When my boyfriend checks out another girl does that mean he finds her more attractive? (Page 2)

Question

I am a pretty girl, a lot of guys would love to date me or be with me. I am attractive. However, every time my boyfriend sees a girl he finds pretty, big boobs, nice ass, or pretty face, he checks them out in front of me. Does this mean he is not satisfied with me physically, and does it mean he thinks these other girls are more attractive then I? He tells me its just something he can't help. Does this mean he is likely to cheat if he can't control this behavior? He tells me I am the most beautiful to him but I don't understand when he displays this behavior. Mostly I want to know if he thinks these girls are better, more beautiful then I am.

hunnybunny81105 · Answer

It could mean he thinks they're more attractive or not. You don't really know. It is normal for people to check other people out. I rarely find someone I think is attractive, but if I see a guy I think is cute I look at him.

To look is different, if your boyfriend is doing it so obvious and drooling over her that is really disrespectful. If my boyfriend made a big deal out of looking at a girl then I'd be p*ssed. I know he looks at girls, but I know he looks at people in general lol. I know when he looks at someone pretty he always asks my opinion if I think they're pretty too or ugly. I know it's nice to know he's thinking of me haha.

Openminded · Answer

I have 9 brothers and my family is mostly guys. No he doesn't think they are more beautiful than you or even wants them he's just being a guy. Its kind how you see a guy on a movie or tv an think that he's sexy or cute. It doesn't mean that you want him or that you think he's sexier or anything. I guess its just human behavior. Your worrying to much. My uncle took a bullet for my aunt when they got robbed but he still looks at other girls. As long as he doesn't touch them or try to hit on them or anything then your fine.

drSkabs · Answer

No. He doesn't necessarily  think they are more beautiful than you. Even if you think they are, it's probably for different reasons. Honestly, I check out guys and girls all the time, but it doesn't mean I'm interested in them that way. Plus, men are very visual beings. I do it because I'm the artsy type. I wouldn't worry about him cheating either. If he was cheating he wouldn't make it so obvious. Another thing is, maybe he does it to make you a little jealous in order to get a reaction out of you and validate himself so that he knows you care ( dumb, I know, but we all do dumb things). Basically from now on try to ignore it, if he keeps making it more and more obvious then clearly he is doing for the reaction, if he stops, then that means he realizes that's not the way to get to you. Hope this helps. :)

Loveispateint · Answer

Guys are going to look, just like you are going to look. It doesn't have to mean anything other than he thinks she is pretty. It could mean that he finds her more attractive but look at the reason he is with you. There is more substance to your bond than looks and you are more than just a pretty girl to him.

Don't assume that he is cheating with you in his mind just because he looks at pretty girls who walking by. That is a man's nature. You know you look too but you know what your intentions are not to gawk and think about what it would be like to be with some other guy. Men do what men do but he doesn't have to be a jerk of course.

achope246 · Answer

Yeah, I don't think he's comparing you to another girl, just looking. I've been married for almost 9 years and my husband still does it on occasion. He just tries to be smooth about it. I'm actually OK with it because I trust him. I hate to admit it, but sometimes even I'm amazed by a girl's boobs and have to point her out to him (like he hasn't already noticed, lol), or if I catch him looking at a girl I call him out on it just to give him a hard time. Unless you don't trust him, I don't think it's that big of a deal, except for the fact that he's so obvious about it. He should have more respect for you than he does.

bellybuttonlint · Answer

I totally disagree with the other guys who says it is a natural reaction.

It's natural to find someone attractive, but not natural to gawk at them. I don't think that he's not satisfied with you, I'm sure he is. But a lot of guys are just trained by the media to stare. I don't think it's ever appropriate because I wouldn't like my girl to stare at other guys.

But I don't think this makes the guy more likely to cheat. I just think it makes him inconsiderate.

CakeGirl02 · Answer

I don't think that when a guy checks a girl out in front of his girlfriend that it means anything but he notices an attractive girl. If this bothers you, than perhaps you need to have a conversation with him about this.

You cannot say that you haven't notice an attractive guy while with him at some point or another. I know you probably don't say anything out of respect but if it's chipping away at your self-esteem and you're insecure when he does this than you definitely need to address that with him.

angbrennil · Answer

I think it is just a natural thing for people to look at the opposite sex. Have you never looked at a guy and thought "Hmm not bad" but still think your man is better looking?

Guys are very visual creatures... just because the admire other women does not mean they will cheat or think you are less beautiful... it just means that they admire the opposite sex.

