Girls, would you delete your current ex that you still have feelings for? (Page 2)

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Would you keep them in your Facebook/Instagram or whatever website that everyone can see you guys are still virtual friends? Or would you take them off because you wouldn't want to see them seeing someone new, etc. I personally did not move on in that level and my ex hasn't either... so far as I know... but he still gets flirty comments and other pictures from other girls which p*sses me off! Do you think it's worth me taking him off so I can not be p*ssed off at him or should I just leave him? What would you do? Has anyone gone through this? We have mutual friends so I know they will notice and might 'talk'. I would also hate to lose him because I still love him and this would be our form of communication other than a phone. Of course these social networking sites seem to be the death of relationships sometimes in this age.  So do you delete them? Wait it out and might add them back? Or keep them?

RiaRia · Answer

After my ex broke up with me, I decided to still be friends with him online. Big mistake.. I found myself stalking him and viewing the flirty comments he left on other girls wall(one of them was 34!).

It was then that I came to a conclusion. It only hurt me to have him as a friend on Facebook and such. He reacted surprised, but I didn't care. It was my decision. As it is yours if you want to keep your ex as a friend on Facebook/MySpace. But my advice is to cut him out of your life completely. Have you tried out no contact. It's the best tool to heal yourself ;)

Another advice is to try out a new relaxing activity, like meditating or long walks. Those two things helped me a lot

And about the fact that you have mutual friends. Friends are friends. If they know better, they would understand. ^^

I hope this advice helped.

CuddlyCarla · Answer

Honestly, there are 6 billion people on the planet. I don't understand why people keep rehashing the same small circle of old friends and ex's, as if there isn't an unlimited future pool of possibilities. Just because you have a social networking site doesn't mean you are obligated to use it or add everyone. Do what works for you. If it sucks for you to see updates you don't want, then don't add them. No pressure.

rach333 · Answer

Right now I would say delete him.  Especially if you still love him.  I know this may sound crazy. However, I kept my ex on my top friends on MySpace.  It really hurt when I saw his comments and stuff to other girls even if they were just friends.  It also hurt to see him having fun and going to parties with our mutual friends without me.  Then one day he deleted me from his friends.  That hurt the most because we promised we would still be friends with each other after the breakup, and having him on my friends list still meant that he was part of my life.  But I also realized that it must have been really hurting him, too, knowing that I was trying to move on with my life and I was letting him know on MySpace in little hints.  So for right now I would say delete him for a while, then when things calm down you can add him back if you both want.  But right now I think it would do you both some good to delete each other so you both don't suffer by seeing each other's updates.

Roald · Answer

At first, I feel like deleting them. But it's a bad behaviour. Just face the situation: As long as you find speaking to that person harmful, remaining the break-up, don't use it, if contacted, just reply politely: "no thanks for the moment". When you are ready, reconsider it.

Anonymous · Answer

Facebook ruined my relationship, kept me from getting a job, and makes my ex girlfriend look like a total attention whore slut. I deleted my entire Facebook.

Anonymous · Answer

I took my ex off and deleted all pictures and comments that he ever sent me on Facebook. I also took him off my IM and my phone contacts. Although he did some pretty stupid sh*t to me and used me. I was really mad at him, but still loved him somehow. Now that I have deleted him, I feel loads better. And if you do do it, it is best to say you don't want to talk anymore because it is hurting you. Otherwise it might be confusing and unfair to him if he thought you were friends.

Anonymous · Answer

You can actually set your FB newsfeed to not show stories about certain people. My ex is on my friend list, but he doesn't usually show up in my newsfeed because I have his stories blocked. The only way he shows up is because we have many mutual friends, so if all of they get tagged in a photo or something, he'll show up through them (but that would be true even if he wasn't on my friend list).

coolmaaz · Answer

If you love him then don't delete him because he might come back to you. But if you want to move on then delete him.

Anonymous · Answer

Deleteing him will help you get over him.  But if you still love him, I would wait a little bit (a few months) and then if it still causes you pain, I would delete him.  He may even come back to you after that, realizing that you never want to see him or his Facebook page again.  You never know.

Nitney · Answer

keep, life moves on. you might get back together you might not. either way you have to deal with the fact they are still a person. So no I do not delte mine.

The-Dude-Next-Door · Answer

On Facebook I am friends with my ex, but I don't have feelings for her. I even talk to her from time to time. Just keep him on your friends list.

It's actually more awkward to delete a friend then add him back later.

chihiro_21 · Answer

I’m not sure. I feel like the best thing would be to delete them, but I also know I’d probably regret that later. So as far as Instagram, I’d probably mute their posts and stories.

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itsweird182 · Answer

I deleted my one and only ex of both of MySpace and Facebook because I didn't want to be tempted to look at her page to see if she was dating someone new.

thebrian420 · Answer

If its upsetting you then delete him. You can always add him again if you guys hook back up. Or if you get really curious you can look him back up and see his profile unless its set to private

sexy_stef · Answer

I ve gone through this situation a lot of times.

Since you are still friends and have a good friend relationship I think you should leave him in friends and that mghit even leave a little clue that you still care for him even if you had broke up.

MrSchneider · Answer

if your with someone new youd better delete them in a hurry id get mighty upset if someone did that to me, I don't care if its Facebook or MySpace

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davena90 · Answer

i would delete them..i wouldn't want to see them..and its easier to get over them because if you see them on the sites all the time..u will think bout the ex too much...

omgjeez · Answer

DELETE HIM! I deleted my ex boyfriend off mine and I blocked him from my phone and I'm not crying or sad anymore. I feel better and I'm moving on. you should do the same

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