Girls, please explain the difference between friendly and flirting?

[Anonymous]

So this girl who I work with, we don't have cintact outside of work, the only time we see eachother is in work. We both get on very well, and have become quite close. I'm just wondering whether she's being friendly or maybe a little more. Are there different ways you can tell? What's the difference?

[Angelus]

First off: TECHNICALLY the only way is if you know her intentions, but USUALLY there are some hints

Flirty: touches you a lot, will keep inconvenient plans, wearing cute clothes and/or makeup/done hair (only if those are not her usual though), friendly to you to the point of inconvenience for her sometimes (Oh yeah I'll drive you 40min out of the way home etc etc), conversations about what you like in a girl, a girlfriend, anything romantic-y.

Friendly: Touching only when necessary and not for long periods if at all, you've seen the same outfit on her multiple times, she is not always looking her best/put together around you (again careful with this, not all girls give a shit, but I feel like most do), will not go out of her way for you more than a small amount/generally reasonable for anyone.

Another thought: would this be weird if a guy did this to me? Aside from obviously 'girl behaviors,' this is usually a pretty good way to tell. It's like taking the femininity out of an action- would it still be weird if a guy was doing it? Touching your arm during a joke- yeah probably, and she's probably at least attracted to you if not trying to drop a hint.

Main thing: Do you like her? If yes ask her out, if not then don't worry about it. I mean really, it's that simple.

[_Atreides]

funny you saying about driving.

Me - can you give me some advice on what to do on this project (i meant over phone or email).

Her - i'm happy to meet you there if you want. (with there being over 2 hours drive away)

[CDyer]

If she laughs at your jokes all the time it's a good sign especially if it's a really girly laugh! If she plays with her hair while you're around or you catch her looking at you a lot? When she talks to you if she's looking at you properly like looking into your eyes she is probably in to you! Does she stand close to you? When you're talking to her does she seem genuinely happy and interested? These are all really good signs she's not just being friendly! Try and find things to talk to her about and look for these signs! Good luck!

[SexyTexas]

It's not an easy way of telling, but if she treats you different from how she treats the other male coworkers or customers then that could be the only indicator. I say, take the bold approach and ask her out. Guys always confuse my friendliness for flirting, I'm just a happy person, but I let them down easy to maintain a friendship afterwards.

[PHILR]

ok do a google on girls body language signs and signals... however be careful you may like this woman but what if she has a bf/husband (check ring finger for clues to that) you wouldn't want to be the man to cause a breakup. reason why I say that what if you had a wife or girlfriend that was thinking about a fling without your knowledge how would you feel or think..

am I saying not to proceed with your woman fiend.. no... just make sure she is avaible totally and that weither or not her actions are those of just being friendly or something more. the body language (read as many differing articles on it because each one adds to what you'll be learning about it. ) will deffinitly tell you if there is a romantic thing to it or if she's just being friendly.

[TurtleRace102]

Friendly- she leads you to believe she is really in to you. Then embarrasses the fuck out of you when you decide to make the first move.

Flirting- you won't really notice unless she just wants to bang.

[barney]

She likes you.

Girls send secret and subconscious signals to guys. Guy receives them subconsciously and asks questions on GAG. Because guy's mind isn't aware of what is going on yet. He wants some proof :D Here is ythe proof...

" laughs a lot, tells me personal things..." those are also big signals;))))

she is flirting...

[Asker]

Ok thanks. She is more I don't know how to say 'kind' towards me, which I don't know how to take. She can be very attentive.

[MissPoirot]

If she is being flirty, she will touch you more and laugh at your jokes all the time. I think if she is being friendly she will seem more relaxed. Try to compare her behaviour towards you with how she acts around others. And flirt with her and see how she reacts.

[classybabe]

I've always been misunderstood, when Im trying to be helpful and be nice with guys they always thought I flirt with them.
In you case I think its a little more, its more than just being nice. I never became close to any of those guys... dont you think the best way to find out is to ask her? Good luck.

[Asker]

Sorry, you think in my case she likes me?

[classybabe]

yes, I do.

[Asker]

Ok thanks.

