Why is she avoiding me now?

[Anonymous]

A girl I work with and I have began to build some chemistry since I started a few months back. She is very quite, but it always seemed she would find ways to be around me, and I around her. She would blush, and act very nervous around me. At first it was very hard to have a conversation with her, but she has slowly opened up to me over time and now we chat almost every morning. She gives me this very strong eye contact where she will stare deep into my eyes and hold it for what seems like forever if we pass each other at work. I pretty sure she likes me, but the issue is she has a long term boyfriend. The issue is I haven't seen her much at work over the past couple of weeks. I feel like she is purposely trying to avoid me or stay away from me. Like she is trying to keep her distance. Is this because she has a boy friend? I am cool with being just friends, but don't understand not wanting to see me anymore. We went from walking and talking almost daily to barely running into her ever in a very short period of time. Oh, and then today she walked by me staring at her phone, looked up and didn't even say hi! I was like "heyyy" and she responded back in the same tone "heeeyyyy!" It was weird, she normally always says hello. We went from talking everyday to barely saying hi. Why is she avoiding me now? Why is she avoiding me now?

[Anonymous]

Wow this sounds like my situation... I really like this guy at work and he kinda gives me mixed signals. We would sometimes stare at each other forever and I totally feel lost in his eyes and won't be able to concentrate anymore trying to figure him out. But he seems the very flirty type and I don't know sometimes if he is with every girl the same way or if he really likes me in particular. I've been hurt bad in the past and became very careful showing my emotions to the ones I really like.

So I know how you feel because that's what I'm doing right now trying to avoid him because I don't want to get hurt assuming he likes me not and that this is all in my head... from my perspective I would try to tell her cause she obviously likes you a lot but is not sure if you feel the same way.

Good luck ;)

[DommeBadKitty]

you need to just sit her down and ask dear females are a curious animal sometimes we feel that something is wrong and its just a vibe we pick up maybe she's nervous or wanted you to ask her out already (after all we are not patient creatures) or she's nervous and you said yourself she's shy if your a friend sit and talk with her ask her

[Asker]

Oh I know this to be true! You think it is because of her boyfriend? I also kind of ignored her the other day and she acted all sad next time I ran into her, barely saying hello to me. Our routines have been off lately could be another reason.

[tinydancer555]

Like what the others have said. She probably has a boyfriend and is trying to cut contact with you. I've admittedly done this. If you can somehow just assure her you're only looking for friendship, then you could salvage your relationship.

[Asker]

You've done this? How so? Like cutting ties with him because you liked him?

[tinydancer555]

Yes. Last year I was with my *now ex* boyfriend and realized I had a huge crush on someone who was really nice to me and always studied with me. I cut ties with the crush immediately because the guilt was too much to handle. I know it wasn't fair AT ALL to the other guy and I've learned from it, but that's life and it's not always kind.

[Asker]

I see. Were you attracted to him because he was nice to you?

[tinydancer555]

Definitely. Gentleman and confident. I wound up breaking up with my ex a few months later started dating my crush. Didn't work out either but no regrets haha

[Asker]

Not physically attractive?

[tinydancer555]

Well yeah. That's always the first attraction. You scoop a girl in and keep her there with your personality.

[talloak]

It seems likely to me that she did become attracted to you and this became a conflict because she has a boyfriend. It may not be easy or wise for her to attempt simple friendship. The feelings seem to be very strong. It just may be that she is trying to do the right thing. This doesn't reflect on you personally. The timing sucks.

[dazed15]

probably, she started wondering about a relationship with you, and realized she can't. not with the boyfriend in tow. to me, that's the most logical explantion, unless her beau works there too. or he heard about y'all from a mutual friend.

[blueberry92]

she doesn't want to cheat on her boyfriend.
she wants to see what you will do when she ignores you. she wants to see how much you like her, are you willing to chase her, ask her why she's not talking
hope this helps!

[Anonymous]

It's one of two things 1. She has decided to stay with her boyfriend but is attracted to you. If you are trying to forget about someone you are attracted to the easiest thing to do is avoid them. 2. She thinks you are not interested as you have not rally made a move and she is avoiding you and just matching your behavior .