What does it mean when a guy suddenly starts sending you short texts?

[Anonymous]

I've met his friends, some of his family, he talks about visiting me at a place sometime this year (as I'm moving away for a bit) he holds my hand in public, makes sure I get home safely, we laugh together all the time etc. My problem is lately his texts, randomly have been very very blunt. Why?

[Blacklighthoney]

He may be having a difficult time processing the fact that you are moving away! In his mind he needs to mentally prepare for life without you in it daily. Things are changing for you both. If you both pursue a LDR things will definitely be different. Your social life, your sexual activity, everything you both did together is about to change and people don't handle change all that well. Just talk to him, not by text. He needs to know in his mind things are going to be alright. His heart is breaking... put the situation on the other foot and it was you who had to deal with losing him for a little while... how would you respond?

[unbothered]

You two seem to be building a genuine friendship. If that is the case, then why not just ask him about it? let him know in a gentle and nonassuming way that you've noticed that he seems "short on words" these days. Ask him if there's anything bothering him, not bothering him about you, but just in general. You may learn that he's stressed , maybe having some family or personal issues or otherwise upset and if he is your friend and you genuinely care about each other then it shouldn't be an issue for you to simply raise the question. xoxo

[veronica44]

Thanks beautiful. Could I say something slightly playful like 'not too talkative today huh?'

[a_person_]

his texts have shortened

because...

he is slowly

loosing

interest.

bring his interest back?

ignore him.

he will start to wonder what happened

and slowly

gain

interest.

good luck ignoreing him is not easy.

REMEMBER:
if he talks to you be polite, but dont start the conversation. not until his interest is back.

[veronica44]

The strange thing is he keeps texting me, but they are short answers. So I have stopped speaking to him, last message was him and I left it at that and then he snapchatted me. I've ignored that too. As I've said to someone else

[a_person_]

good good 👍👍

[veronica44]

Should I move on from him?

[a_person_]

yes but if he comes back leave just a strand of him still in your heart

[Zendrya]

My boyfriend gives me short texts when he is playing World of Warcraft... Could be playing a video game and trust me texting and playing video games is hard :p I can't do it unless I find a moment where there isn't much happening.

[hominid98]

There can be many reasons-
1. He might be bored of texting (cause I find it actually tiresome)
2. He's trying to ditch you
3. Trying to increase his worth ( that actually worked cause you asked this question relating to him)
4. Or trying to starve you out so that he may get in bed with you easily.
etc...
My advice- You dump him and move on
\m/

[BabyImAUFO]

How often do you text?

I flatout ignored this one woman (whom i really liked), because she texted way too much.
I'm not into being on a phone a lot, texting when you can call or just spend time with is annoying.
and a great way for miscommunication.

I don't know, since you didn't indicate something else, that's my guess!

[veronica44]

He would usually text me every day, and started basically all the conversations.

[BabyImAUFO]

Ask him whats going on, be honest. Look whats up we were texting everyday like this and now nothing Whats up

[JustMeYeah]

You're moving away. Maybe that has some sort of thing to do with it. For example, I recently moved across the country. There was one guy that we both had quite a huge thing for each other. Well he found out I was moving and when I saw him at work I was trying to tell him that I was leaving and I'll see him later. He wouldn't let me though. He seemed rather upset/mad about it. And he ignored me. That could be what is going on with him. Just an idea.

[veronica44]

Okay thanks :)

[whirlyGirl93]

It's probably nothing. As girls we get annoyed and think more of this but if you're on that "more than a friend' category then he probably won't want to text "his girl" all the time. As long as he's not like that in person then I'm sure it's fine
We girls tend to read into things and over analyze too much which makes us look like
Taylor Swift in Blank Space

[Byakuyarko]

maybe he is getting frustrated as he wants more than a platonic relationship and he is checking your response to him withdrawing and being curt... Turn the poor bloke down... properly. tell him "You're cool but I would ever want to date you"... end his suffering... You owe it to the poor sod as a friend

[pyramid_princess]

As long as he is not acting differently towards you or seeing you less, i wouldn't be too concerned. Sometimes as a relationship progresses, people tend to text less anyway.
Dont read too much into it, or over think things at this stage.

[marissab81896]

My ex started doing that before our relationship ended and I think it was because he had a lot on his mind and when he went to break up with me it would be almost a clean break from me texting him everyday

[Zachary1317]

He doesn't want to commit if you are going away for a period of time. Which means he wants to keep his options open for the short term. Which means he most likely is looking for sexual benefits and instant gratification.

[QuestionGuy221]

I'm a guy and personally my friends do the same I mean but you gotta watch out I mean he can either be bored or tired and doesn't feel like texting but just watch the text for a few days and how he acts around you and if u notice anything different than be straight up and ask him

[DancingWithDragons]

Lost interest or is busy/something on his mind. If you're really gonna make such a big deal then just ask him

[theepill]

It means he is either: Busy, not interested in talking or doesn't feel it needs elaborate messaging to convey his point

[Klaatu51]

why someone must text a lot since he can say what is needed briefly?

[cooldudex]

lol. hahahahahaha

[lisagreen]

were his text blunt in a cold way or a sexy way. Write me private i have an idea for you.

[Asker]

Cold in a sexy way? What do you mean sorry

[lisagreen]

blunt can mean like with a sexual hint, or blunt can mean I got no time for you and don't want to waste time. which?

[Asker]

It was a bit of both actually. To some of my texts, he said 'what?'

[Anonymous]

He is probably trying to kill the conversation like in that moment he's busy so he doesn't want to text I'm sure he wants to talk he's just busy :)

[_IMAGIRLSOYEAH_]

I agree with@Error_204 he is probably bored or uninterested

[matheus_mb]

Yes, you have. Just don't reply when he sends you texts like those.

