Is it normal to almost be addicted to being a woman and being obsessed with fashion, shoes makeup and all things girly?

[Anonymous]

Okay I am 28 and I fucking love being a woman. A little bit about me I grew up in Turkey which is a Muslim majority country and I grew up in a strict muslim household snd had to wear a burka which I hated. I I was never allowed to wear makeup or jewelery or dresses. It was so fucking painful. Luckily for me I was able to go to University in Paris and my family sent me with a lot of money because I had told them I had wanted to leave Islam and they at the time didn’t accept that and wouldn’t let me live with them. Well they sent me with more money then I could possibly need and I spent several thousand dollars on clothes, shoes, dresses, jewelry, handbags and makeup. Since I have been living in Paris my entire wardrobe is almost pink, my apartment is filled with fashion posters and paintings, I wear makeup every single day which includes heavy eye shadow and red lipstick and my nails are always painted pink or red and I always have earrings on and wear a necklace and bracelet when I go out. I also always prefer to wear dresses or skirts over pants. I absolutely love my new life in Paris and being able to embrace my femininity is the greatest thing on earth..

[CubsterShura]

Sounds less about being a woman and more about you getting into a frenzy once you are finally getting the freedom to do everything you wanted. While it's "normal" for people to get into such frenzies, it is important that you make yourself responsible for your actions. It is natural and normal to love makeup and all those good stuff, I love them too, and as a fashion and beauty enthusiast myself I'll admit it takes time to learn to spend responsibly in a market that just entices you to keep spending on them. Especially if you have never been allowed to do those things you never got to mature that side of yourself, you never learned how to do them responsibly like most women your age can if they already have been doing it for many years now.

There are lots of content creators who teach about decluttering, buying clothes and accessories responsibly, building a capsule wardrobe etc. I highly encourage that you look into those. If you spent so excessively then you probably own a lot of stuff now that you realistically won't use much or at all, see what you can return for a refund, see what you can sell on Poshmark or Facebook marketplace, and only keep things you will realistically wear and need. I wish you all the best.

Maybe I'll write a myTake on this topic someday.

[sheenagwapa]

yeah because i love anything related to beauty too it's just your interest. but now i am on the lie low because it takes so much of my energy and time. i use a lot of imagination so my brain hurts. i'm a fristrated stylist and gosh i don't think i can do this to other people because just myself alone it's brain consuming. i guess this is not part of my talent. i just have the endurance for it because i wanna be beautiful. if ever i go to a gym it's also because i wanna be beautiful it's not really because of health and fitness.


most of all i don't have the money to finance my being beauty enthusiast. not a beauty expert just an enthusiast. my life is different now i don't have househelp. househelp is very common by the way in my country it's not for the rich.

[DiegoO]

There is nothing wrong with you embracing your feminity, but you gotta stop and think. All those thousands you could have saved on your account, instead of spending tons in fashion. You don't wanna be a housewife but if you keep spending thousands in clothing, you'll not only end up been a housewife, but you will also live with the regret of not saving up all that money for investment. Hence: you're crippling your own financial future.

Simple rule: don't spend more than you earn.

You don't have a job? Spend the minimum, not the maximum in service or things—in your case: fashion

[Flatmanlewis]

You be you and just have fun. You have found a form of expression and your own freedom. Is that normal? Heck yeah. I think we push hard into those places and things we didn’t get to fully enjoy as children. Me? Grew up raised by a single mom, often we were hungry, and our wardrobe was limited at best. Now, I love a fine dining night with a well cut suit. It seems natural to want to give yourself some of the experiences and memories you didn’t get to have earlier.

[Pinay_ako]

It’s great you’re embracing your femininity and being in a new city and enjoying your new found freedom and life. But don’t forget to still limit yourself on how far you’re willing to go without disrespecting your parents. It’s all fun and games but don’t forget your parents and how much they’re sacrificing to give you a good life.