Women do the same thing... I know I do and have never been ashamed of it, I also admire other women that I think are beautiful. I have never cheated in any relationship. I have lived by a saying all my life: It is okay to check out the menu just make sure you eat at home.

gfe0001 · Answer

just because a guy checks a girl out it doesn't mean  that he finds her more attractive. there are  many  pretty woman out there and its natural to look,  it has noting to do with your appearance. looking at her doesn't make you less attractive to him . it only becomes a problem if he's rude about it and does it constantly when your together but if he doesn't don't let it affect you it really isn't a big deal.but if it makes you feel very uncomfortable try to talk to him about it and if he doesn't change then maybe that's a personality flaw that you will deal with or reevaluate if you two are compatible.

ankurunderdog · Answer

Do you do d same thing as he does?If yes den d question is baseless but if ur don't feel like him den you shud take a step.D guy is taking you for granted,hold him back tell him that you won't be wid him if he continues 2 do dis...if necessary stop talking wid him for sumtime,if he loves you he'll stop dese activities very soon,and girl its never about physique its abt love & affection,u have it over d edge so you are satisfied wid him,if he stops his misdeeds den he loves you or else...

Find out yourself.

brettbuck · Answer

For me when me and my ex were together, and I saw a good looking girl I would look at my girl and give her all of my attention. It sound like your dude is a little immature tool. Do this next time you’re out together blatantly look at a different guy and see what he does.

kevin15776 · Answer

And you never look at other guys?  It's human nature.  Whether he's going to be faithful or not is a different story.  If his girl viewing is so obvious that it bothers you, say something, but don't nag.  Make a joke of it.  Say something like, "She's hot.  I'd do her."  Joke about it--make it a non issue.  Show you're confidence.  That's a huge turn on to guys.  There's nothing worse in a relationship than an insecure partner.

Anonymous · Answer

I have to agree with the some of the girls on this one, you definitely seem insecure, certainly don't seem self confident and a little conceited, seems like you want any and all and as much attention from him as you can get. If your head gets any bigger you won't be able to get through doorways...lol.  And most guys won't say this but reality check its not all about you, and yes its wrong to check out other girls in front of you as it would be the same for you checking out other guys in front of him, sure guys will be guys. Ask yourself something he is with you right? Who does he go home with? it should be you and if its not then there are other problems if he is doing things with other girls.

Delahatesyou · Answer

Take into consideration the following:

guys still have the instinct to mate with more than just one woman, thus spread their genes.

guys eye sight is more focused so when they look at something, everyone knows it.

just because he's looking doesn't mean he's going to touch.

Quit being so jealous.

TheGoodTheBadTheHOT · Answer

As many have said before me, it's human instinct, even if a girl is not more attractive than you, he will still look out of interest, just because he looks doesn't mean he will go any further than that. I'm sure that if you were at the beach with him and a group of muscular, tanned, male models walked past you'd check them out, don't lie ;)

OceanLover · Answer

all guys' minds are wired differently than girls. guys focus much more on appearance and it's honestly just instinct to check them out. he really can't help it. it doesn't mean he finds you less attractive than those other girls. and it doesn't mean he's more likely to cheat. it's just the way our minds work.

but if it's not just glancing at girls and he's staring for a really long time, then it may be a problem.

mikkie180 · Answer

There is no way to determine what is going through his mind, but his behavior is pretty rude. Why males are stimulated visually, we can help not staring if we want to. Why he insists on behaving rudely is the question here. He may not have enough respect for you or your feelings. Maybe he has gotten too comfortable in your relationship that he figures he can behave like a cad.

Standingpretty · Answer

This is an age-old qeustion and the answer is no. just because your boyfriend checks out other women doesn't mean he's going to cheat or thinks she's hotter. Guys really can't help checking women out and most of the time, there not checking a girl out but actually just looking at her in a non-sexual way. Most of the time he probably doesn't even notice what he's doing. It's really hard for women to understand because they don't do it but it's really just how men are.

h3lpm3plz · Answer

really cool question. I do it a lot, not because I like to check out girls ( I do) but mainly I like to let my girlfriend catch me doing it and make her all jealous. its kinda mean (im sorry girls) but I always like to see them jealous and mad. I like to have an excuse to cheer them up and make them smile again.

is that werid?

HonestMan · Answer

Guys do like to look at girls, but not like people act like. Only closet gay dudes trying to cover it up or guys that don't get enough p**** will stare and drool over a girl. And if he really likes them he will cheat on you. He doesn't respect youu either. Drop that a**hole. I'm being honest with you, not trying to blame it on "instinct". Its a choice. I love looking at beautiful women, but if I'm with my girlfriend I have respect for her. I don't stand there and ogle over some random chick that I don't even know. I can just look at my own beautiful woman.

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