For me, if I lock eyes with someone I wish I hadn't, I'll usually keep looking down, and avoid more eye contact so they don't get the wrong idea. The eye contact usually won't happen more than once, and it'll be a super quick glance.
However, if I lock eyes with someone that I think is attractive, I'll generally keep trying to lock eyes with them (in the most non-creepy way as possible, haha) to show that I'm interested/think they're cute. If they keep locking eyes with me back, instead of looking away, there's a chance they're interested as well. It's a lot about reading body language too: If they keep making eye contact with you, it's a good sign-- but that's not the ONLY sign. Are they giving you a little smile? Is their body facing toward you rather than away? How long do you guys hold contact? Are they quick "what's that person doing, what are they looking at?" glances, or longer "is that cutie looking at me?" glances? It's all about reading ques! I've noticed that the more you catch them looking at you, the more it usually means that they're interested. If you think someone might be interested but are confused by their signs, you can subtly try to see if they're looking at you when you're not looking (aka, "checking you out"... both genders do it, haha).
If it helps you any, this method worked with me the other day. I saw a really cute bag-guy at the grocery store and I realized we were both making quick glances up at each other, so I took that as a queue that maybe he thought I was cute and I smiled at him a little... and then he came to my line and tied my bag in a cute bow and gave me a wink, haha.
Oh you can tell the difference alright. When you both lock eyes it's really weird. It's like you're there but you're not actually there while staring at them. You two both could be walking pass each other but your eyes are still focusing on each other. It's really weird and somewhat of a "soul connection thing." if you catch a person looking and you look back, it's an embarrassing moment rather than a strange moment. Normally if a person catches you staring they will not lock eyes with you for a long amount of time because that person will automatically look away out of embarrassment of being caught.
That's what I said too. I thought I just experienced this. I can't explain it but it feels warm and cool.
Omg yes this... the whole world stops for a moment. It's really quite intimate.
@dazedandconfused22 IKR so true :) gng through this atm with my crush cuz he's shy its kinda hard and so am i shy as well but he locked eyes for like 4 sec 1 week ago then today for like 2 sec i looked away cuz its like i suddenly snapped out of it. i felt like i lost into his eyes haha xD i ike tho!! does that mean he could like me? considering his mate also once teased him about me saying that he'd like a girlfriend n awl :)
If they look longer than 2 seconds and they look seemingly curious then maybe they're attracted or if they smile at you. Their pupils get really big if they have that "seemingly curious" look.
Well, if they quickly look away or their facial expression is the same as when you started staring, they're just staring back because you looked.
These are just some tricks to tell but, if you don't totally creep them out by staring, I'd say start up a conversation with them, that's the best way to know!
Does it really matter? Ultimately what you wanna know is: "is there a possibility my penis will get put in any of their holes witnin a couple days?" Cutout the drama of wondering and ask if they are checking you out. They might not be so be prepared but I know its nothing for the male species to find another hole
Well aren't you the pessimist.
Nope. Once you cut out all the dramatic questions in your mind... thats the reality of it. ;)
i dont like this girl.. she seems... bitchy... know it all... mean...
Thanks Vanilla. I am impressed with your ability to claim "you do not like me" based off of one aspect I shared an opinion on. Do you do that to everyone? Not like them for a difference of opinion? What you probably are meaning (and I will be optimistic) is "I dont like what this girl is saying. " Here sweety... let me apologize for offending you and your ego. ;)
bahaha i like this
@VanillaSalt be honest. You don't really like her cause she's real as fuck.
It's though to know for sure man.
Sometimes I look away immediately even though I'm highly attracted to the girl. I guess because I don't want her to see how obviously thirsty I am. :p
I've also had a lot of lloong staring contests with girls on the metro and often times I'm the one who looks away first because I feel ashamed for staring and I think I'm making her uncomfortable. Then I look back and she's still staring at me. But their expression is often neutral. If she was smiling it would be easier to know, but when people just stare at you without any facial cues it's like impossible to know what goes on in their head.
I'm pretty sure some girls stare just because they like making guys go paranoid or something. Some probably stare at guys they find ugly, funny or weird looking. Or they stare because you have something on your face, or because you look familiar. And some are just day dreaming and aren't even really looking at you lol. So without the obvious smile/blush cues it's impossible to be certain.
