i think this is the greatest advice you could give a guy, the best thing is though, try not to form an emotional attachment right away with the girl, mainly because otherwise, if you do get rejected, it'll seriously hurt you, go up, be bold, talk to the pretty girl right away, have a good conversation, like you would with a friend, get her number, or get her a drink, maybe chat, and just see how it plays out.
I feel so horrible that you had to make a MyTake about something that should be common sense. The rules NEVER change about how to make your interest known to women and even approach them... I agree with everything, of course.
There is a girl I know she's fairly stand-offish at times. She's really nonchalant and awkward. People have said we look like a couple and seem like a good match. should I wait till someone brings it up again so far it's the 3rd time this semester and it's only been 2 official weeks at school. Should I just wait for the next joke or what? when? What should I say?
Yeah, pretty much. @Roostah has a good take on this from the male perspective but I have a hard time finding it. These motivational takes always assume that the guys reading these look just like the guy in that meme. If you don't, you're screwed, man.
I remember when I was in high school I was beta af. I would get so worked up in my head and get timid lol. I just realized it's all in your head. People want to meet people, so focus on becoming more and more attractive and be confident.
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"So how exactly do you overcome this?"
I don't.
I am a thrill seeker and love doing extreme adrenaline activities and doing scary things but approaching women is just something I'm never going to be able to do. Bravery comes in many forms and bravery of talking to women is something I don't have nor ever will. It's just something I've learned to accept.
"But you can easily get over a rejection" Easier said than done. Look this is a good take and can help a lot of guys out there that struggle at it but I'm just saying for some of us it's just not going to happen at all.
It's not about being afraid of rejection. It's about putting yourself in a position where you prostrate yourself enough to be to even be rejected. Why put yourself in a position where a woman can decide whether you're good enough for her if you know damn well that you are? And I can see why women want want to be approached it flatters you to play judge and jury but I can't find a reason why man should want to approach her when it's played like that especially when he doesn't know anything about her other than he wants to fuck her face
i agree with everything except offering her a drink right off the bat. Lots of guys do this and its unimaginitive and doesn't really get you anywhere. What kinda girl says no to a free drink. If she accepts it, it doesn't necessarily mean that she is interested in you. Also I think its better if you give it to her as a reward if the conversation goes well rather than just rewarding her for doing nothing.
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I'm just gonna stick to what girls do and wait for someone to ask me out
If you have to actively think about what you're gonna say in the conversation, and try hard to say "the right thing", you're failing.
Also, I have a question: what if you wanna get to know the girl more before asking her out?
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i think in both genders the most important thing is assertiveness.
Being secure, having confidence is what it is needed in order to start something.
Careful, it doesn't mean to act like a jerk, that is false assertiveness, because most of the time it gets confused with the real assertiveness, real confidence.
I was all for this take until "if your fat or out of shape you better start hitting the gym" wow so ur one of those girls then, simple answer tho guys if she rejects you because of that then she isn't worth the time anyway
I'm not one of those girls but unfortunately that's just how society works, if you really want a relationship but you keep getting rejected because you're fat or out of shape then why don't you just do something about it and not to mention it's unhealthy as well.
I don't need to do anything about my weight I am in good shape, I train all the time but girls who make a big thing about it are clearly shallow Hun sorry to tell u but u r self centred and a bitch if that's the type of shit that matters most to you
Well by eye contact I don't mean stare at her creepily or just stare at her eyes throughout the whole thing. Move around a little and occasionally glance away. Besides if you think about it, where else could you possibly look; her boobs, stomach, legs, feet, the sky😕 not only would you look like a creep if you did those but she would probably think you're a weirdo as well.
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i think this is the greatest advice you could give a guy, the best thing is though, try not to form an emotional attachment right away with the girl, mainly because otherwise, if you do get rejected, it'll seriously hurt you, go up, be bold, talk to the pretty girl right away, have a good conversation, like you would with a friend, get her number, or get her a drink, maybe chat, and just see how it plays out.
i do agree with the eye contact and smiling part... but the conversation examples you gave were horrible!
Other than that solid take!
Your a smart cookie.
A younger version of ozanne? 😎
I hope the rejects take your advice here.
Ma baby @Ozanne 💏👄💋
Thank you, that means a lot :)
I feel so horrible that you had to make a MyTake about something that should be common sense. The rules NEVER change about how to make your interest known to women and even approach them... I agree with everything, of course.