[Screenwriter]

Since you weren't allowed any of this kind of freedom, you're indulging yourself now. It's completely normal. But, I do wonder how you're going to deal with returning home to burkas and restrictions? Do you have plans on how to deal with this! Good luck.

[Bilboes]

Because you come from a conservative family, you've spent most of your time not being able to do what you want. The lack of such freedom eventually led to an obsessive interest in such feminine things. And there is nothing wrong with that.. There are a lot of things in the world that you can be obsessive about, and the consequences of them can be negative and catastrophic. But this is not the case.. So, enjoy your freedom and satisfy your desire and curiosity..

[A_Bell]

I have been obsessed with shoes my entire life as well as feminine clothing and hair. Never much into make-up though, except light concealer here or their or lipstick.

Being a woman is great, and I don't understand why any woman would want to be a man or dress like one. Can't say I look forward to post menopause, but I can deal with periods to be a mom and not deal with what looks like the hot mess of being male.

[stepyo99]

It's good that you're embracing your femininity but wasting your parent's money like that isn't feminine, it's gluttonous and irresponsible. Leaving Islam is probably an overall good thing, but it still has a few good things to say about conducting yourself virtuously. Be more frugal with your money and don't start whoring yourself out like a lot of western women do.

[RingOfFire]

Completely normal. Nature programmed women to adorn themselves to be attractive to men because it induces reproduction which is the most important function of any living species. That's why women are naturally more attracted to things that enhance their appearance than men and spend 10 times as much on clothes, makeup, jewelry, etc. It is a natural instinct.

[Honeysuckle12345]

Don't go crying back to your family when you find yourself homeless and without money. Particularly if you act like the modern Western woman and turn into a s***

[jshm2]

Reads more like you're a spoiled fucking brat looking to steal from your parents by scaring them.

You are in Paris to study and get an education, not becoming an economic immigrant and thief.

[Asker]

I graduated from university and I have a full time job.

[Friendlybro79]

Obsession to point of an addiction would mean that it is ruining other aspects of your life. Like if you missed work because you couldn't stop whatever the addiction is or it's hurting yourself etc. Basically addictions are bad in general.

If you just like to take your time to wear makeup and enjoy it and it's not hurting you or messing up your life somehow then it's have at it and enjoy yourself.

[Light_beam]

ahh when you raise a child and instead of informing him about religion and allowing him to choose which rule to follow.. they just put tons of rules and forced you to follow them while having an empty floating head.. now a rebellous girl with the same empty head.. i guess you are having sex with everything that moves now.. lol.. so typical

[provokeesmokee]

Yeah, go for it. While gender and feminity certainly play into your reaction, novelty is a factor, too.

It's normal to want to stretch your wings where you weren't able to before.

[haana]

i grew up in muslim country too ! i’ve been wearing scarf since i hit my puberty. i’m grateful my parents weren’t strict at all. They are fine with anything i wanna wear as long as it suit with the image of scarf i’m carrying

[FauxGirlNikki]

i was born a guy but i absolutely LOVE being female whenever i can! everything about it is the best!!!

[sheikalana]

I've always loved being a woman too. I used to be obsessed with fashion and all that too when I was younger. I still enjoy those things but I have other priorities now. It's very normal.

[Billlewis]

I'm addicted to spoiling a beautiful woman rotten and worshipping the ground she and her boyfriend walk on.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Enjoy no problem also develop skills to earn money and return what you got.

If you quit Islam then your parents would ask the money back what plans do you have?

[nastyb]

I wouldn't say thats necessarily feminity. It could very well be materialism. Femininity is more about mindset , not what you're wearing

[Apple1996]

Seems a little extreme but I don't know since I can't relate. Most days I dress like a boy

[BigDog1989]

If you really feel like you are truly a woman. I know men who are trans, and became women. They believed they should have been women, so they became one

[BigDog1989]

Is turkey, Europe, or asia?

[Likes2drive]

Seems normal to me since you’re so repressed by the strict culture you’re from, it’s like you’ve been freed but you’ll never be able to do that at home if you go back