Never look away first. Subconsciously it shows submissiveness which is a turn off for most women. Always let her look away first. If you do look away look up or up and to the side as though somthing called your attention. Never look down- Sign of submissiveness again. Keep your eyes on her- she will look away (usually down) 'submitting' to your gaze.
Easy, if the eyes come back up to look at you. Always grin, nod your head and watch until she looks away first. Movies are great to show what you're looking for. The reaction shots. If she just immediately returns to focus with her friends without a change in her body language she's likely not into you. If she has to take a second to regroup, look down, shift her position to starighten up, to be more attractive, brush her skirt in a grooming fashion quickly it means she's seeing herself to be presentable. So it's all in what happens after. And she could be attracted and not show it, and if she's not showing that reaction she's going to be a hard sell such as having a boyfriend or something. If she DOES you can walk by and kneel a little and apologize for staring say something like "Sorry if you caught me staring, there was this scene in a movie you reminded me of. But this is our movie. you should tell me about you." Most of all be yourself. I included a brief NLP part in this sentence.
That line sounds too perfect don't use. It will make you come off as a player just sayinng.
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If there's attraction, it lasts longer and is more intense
Well you can tell. It depends how long the eye contact is. Well for me I stared at this girl I liked in my class and she stared back at me and it lasted for a few seconds. Well I went to the mall and saw her working at DQ and while I was walking to DQ I noticed her and we both had eye contact. Her eyes seemed sparkly, dilated, and beautiful. It's just a feeling I can't explain. You just feel something like a connection when there is flirting or attraction and it makes you feel warm. Well at least in my case lol
that's so cute ^_^
That was cute. I was like awwww I want a guy to look at me and describe my eyes as sparkly and beautiful
oh dear god ima barf LOL
dude throwing lines like that arounds gonna get you laid quite often XD
I had an experience that was like that. The bar was very dark and I caught a girl's eyes. It was so dark that I couldn't see anything of her other than the eye flash. I was leaving that city that night so I was not interested in picking up a girl.
But there was quite a series of eye contact events. Overall she seemed to hold eye contact longer and seemed to sense when I was vaguely looking in her direction. Had I been in my own city and single I would have investigated.
I don't think you can tell. It is possible to make eye and to be conscious of it and they check to see who's looking at them and ditto for you. There is a self reinforcing aspect to it.
Just wondering if this question is still active.
I had a recent eye locking experience & it was unexpected. We were saying farewell to each other in front of family. I gave a handshake, he then held my hand in both his hands, for a bit too long. We ended up locking eyes and he started communicating through his eyes, conveying his farewell and assuring his protectiveness. He looked at me later, like I was more important than anyone around and conveyed, that he is there for me strongly. I felt really vulnerable (due to my situation) I leaned in slowly and placed my cheek on his cheeks.
I felt a strong bond, a strong connection based on trust and confidence that nothing could shake it. Our family was quiet and just watching us.
I would like to know your interpretations as I quite liked what I have read below and would like to know is this attraction or more (and I don't know how to define it)
If its just locking eyes for a brief moment, checking each other out, usually look away very quickly. If you notice her looking again and you make eye contact don't be the first to look away, eye contact is a good body language sign for attraction. I love having a conversation with someone your interested in and staring into each others eyes its a beautiful feeling and definitely attraction, jujst don't look away first!!
The length of the contact and facial cues. If its short like an oops thats awkward and then they stop looking, it was probably a mistake. If she kept making eye contact and looking at you then she probably finds you appealing. If it lasts long enough for you to notice the time passing then she's either daydreaming or is into you. And facial cues so like a smile is a giveaway or blushing
I wish this was true but I doubt it's always the case.
Oh you WILL KNOW. A person isn't just going to stare at you if they're not attracted or interested in you. The last thing you want to do is give someone you don't like the wrong impression.
You'll feel it though... The attraction in their eyes once you do lock eyes for an extended period. I recently experienced the same thing. Dude is sooo hot and he KNEW what he was doing. He's gotten me under his spell... *sigh*
I think u should approach her if you like her! Don't be one of those guys that just wonder... and stares! The girl will never if u don't approach her !! It really bothers me when guys play games!!! Don't poke me or wait for me to past by !! Get the nerves and talk to me !! And if you can't do that then what of post this question !