There is a girl I know she's fairly stand-offish at times. She's really nonchalant and awkward. People have said we look like a couple and seem like a good match. should I wait till someone brings it up again so far it's the 3rd time this semester and it's only been 2 official weeks at school. Should I just wait for the next joke or what? when? What should I say?
The first thing when reading this was. Girl Alert from Inside out.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DYHkbOugcD0Once you get past that your fine :p. Be normal/human if physically possible :p
Or press the A button.
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The first four they was good at but pursuing further.. no 😔 that's a lovely take.
Thanks :) I guess I just got carried away 😐
That's nice and all, but I'm still far too shy to make the first move.
in my opinion women should start approaching too.
Don't worry it's overrated
Hello fellow 19 y/o. How are you doing? Nice take by the way
I'm fine and thank you :)
Be tall / handsome or face rejection. There is abundance of dicks, high competition and your chances are low.
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LOL that meme is gold! It says everything with such little effort.
@RandomUsername3464 : it's all BS "wisdom" of dating put in one image
Yeah, pretty much. @Roostah has a good take on this from the male perspective but I have a hard time finding it. These motivational takes always assume that the guys reading these look just like the guy in that meme. If you don't, you're screwed, man.
I remember when I was in high school I was beta af. I would get so worked up in my head and get timid lol. I just realized it's all in your head. People want to meet people, so focus on becoming more and more attractive and be confident.
"So how exactly do you overcome this?"
I don't.
I am a thrill seeker and love doing extreme adrenaline activities and doing scary things but approaching women is just something I'm never going to be able to do. Bravery comes in many forms and bravery of talking to women is something I don't have nor ever will. It's just something I've learned to accept.
So you're not even going to try? I mean what's the worst that could possibly happen.
Yes.
It can get pretty bad. I've seen some rejections go a lot worse than them just saying no.
But you can easily get over a rejection. Just because you've seen some bad rejection doesn't mean it'll happen to you as well.
"But you can easily get over a rejection" Easier said than done. Look this is a good take and can help a lot of guys out there that struggle at it but I'm just saying for some of us it's just not going to happen at all.
Oh well I guess nothing I say can make you think otherwise.
But remember there is always hope.
It's not about being afraid of rejection. It's about putting yourself in a position where you prostrate yourself enough to be to even be rejected. Why put yourself in a position where a woman can decide whether you're good enough for her if you know damn well that you are? And I can see why women want want to be approached it flatters you to play judge and jury but I can't find a reason why man should want to approach her when it's played like that especially when he doesn't know anything about her other than he wants to fuck her face
i agree with everything except offering her a drink right off the bat. Lots of guys do this and its unimaginitive and doesn't really get you anywhere. What kinda girl says no to a free drink. If she accepts it, it doesn't necessarily mean that she is interested in you. Also I think its better if you give it to her as a reward if the conversation goes well rather than just rewarding her for doing nothing.
I'm just gonna stick to what girls do and wait for someone to ask me out
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Good luck with that 😛
If you have to actively think about what you're gonna say in the conversation, and try hard to say "the right thing", you're failing.
Also, I have a question: what if you wanna get to know the girl more before asking her out?
i think in both genders the most important thing is assertiveness.
Being secure, having confidence is what it is needed in order to start something.
Careful, it doesn't mean to act like a jerk, that is false assertiveness, because most of the time it gets confused with the real assertiveness, real confidence.
Thank you for this. I'm so tired of guys doing takes on how to approach girls.
You're welcome :)
I was all for this take until "if your fat or out of shape you better start hitting the gym" wow so ur one of those girls then, simple answer tho guys if she rejects you because of that then she isn't worth the time anyway
I'm not one of those girls but unfortunately that's just how society works, if you really want a relationship but you keep getting rejected because you're fat or out of shape then why don't you just do something about it and not to mention it's unhealthy as well.
I don't need to do anything about my weight I am in good shape, I train all the time but girls who make a big thing about it are clearly shallow Hun sorry to tell u but u r self centred and a bitch if that's the type of shit that matters most to you
Well I think you'll be glad to know it doesn't.
Does this work , I mean making eye contact with a stranger the girl would think u r a prev.
Well by eye contact I don't mean stare at her creepily or just stare at her eyes throughout the whole thing.
Move around a little and occasionally glance away.
Besides if you think about it, where else could you possibly look; her boobs, stomach, legs, feet, the sky😕 not only would you look like a creep if you did those but she would probably think you're a weirdo as well.
Aha so that's what people mean by eye contact then lol I never done it just to be clear 😂
I need to work on the "Starting a conversation" part.. well more really on keeping the convo going as i'am a shy guy