[Dontbeafwb]

I only experienced this when my relationships were on the wind down.

[Bossmorr]

Maybe because he doesn't like texting to many words. Most guys don't like flooding girls with text,.. it's just not cool.

[apple24]

just ignore him. He no longer cares about you. Why would I give my time of day to something that doesn't love me back.

[veronica44]

No longer cares about me? He texted me the other day saying happy new year, I think he would have to care about me a little bit in order to say that.

[apple24]

oh, so you want someone to care about you just a little bit? Girl please, just cuz he sent one thing does not make it okay to be ignored. I made that mistake before and it just end up hurting more.

[kellytheman]

He not sure what to say and trying to talk to u as much he can. He very interested into u and seeing if u can be more than friends

[ChaTango]

When you text so much.. or talk so much.. you run out of things to talk about. Short responses come from just generally wanting to carry on the convorsation. Its an annoying cycle.. but being so blunt about things.. I dont view as a problem.

[veronica44]

What do you mean sorry short responses come from just generally wanting to carry on the conversation? Wouldn't it be the opposite?

[ChaTango]

Meaning that he doesn't know what to say bc there's nothing else to talk about. If he didn't wanna talk hed ignore but ig he feels the need to reply. I've had this same senario happen to me

[ToneGotFlowz]

I agree with this. I do this to my fiance more often than not. She texts so damn much and I know she wants to talk still where it will get to the point im saying things like "Oh yea?" "Cool" "What?" "..." "Yes" "No" Lol you get the idea. I wouldn't say its anything to worry about unless the attitude has changed. If he's being a complete jackass then its more than likely taken a turn for the worse, if not, I wouldn't worry.

[jebsb]

Most likely it means he wants to get in your pants.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's just getting comfortable with you and doesn't feel the need to send lengthy messages anymore.

[veronica44]

True. As I said to someone else the strange thing is he keeps texting me, but they are short answers. So I have stopped speaking to him, last message was him and I left it at that and then he snapchatted me. I've ignored that too.

[Opinion Owner]

Well at least you know he's still interested in you, so that's not a problem

[Anonymous]

His fingers are getting sore...

It might not necessarily indicate anything. Are they consistently shorter than they used to be? Are yours of a similar length to when you started texting?

[masm64]

They are just text messages. If you two get on well with each other in person then what the hell :)

[veronica44]

Best answer! So true.

[Anonymous]

He probably isn't a "texter" meaning he doesn't reply on his phone to express him self , dont worry

[Anonymous]

Past experiences offer this
lazy
stupid
so don't worry, maybe you say "what?" a lot as well

[gapminder]

That's how most guys roll. Texting takes too much damn time.

[WhaChaChaKing]

Maybe he's busy? Or I don't know he could be bored. I hope it's the former.

[Libranites]

He is into something else at the time you are texting him. That's why they are short. What he is into doesn't allow him to text you like he used to.

[Mecurious]

Usually it's another girl!

[Anonymous]

Nothing about you, he's probably just busy, call him, or ask if he wants to call.

[Error_204]

he is either bored or feels obligated

[Dontbeafwb]

This one! He's just toying with you. Surprise his ass by blocking him on everything. Mr ego will take a hit

[Asker]

Bored of me or the texting? We haven't slept together or talked about feelings of such and it's been about 2-3 months.

[Dontbeafwb]

Bored of everything

[iExalt]

He wants to slowly break off the relationship without hurting you.

[BlairUnofficiall]

I'm a guy and it usually means I'm not interested , tired , or busy. Sorry.

[bwiffy]

could be busy? try calling and listen to the tone of his voice. That should tip you off

[Venomskeet]

He's bothered by something

[veronica44]

By what?

[Winterblade200]

Doesn't want to take the time to write it out

[wintergirl86]

How much have you seen him drink usually?

[Anonymous Asker]

As in, does he drink most weekends or when I'm with him, does he drink?

[wintergirl86]

Yes.

[Anonymous Asker]

Which one haha?

[wintergirl86]

How much does he drink all together? Does he drink every day? A lot on weekends?

[Anonymous Asker]

He drinks most weekends from what I'm aware of!

[wintergirl86]

Ask his family if he has a drinking problem. If so you have something bigger to deal with.

[LousyLoudMusic]

he is either bussy, or he has lost interest.

[auljackoftrades]

He lost interest. It happens, move on.

[been_waiting]

How did you gather that from his drunk texts?
I

[auljackoftrades]

He should feel the desire to want to 'chase' you a bit, and if he cared he would've noticed your unsettledness and stopped.

[veronica44]

The strange thing is he keeps texting me, but they are short answers. So I have stopped speaking to him, last message was him and I left it at that and then he snapchatted me. I've ignored that too.

[auljackoftrades]

From a guy's perspective, it now sounds like he's being one sided with his interest. He needs to give you your space and think more about where you're coming from. I think you did the right thing. Give it some time, and maybe he'll come to his senses.

[veronica44]

What do you mean being one sided with his interest?

[Marrryyyyy]

i'd ask him about it. he could be losing interest.

[Error_204]

you did the right thing

[miserybusiness]

error go home, you're drunk

[Error_204]

Why am I here... twice.

[Anonymous]

He is going to dump you from his shortlisted list.

[cooldudex]

thats what i do, haha

[Mecurious]

This is 100 percent accurate!

[armleg]

I wouldn't say 100%. He might just have anxiety issues, but then again you haven't been treating him like a Dalit so either you're a decent gal or he's playing you Sweet pea!

[penetrationstation]

Lost intrest