So to be clear, you doing nothing is perfectly acceptable?
Alright guilt as charge !! Yes that is what I am saying,! I am shy and still believe that the man is suppose to hunt for the women !! Lol I also say so from experience bc I had plenty guys looking at me and such... I never knew if he like me... bc I thought he was going to ask me... so there's my POV !
I find if they look away quickly, either down or away, they are attracted to you. This is not %100. also Try to notice if she sends super discreet glances, if you get several, she wants you to make a move. Start with "Hi, how are you?" to really test if she is into you, her response will tell you everything.
what I've found is people tend to be more interested too when you are ok with yourself and being single when you aren't sat there moaning about having noone
things just seem to fall into place and all these shitty love advice things dont even matter because you can't tell if someone likes you by googling a set of criteria
I would say if when you look at her, she stares for a while. Then if she smiles while your eyes are locked. Finally, if it occurs more than once. Then I say it's definitely mutual attraction. If she stares once looks away, then she is just glancing. Women look too, but interested women, keep looking... Hope this helps.
Because one is just that when you lock eyes you communicate with each other right then and there you are speaking to each other through your eyes if you just catch a glance between each other's eyes that's just saying hi that's it when you lock eyes you are doing communication
Well I don't know but I always thought if it was locking eyes it lasts a while. When this happens to me with a guy I like (and this has only happened to me with like 4 guys in my life) everything slow downs for a minute and I just focus on him dono how to explain it.
It used to happen all the time with this one guy but he was also always staring at me too.
There are no stats or figures for this type of answer. If the eye contact was out of attraction then it will hold for a few seconds and feel quite intense, like when your in a club and you catch a girls eye across the dance floor. If it was you just looking at each other it will be quite brief with no feeling.
when one catches another person looking, its like an awkward feeling and you tend to look away ones the person knows you're staring at them.
locking eyes out of mutual attraction, you tend to just gase into each others eyes for a long time, without looking away, without a blink, just forgeting about your surrounding and the people just, and just focusing on that person
Almost exactly what I said lol so true
I look for subtle changes in expression. A guy just looking back or staring into space will probably just stare blankly at me.
An attracted guy would do things like raise his eyebrows, part his lips a little, copy my body language, jaw drop, etc.
Look for a change, because that shows you have an effect on the other person.
Well, try this: When and if you suspect they are looking at you, look into their eyes and smile, holding their gaze just a little longer than usual. Their reaction will usually be a dead give away after that.
Good luck! @DoubleC
i guess the frequency, the more u both keep doing it the more u both like each other.
i liked a guy who didn't like me back but one time i was coming out of a room and he was coming inside and he locked eyes for a good 3-4 seconds but it didn't mean much after all cause eventually he rejected me.
I don't smile much at strangers, attraction or not. Sometimes I can sense attraction on her part, or isn't. Sometimes, I just don't know. The times my judgment is usually spot on are when I find the girl looking back at me numerous times after after I spotted her eyeing me the first time. these girls rarely smile.
Well I think of someone was caught looking at someone else they'd look away with embarrassment but if attraction is involved, I think they would look a little longer and look back more frequently.
if he gives you that flirtatious look, then he finds you attractive but if he gives that confuse look or he gives that "why are you looking at me look" then the other caught each other looking at the other
I think it's the same thing, because if you catch someone looking, why were you looking there in the first place, right? Right. You catching my drift here?
Nice Metroid icon
You can't really tell, there isn't much of a difference. But if the person quickly looks away, then they were probably staring at you. But if they hold their gaze they're probably just 'thinking in your direction'
I love this. I have no idea but it's just made me really happy!! This question is almost as awkward as me. :)
My opinion is that if you or the girl notice the other looking at you and the girl doesn't look away, then she isn't interested. I say this because it's common body language for a girl to look down when she shy or nervous being around you because she's attracted to you.
if you feel some sort of attraction, or if you can sense some sort of sexual tension, than it's possible it's attraction rather than just catching the person staring.
