Why is she avoiding me?

[Anonymous]

We used to be friends and talk and flirt all the time. She would text me first, not the other way around, and we would have long conversations. At one point she probably liked me. Lately though, she's been cutting conversations short and the like. No flirting, and today when I went over to talk to my best friend, who she was talking to, she turned and left. Why is she avoiding me? I really like her. WTF did I do?

[samarabelle]

I went through this with a boy - I feel like I know what was going on in your girl's head. She pursued you and though you asked her out, you should have ASKED HER OUT. To "go steady". She showed interest in you, and you reciprocated, but you didn't actually ask her out. Reciprocation isn't always enough. You waited too long and she concluded that you didn't actually want her, that you were playing with her, and that you rejected her.

And she is responding to that rejection by avoiding you and being cold.

I could be completely wrong, granted, but it sounds like a very similar situation to me.

If you want to fix it, chances are she still likes you or she wouldn't harbor any ill-will. Try letting her know you like her and want to be with her (if that is what you want). Try to be honest and open; that would make her feel so much better.

[wanacot]

Perhaps that's the problem, what did you do? Yeah girls will flirt and make it clear that they like you, but they aren't going to keep that up forever. Most expect the guy to take the hint and ask them out/advance the relationship. If the guy doesn't do that the girl will usually conclude the guy is not interested. Maybe she even got mad that you did nothing? Wouldn't be the first time it happened.

[Asker]

I did do something. I asked her out, and she said yes, but then decided to attend the event with friends?