Women. You do not wear makeup for men. Ok. What do you do in order to be more attractive to men? Nothing?

[Anonymous]

[A_Bell]

Makeup is a stupid waste of time and sucks to remove. Some exceptions are lipstick and light eyeliner and shadow which are like magic for your eyes.

Clear polish helps with chips and jaggies but color is way too much maintenance.

For me, a more natural look with most work on hair and decent clothes that fit properly instead of lazy ass leggings or yoga pants.

I most look nice for self respect, but also I want to look extra nice for my husband. I want him to see me and desire me and there is nothing wrong in having that as a goal. In fact, any woman who thinks being attractive to men is bad needs to Darwin themselves out of the gene pool.

[Enaya]

I always have been dressy. Don't do it for men, I just like the creativity of putting together an outfit or look. I don't do it for men. I can be in my house for weeks and will still do my nails and so on. To appeal to men generally, I don't really have to do anything. The right guy likes me just based on what I am already. I might wear perfume that I think is sexy if I like a guy, but I wear perfume every day anyway, so it's just about switching it out for something I might guess he will like. That's it.

[Asker]

It's not the same for men. A man cannot just be himself and expect a woman to love him.

Women don't just accept men as we are. We have to work to become what a woman wants.

I think that is why men are confused about why women don't do their makeup for us.

You don't have to. We want you and love you no matter who you are.

That is not the same in reverse. I am learning a lot.

[Enaya]

What are men like naturally?

[Kingofkings1992]

Right? I always love hearing girls say they wear makeup for themselves, or they wear next to nothing for their own comfort. Lmao!

[BigDog1989]

Women wear makeup for men AND themselves. They just won't admit it

[Anonymous]

To be honest since I'm ugly I used to not even try because it would just make men laugh. I somehow ended up with a boyfriend so I try to make efforts now but it's hard lol, it goes completely against my natural state. I have to loose weight, (even when I'm skinny I'm unattractive because of my masculine bone structure ) do skincare, take care of my hair from hell also keep it from falling out (I have a condition similar to men who loose hair) I have to try to learn to dress, to this day I still haven't managed it. It's hard trying to be attractive when you naturally aren't 😓

[nightowl_28]

How do you know you're ugly?

[caitycat21]

It’s really stupid to be obsessed with doing things to please men. I mean every dude is different so if you’re trying to please every single man in existence it’s a losing battle.


Women should present themselves in a way that they feel attractive and confident. Potential partners in turn will be attracted to that confidence and maybe you have a unique sense of style or makeup that might not be every dudes cup of tea. That’s fine - find a dude who likes you for the authentic version of yourself and appreciates how you express yourself.


You should never feel the need to dress a certain way out of your comfort zone just to attract a partner

[Anonymous]

Idiots think makeup makes a woman more attractive when, reality is, makeup only ages the skin faster. It's why women in their 30s from the 1940-50s were wearing enough makeup to start their own beauty salon by the time they reached 60 or 70. Any American woman over 80 nowadays has a pancake thick layer of makeup on her face.

As for what women do

Dress attractively not cheaply
Have a low body count
Have a decent respectable personality

Losers only look for beauty cause they contribute no value to a relationship with decent women and are just after cheap sex... and whine when their "girlfriend / wife" cheats.

[sheikalana]

The only man I care to impress is my husband. I don't wear makeup every day but I make sure I shower every day and my hair looks good. I moisturize, apply perfume and smell good all the time. When I'm in the house I wear something comfortable and cute at the same time and try to be in a good mood all the time. My nails and pedicure are always done and I shave regularly. I don't want to look like a potato bag even when I'm home.

[catarecute]

i do a lot to be more attractive to men. i straighten my hair, wear nice clothes, eat less exercise, wax, use body oil. have massages. no matter what effort i put in men always tell me i am ugly. men are completely entitle and never satisfied with what they have.

[Slim57]

I'm satisfied with my girl and she doesn't do half of those things

[catarecute]

@Slim57 thats cool. she is lucky

[Rei13]

I know for me personally that I am pretty without makeup and wearing it everyday is too much effort. Some women wear it for themselves or to attract a man but you don’t actually think that is the only thing women can do to appear more attractive, right? Which is an interesting take because I’ve heard more men complain about women wearing too much makeup than the other way around lol

[noemiii]

First of all, some women DO wear makeup for men. A lot don’t, though. It’s a form of expression. I think of it like men who drive loud cars. Some claim they don’t do it for women, but a lot do, and it’s a form of expression.

Second, women who do things for the male gaze are easily spotted. Tight clothes, high heels, always dress scantily. That’s for a man, as the average woman generally hates wearing heels and tight clothes.

[Sour-rose]

:) not a damn thing. Nothing for men. If I'm flaunting my ass in public in my thong, it's for me. If I wear lipstick or be cute in general... guess wha

[Asker]

Is it because you don't need to do anything? Men are already attracted?

Also, why is there an epidemic of girls committing suicide due to social media and it's portrayal of female beauty?