Biggest thing: if you lock eyes and one of the two people look away it doesn't always mean they're attracted, but most likely, if you hold that gaze, there may be some attraction there.
For me I think it's an attraction if I catch you looking at me and I don't look away and just give a coy smile. If I get caught looking and I'm not interested you can tell in my body language.
Oh I can tell the difference. If it's for attraction you'd lockk eyes for a few seconds. If you catch someone staring randomly they would look away immediately.
unless they don't want it to be obvious that they were looking
I don't give a guy a second glance unless I think he's hot.
I wouldn't want someone to date me if they didn't find me attractive & I certainly don't think someone I didn't find attractive would want to date me. You kind of need sexual attraction. Doesn't mean I'd turn a guy down if I didn't find him hot though. I've dated a 50 year old who most people would say is kind of not very attractive, but I loved who he was.
mutual attraction will involve a smile too. However not always because some people are too shy to smil
This type of question makes me so glad not to live in America. I don't know how you can live with such shallow mentality coming from the media and people. I know I wouldn't cope.
I had that happend to me a lot when i was crush in this one guy back in high school we would locked eyes all the time. How would you not tell the difference? Is placed at each other.
I would say if the person you lock eyes wish looks at you a second time... directly at you and you have nothing odd on or about you they are attracted.
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Dude I don't think you can tell. I recently was told that my sisters friend had eyes for me, after she just married some other dude. I had no idea, even though I had eyes for her too.
If it's because of attraction, you'll lock eyes for like 2-3 seconds minimum. If not, then maybe it wasn't attraction, maybe she was just looking the same place where to you were.
It depends how long it takes one you to look away. The longer the eye contact is held, the more comfortable you are with eachother
If they look confused or if they're intently staring at you with a sort of smile behind their eyes. that's the difference between the two.
For me, it is the internal "slow burn" that a persons locking eyes creates within me, which, when
mutual, is usually followed by his or her compliments about my face and body.
ie: Im bisexual :P
Attraction is when she looks away and then looks back
if smile, liked, or if 2-4 seconds good but longer just staring and shorter just saw and stopped
Just a feeling. Also, if you have mutual attraction, you can lock the gaze and the other person will start smiling eventually.
You're pretty much splitting hairs at this point. Quit worrying about what ifs, and just go talk to em.
Usually its the signals that come afterwards, so lock eyes persist maybe smile see their reaction initiate convo etc
If the girl or the guy slightly smiles, even a slightest hint, then it is mutual attraction. Tried and tested my friend.
If they keep on looking at you.. ik a guy who would raise his eyebrows and smile or do goofy things to get my attention 😝
Using eye contact as a way to figure out interest doesn't work as well as knowing the person and the way they talk you you.
Attraction usually has other signs. Dilated pupils, touching of hair and face, flushing of skin (blushing), smiling, double takes.
Bottom line is, women like confidence in a man. Just go out and talk to her, and be classy. Don't give her a line. Be honest and streight forward. Tell her you find her attractive. Don't come up with bs excuses for talking to her. Respect her intelligence. Look her in the eyes, not boobs. Be yourself from the beginning. (I feel like I'm writing a book). Don't hesitate. You may miss out on the greatest romance of the century.
Good luck.
(How I love young romance).
You can tell by their facial expression. They stare into your eyes. That isn't normal. It's like her eyes brighten up to your presence.
you can't. eyes are eyes. you can't tell that one is happy just by the millimeter it has dilated.
It's really hard. You really can't. It's just a feeling
If she also locks eyes back on me then I think it is mutual attraction. But still hard to tell
You can tell when they sort of smile after the first glance, look away, and then look right back.
if you're shy. then you would probably look away. even if you have feelings for the other person. it isn't exactly a full-proof way to tell.
My husband doesn't look me in the eyes. He's always staring at my tits.
I don't, and the doubts are killinnggg me right now!!!
I have quite frankly no idea. However, I do always assume the second as it is the safer and more probable reason.
You can't, because there's no difference really.
She either really hates you or likes u. So dont hesitate. Hold eye contact, act like ur goin to her, n swith lanes. Lounge around, n casualy walk up to her n start the chase.
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