Girls, when a guy asks you to hang out and/or for your phone number, what do you usually think he means? (Page 2)

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--I want to emphasize that no one is being vilified here, and I don't want a gender war. I just want honest answers to have a better understanding--

About a week ago I spoke to a girl I had seen at a cafe a couple of times. I had chatted with her a little bit casually, and she seemed to be receptive to talking to me. So when I saw her there a week ago while I was having a small meal alone at a table, I went to her and said, "If it's not too forward of me, could I ask if you'd like to hang out sometime?" She said yes, that it was not too forward, and offered me her phone number (and full name).

We weren't able to meet until yesterday, where we had a nice conversation outside another cafe and seemed to be getting along well. Then, towards the end, she mentioned something about a boyfriend. So I waited a few minutes and asked her about what she had said, and she said she had a boyfriend, and that she assumed I just wanted to hang out as friends.

I brushed it off like it was no big deal, I smiled and didn't look visibly upset, but I was pretty disappointed. It didn't occur to me that she wouldn't think I was asking her out for a relationship.

To the question itself: Girls, if a guy by himself came up and asked you if you wanted to hang out and/or if you wouldn't mind giving him your phone number, would you think he was looking for a friend, or asking you out? Be honest about it, please. I want to know what to say.

Guys, feel free to talk about your own knowledge or experiences.

LittleSally · Answer

Date or a friend - either way. Depends on the choice of words, on his posture, on the actual places he chose to meet up... On a lot of things.

Oddhonesty · Answer

I'd assume he had motives that aren't pure if he wants to hang out and the number may mean an interest or some more not to pure thoughts.

Funnygirl24 · Answer

I voted for "D"(Other answer.) It most likely means he wants SEX! That's all most guys want! SEX SEX SEX!

fearful · Answer

Just think that he wants to contact me, and I'll find out later if he does

KBob93 · Answer

Just simply shows he may or may not contact me later. Who knows, not a big deal.

lilyl234 · Answer

she's possibly you know...@_@ stupid. Sorry to break it to you.

Anonymous · Answer

It was just some kind of testing. She didn't understand him after the first chat and decided to give him another chance. There she found him as uninteresting person and came up with this lie about the boyfriend. That is all, there is no secret meaning at all.

Chantie7113 · Answer

I would def assume it was for a date or to get to know me more than friends!

Skittles_lover · Answer

I typically think he wants to get to know me better.

tattooedhandfet · Answer

I asked a similar question. Mine was what does hanging out with a guy mean?

kittylover101 · Answer

Either friendly, or slight flirting. I doubt she likes you though (prove me wrong please!)

Anonymous · Answer

If its just us and not other people... I'm assuming a date... if he invites me to hang out with him and some friends... I'm wondering if he's trying to decide on me or what...

Heymimihere98 · Answer

It depends on a dude i would think of it as either he likes me as a friend or he wants to date me

Entrieton · Answer

You should have just asked her out on a date, girls will just assume you are just only interested in friends if you ask them to hang out and theirs no flirting going on.

Coolguy1928 · Answer

I know women a lot, so I'm sure they'd think that your asking them for a date. (^_^)

bubble_tea · Answer

I'd assume he's looking for a friend who shares the same hobby as he does.

Anonymous · Answer

They would probably think it was a date. But I would much rather girls start assuming I just want to be friends. I can always decide to hit on them later after I get to know them, if I want to go in that direction.

sarahtui · Answer

Knowing me i'd think he just wants to hang out and if he asks for my number id think he'd need it for when he wants to hang out again haha

NicciMint · Answer

definitely A, a date.., I would hope so anyway otherwise I might be disapointed too!

tmntpkmnavtr · Answer

tbh I'd think he was flirting... I don't know about tht girl tho

Anonymous · Answer

Any girl with half a brain should have known you wanted more than just friendship in this scenario.

Anonymous · Answer

Initial reaction for sure a date. However u did say hangout.. later think maybe it's not a date.

Bandgeek4ever · Answer

If u say "hang out" it's more likely she will think ur just wanting to be friends. U should say "go out" instead.

Anonymous · Answer

Friendship I always think it's friendship and nothing more my mind never goes to dates.

Boon495 · Answer

It depends, if there's flirting and he asks for my number then I know it's a date. But if it's just some guy who you get along with then just friendship probably.

Videogames4Life · Answer

Well, I personally think he just wants the girl, for her body... then use her for another girl

Anonymous · Answer

First thing I think is they want a friend if they gt too close or flirty i think the like me but doubt it maybe they just want to be good friends.

melodybluesy · Answer

if it wasn't a damn date, I'd be pissed! haha

ZoeZoexoxo · Answer

Depends how he asks, but I would probably think he liked me...

eltigre · Answer

If he has a record, run... if not he just might be shy!!!

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe want to be friend or either he likes me wich never happens

synmar · Answer

Hang out to me is sex.

Jade1884 · Answer

I would probably think he wants to get in my pants

Anonymous · Answer

it depends on his approach. how and where we met.

girlygirl2015 · Answer

I would feel insecure about what he wants

NicoleJustine · Answer

It's up to you to do whatever you want

newhotmama2015 · Answer

Think he looking for a Friend

babu_001 · Answer

Pussy my friend. It's all about pussy.

yen-ram · Answer

obviously wants to get to know me better.

ZoeyMercer · Answer

Obvi a date lol

Anonymous · Answer

eventually, a date

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