She says I'm weird and creepy. Girls help me out!

[Anonymous]

I heard from friends that she views me a bit as weird and creepy.

First of all what is the GIRL'S definition of weird or creepy?

Secondly what can I do to stop her from viewing me as weird and creepy(other then to stop saying/doing weird stuff in front of her)? Would starting a friendship with her work?

[ArtistBboy]

Jackie 9 has some great insight; however, That-Guy is correct which makes Chettah-two's response valid.

When someone labels you as "creepy", they are finding your actions different from what is acceptable to their standards. This could be one of many things, being too nice or talking about insane topics (like their sex life) would classify you as a "creep".

Moving on would be the ultimate goal for the scenario, unfortunatley I understand your dedication and desire to be with this women (from the multitude of messages you have sent me)- therefor I would recommend that you ignore her for a period of time. There are several "if-then" statements to what I just said, so tread lightly.

If- anything is starting to bother you - move on.

Needless to say- the best thing to do right now is to make her desire you (thus showing her friends a great side of you and how often you hang out) then making her not have that opportunity (ignoring her, being busy, etc) - this is the worst mind game there is; however, this isn't a fair world unfortunately.

P.s. this will become more and more aggitating and as such, I can only hope you move on versus wasting your time pursueing this one woman - she isn't worth it.

Best regards,

ArtistBBoy

[SlashCo]

What That_Guy said. Just ignore her completely from now on, if you haven't started already. Anyone who calls you creepy without even knowing you doesn't deserve your time or attention anyway. And yeah, girls throw around this term way too much, and often it seems that they use it to describe any guy who they're not attracted to, so don't think too much of it.

[shortie]

Weird and creepy to me means:-

-Approaches me in a forceful and ungentelemanly way, doesn't try to make conversation and just tries to get my number straight away =O

-Is waaay too 'nice' and complimentary to the extent that it feels fake and cloying

-Physically not attractive (sorry) but also if he's like way older than me

-After I've made it obvious I'm not intersted, he kept on persisting

[Jackie_9]

In my past, when I have called a guy creepy, its for a different reason then most guys might think. He was overly nice, I know that may sound bad but many girls sometimes feel that way.There's always the saying you want what you can't have. And when you say all the right things to her and act somewhat too nice, it may push her away.

[Asker]

The thing is this girl doesn't know me all to well, and we don't talk often.

Do you think that maybe a friendship would move me from the "Creepy" to the "Friend" zone? Or would that be totally useless?

Alot of girls call guys creepy because of the stupidest things which really p_sses me off. "Lol he's looking at me he's creepy! Next!".

So it's like as a guy, what do we do? Would getting the girl comfortable to talk to you and get to know you(IE a friendship) work?

[Jackie_9]

Maybe she just got a bad first impression of you then. I know that when I first meet a guy, and they show a lot of interest in me, even though I just met them, its somewhat creepy to me. In all reality, if she thinks your creepy, is she really worth it? No body is worth your time if all your trying to do is "make" her like you. That would be an unhealthy relationship So would you rather spend your time on someone that your trying to make like you, or with someone that appreciates you for you.

[Asker]

While I'm not arguing with your comment on "Just move on its not worth it" the thing is can a guy really do that?

Should we just give up the moment they label us as creepy? If we were to do that, we'd just be plowing through the # of girls out there(and most likely missing a few good GFs) when we PROBABLY could a made some attraction if we just tried.

Just a thought/

But anyway what do you think I should do to stop her from viewing me as a"Creepy" and "weird"? Would a friendship work?

[Asker]

In a way your logic is the same as a guy being shallow.

"Ok she's not hot, NEXT!" when he probably missed out on a very good girlfriend that he could have connected with.

Note that I am NOT insulting you or your logic, just simply stating what I think :P

Oh and keep in mind me and this girl haven't talked that much and aren't really that much friends. So that's why I was asking if a friendship would be good.

[Jackie_9]

I totally agree with you, I wouldn't be okay with someone calling me weird. I think for now be friends, and she'l most likly realize that you arnt weird, and just go from there

[chettah-two]

Just don't talk to her, actually blank her out... dnt say hi when you go past her, don't mention her or anything... That's the only way that will change her mind...

[That-Guy]

If a girl thinks you are weird and creepy.. anything you do to win any sort of attention from her will just reinforce her idea of you being creepy.

[zchhdsll]

if you are both walking straight toward one another, pretend you are looking through her. like she's not even there maybe that would do something :o

[ILoveElectroHouse]

f*** that Hoe

[zchhdsll]

yes ^