[sailorjupiter]

if a girl likes you, she will initiate something that need her to touch you
for example, she want to show a picture in her phone to you, just an excuse to touch you and let you know that, she's interested and you are allowed to hold her phone, which is usually a very personal and private item of someone ;)

[Christine1975]

I don't know... it's a fine line. I tried being nice to a guy at work and now he thinks I sweat him... I don't. I smile and crack a few jokes here and there and now he thinks I want him. If I ignored him I'd be a hitch. I just talk business now, nothing else. If I liked him, I would make it known... I would tell him. It's tricky though I suppose.

[Springfairy]

"hmmm but what if both like eachother then both would flirt"

Not true, there's a guy at work I like. But I don't flirt at at all.
Mostly because I can't tell whether he's just flirty by nature or actually likes me.
I clam up when I'm around him. Sometimes I even pull away, when he goes to touch my shoulder because I get shy and nervous.

[Anonymous]

FRIENDLY no doubt
gals like to feather their daily nests to be drama free, easy to manage, plenty of hands to help them through the day... you are one of those hands

Flirting would be asking for your company outside of work, which might begin with breaks/lunch.

[TedStar]

There is almost no difference. The way women have been socialised to suppress their fee you might find out that in many situations some women treat their crush exactly like their guy friends meanwhile inside they may be feeling something

[lanagirl]

I can confirm this.

[Monkeys]

Friendly encounter : insults u , but not to the point where it hurts feelings

Flirting encounter : laughs at your lame jokes , and will have any excuse to touch your arm , or anywhere she can reach

[johnvanjohn]

i always wondered if i have a genuinely good humor or if women laugh and giggle with my jokes because i'm handsome...

[meiam17]

I am friendly to everyone but especially nice to people I like and have a lot of common with. This doesn't necessarily mean I'm sexually attracted to them. But I'm pretty sure some will think I'm flirting when I don't think I am.

[Inlove29]

If she laughs and giggles at no point and is touching you it means that there is something..
If she lets you to touch her and if you think that she is really more friendly than rest of your girl mates then maybe she is flirting..

[notsocrouchingtiger]

This isn't really something that can be answered. Some people are flirty by nature and are just being friendly, some are just very affectionate/intimate when being friendly and others might be flirting. Sorry I can't give you a proper answer but I think it's something you've just got to try and work out yourself based off of what goes down

[stayorthostatic]

This is such a hard question to answer, because not all girls are the same! If I really truly liked somebody? I would tell them. And it would be obvious. Other girls are more coy...

[miz36]

flirting is mostly one sided i. e. one person trying to attract other while friendship is bi directional and balanced

[Asker]

hmmm but what if both like eachother then both would flirt.

[miz36]

if thats the case flirting is for very short time and turn in to dating

[geekylady]

When I flirt I make long enough eye contact and smile a lot more than usual, totally by instinct. I don't do that with friends

[EverythingReal]

Friendly: Joking, being nice, being comfortable
Flirty: Giving compliments, inquiring about your love life

[Anonymous]

It's funny cause I'm in the exact same situation as you, and wonder if a guy I like at work feels the same, we haven't hung out outside of work, but I feel we chat about random things, and that we may be getting closer, we tease each other a lot, and with a smile or laughter, but I just don't know if he's into me. how do you let this girl know that you like her, without actually saying "hey, I like you". lol. Let me know. :)

[Anonymous]

If she laughs at all your jokes even if no one else is laughing. She will find the slightest way to touch you.

[Anonymous]

Just friendly. I mean if you don't see any clear signs of flirting then she's probably just being nice

[gardenoflilacs]

What are the signs that she is giving you the impression she might like you?

I mostly agree with Angelus. :)

[Lynn1989]

I would need more examples so I can say if she does or not

[Asker]

ok well she's different with me. looks at me and just breaks into a smile, laughs a lot, tells me personal things, waits around for me sometimes, likes talking to me, says thing like 'we like the same things' jokes with me, makes fun of me and where i come from, very poljte, sometimes calls me by my full name, im known by my shortened name. sometimes stands close. doesn't mind me touching her shoulder etc, occasionally sh brushes past me. jokingly calls me names.

[MichelleUFO]

all these things are based on thievery.

[Anonymous]

Flirty is he finds her attractive

[Anonymous]

There are none.