Why are they killing themselves over their looks if women don't need to worry about looks, and only look good purely because they enjoy asthecis?

I'm really looking for an answer. This is not an argument. This is not an attack. This is not me being angry. I have to clarify these things or else everything is taken badly.

[LazerBean]

@Asker Not all women are the same. In the same way some men really care what others think about them and some don't, some women really are self conscious about themselves, and some are not. If you're trying to pin down the mechanics of all women, stop. We're not 2D NPC's that fit a stencil.

[Asker]

There's always variations from person to person but there are also generalities. We all can't be perfectly unique snowflakes.

Also I am but one man who is the same as the rest. We all want women that's for sure except the gays of course.

Sure men like different kinds of women but the beautiful ones are obviously our favorites.

There's different kinds of beauty but some people are not attractive. And I think it's a lie to say "oh there's someone out there 'for you' as if 'for' means 'attracted to your particular brand of ugly.

In the same sense all men wonder what is the nature of female attraction. What makes women attracted to men.

The only answer is "every woman is a unique snowflake."

It's honestly very hard for me to believe that.

[catarecute]

the simple answer is noone feels good being told they look like shit. its a fact it hurts. people call each other unatractive and ugly and they think its justifiable and not morally wrong because its"true". but is just their opinion. stupidity is the problem. a huge wave of human stupidity

[CrimsonAngel09]

"There's different kinds of beauty but some people are not attractive. And I think it's a lie to say "oh there's someone out there 'for you' as if 'for' means 'attracted to your particular brand of ugly."

And you were asking awhile ago why women commit suicide. The answer is pretty obvious. For a long time now, fashion and TV has told people what is beautiful and what isn't. a lot of us women are unattractive, because we don't look like models. Because of that, we develop body dysmorphia, depression, and anxiety. We can never fit with perfect women because we aren't:

Tall.

Have small perky boobs.

Skinny.

Blonde.

Have lush lips.

Almond shaped eyes.

When you ultimately can't look attractive like models and you're constantly judged by society, you want to kill yourself.

I can relate.

[Sour-rose]

Wow... well like what most people said, they are correct. Me, however... men are attracted or not, it's simply I'm a goddess. However, not many ladies are born that way or gain such a gift. And for those who are not, this world will make them know that's how they are. Aaand... show's over. :c

[jaskin777]

It not me trying to look good for men.
I do what I do
And dress how I dress
If a man find me attractive then so be it
But if he doesn't then it fine whatever
But I'm not perfect I wish I was but I'm not.
If he can't accept me just the way I am then he shouldn't be around me
If he wants me to change a few things then I will.

[petitedollbabee]

Nothing. I don’t change myself just to attract a man. Either they like me as I am, or they can go away. Doesn’t effect my life much.

[Asker]

Why are you on this site than?

[petitedollbabee]

I use the site as it is intended to be used.. to give opinions and ask questions. This isn’t a dating site.

[Asker]

I never implied it was a dating site.

I assume most people on here are people in the world of dating sex and love.

And thus, they come to this site to gain insights into the opposite gender.

Maybe that is only the men.

What are the women here for than?

[petitedollbabee]

Who knows, everyone is probably using this site for their own reasons. I can’t speak on why another woman is using the site.

[Asker]

It's easy to know why men use this site. We are trying to understand women. I can make that generalization very easily.

You are afraid to make generalizations and I understand that. But as a man, I understand men. We are all the same. We are all obsessed with women.

So excuse me if I search for generalizations. I can see them clearly coming from my perspective.

[CrimsonAngel09]

Did you know there is something called personality and being confident?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I wear make up everyday because I have bluish-grayish birthmarks on my face and while the make up doesn’t fully cover it, it still covers it decently.

[jennifer_bloom]

I try to eat lots of tomatoes and fruit and vegetables cause it helps you stay healthy. That is the main thing I do to attract men.

[Dinklex3]

I don’t do anything for random men.

If it’s MY man then I might wear something he likes or do my hair with him in mind. If he prefers a certain scent I have then I’ll use that.

[4ngelic]

i wear makeup for multiple reasons but one of them is to be cuter to dudes though. or else part of why i try to be skinny and look nice is for guys too

[Anemone978]

I don't try to be attractive to men I accept I ain't all that.. and there is nothing I can do but accept it.

[Apple1996]

I do this to be less attractive to men. No makeup, dress in trash clothes

[Asker]

Does it work? I always figure there is nothing you can do. We are going to like you no matter what you do.

[Apple1996]

Not really tbh but if I go out looking decent I will get hit on almost without fail. Men in my town are thirsty af

[Paris13]

Makeup is Good for Anyone when just Going Out, Regardless... Personality Highlights and Delights though. xxoo

[Mac-One]

Moderate makeup (lipstick and mascara) is ok. However any more looks like war paint. Natural is preferable and most attractive.

[leahzrc]

I am told I look like a minor at work by several people now so I do mascara to look more mature