal?

way007 · Answer

Drop him maybe he belongs to someone else

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Stop sucking his dick till he does

Anonymous · Answer

Good on him.

buttcrackjoe · Answer

Dump beardilocks

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