Why guys stopped approaching and started to just sit and wait for us girls to come?

[Anonymous]

This is a fact, at least in my country (Portugal). Guys don't approach girls anymore, at least the good ones. They go to parties or wherever, and just stare and stare and stare at us girls, waiting for us to approach them.

This is so annoying and I am so sick of this. I'm very beautiful but I'm relaxed and funny. When I go out, I feel that almost every guy in the room is staring at me and looking at me. But not a single one comes to me.

Girls are so easy that we feel we don't need to do anything

I don't approach beautiful woman because I feel intimidated

I'm so hot, I don't need to approach, they come to me!

I'm shy by nature, it's part of my personality

Damn, I approach woman! You're not judging this right

[Guy_86]

You say you are very beautiful? Well, there is the first ''problem''. The vast majority of guys are intimidated by attractive girls. If you are always with friends, it makes it worse for them as guys are also intimidated by a group of girls.

You can always ''help'' them by making eye contact with and smiling or waving at one of the guys you too find attractive. He'd be an idiot if he did pick that up as a sign that he should say ''Hi''. Maybe move away from your friends when you do this so he will feel a little less intimidated.

Don't worry, there are guys out there that will not give a shit and well just walk up and say ''Hi'', but they are few.

[ilovchipmunk]

Vote F JESUS there are too many targets out there, which one should i hunt, maybe i suppose to consider it with a decade.
Vote G If staring one time have to be put in jail, now i should set out for my funeral
Vote H Why would i add one more flat on my bookkeeping
Vote I I can't go multitasking
Vote J uhmm , I'm one of those filmgoers, we all love to watch it, but no one like to shoot it.

[Whitewolf233]

I'm from the united states, Im 22, from the state if California, I stopped approaching girls because firstly, when I tried to go out of my way to approach girls, I get the impression that they see me as a creep and they feel harrassed, even though I had very good intentions, in the end i never intended to hurt or threatened them, I only wanted a relationship with them, and in a lot of cases, some women would laugh at the man for taking the initiative, there have been some cases where the woman called the police on a man and told the police that she felt harrassed, even though they had good intentions

the second reason why I stopped approaching is because why did women in my country as for equality when they can do the approaching too, no one is preventing them to approach the guys they like, no one is stopping them from asking a guy out, women can participate take the initiative just as much as men, if women have the energy to go find a job and work, if women have the energy to go to college, study and get a certificate and graduate, if women can make friends and maintain those friendships, if women have the productivity to do all those things, then where is that same productivity when it comes to finding a man and form a relationship with him? If you want something done, then do it yourself,

The third reason why I stopped is being rejected over and over and over again, science says that men can take rejection, but men are not built to take rejection over and over and over again,

In conclusion, if you want a relationship then you do the approaching, see what it's like to walk a mile in a man's shoes, because men are done approaching women, decades ago it was men who did the approachin, now things are different, men stopped approaching because women dont know how to appreciate men anymore, and remember to keep your standards at a realistic level, because a lot of women have unrealistic standards, and reject all men who dont fit into their unrealistic expectations, this is just my speculation, and plus you have nothing to loose by approaching a guy, and taking the initiative,

[Viperkiss]

For me I've noticed that woman act so standoffish that guys stop approaching or start to do it in an over-the-top way, the 'I don't give a f***' way.
In order to get just a date most guys must go through a lot of rejection. After a bunch of bad rejections, guys sort of give up. I know lots of good looking, great guys who have given up, and have started to think its futile.
Women: be nice about your rejection. It takes a lot of courage for most guys to approach.

[Modernhippy]

It's scary for a number of reasons I'll never be intimidated by a woman but the reality is your really throwing urself out there nowadays. She may have a boyfriend, she may be lesbian, she may just not be into you. And even if she is if you don't do things right your a creep and not only ruined things with her but all her friends. So it ain't that simple and it's better just to not do it really.

[cth96190]

Interesting post about what you have experienced in Portugal.
Here in Australia most of the young women are unapproachable ice princess bitches, who compete with each other to see who can be the most cruel when they reject an advance by a man.
After a while, most men just give up. If you kick a dog often enough it learns to stay away.

[cth96190]

I should add that the women become more approachable and even begin to approach men once they get past the age of 30 to 35, but by then a lot of men have had a gutful as we say in Australia and have gone their own way. This is reflected in the client base of introduction agencies. In the 18 to 35 age range there are five females to every male. Between age 35 and 40 this reverses to five females to every male.

[Anonymous]

It's feminism's fault. But even if women admit it and decide to get rid of it, it's probably too late now. Masculinity has been lost forever

[ThisAndThat]

I approach them all the time but all I ever hear is I'm only 20 and you are over 50 lol.

[Anonymous]

I don't approach women at all. I simply do not care. That's why.