When my boyfriend checks out another girl does that mean he finds her more attractive?

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I am a pretty girl, a lot of guys would love to date me or be with me. I am attractive. However, every time my boyfriend sees a girl he finds pretty, big boobs, nice ass, or pretty face, he checks them out in front of me. Does this mean he is not satisfied with me physically, and does it mean he thinks these other girls are more attractive then I? He tells me its just something he can't help. Does this mean he is likely to cheat if he can't control this behavior? He tells me I am the most beautiful to him but I don't understand when he displays this behavior. Mostly I want to know if he thinks these girls are better, more beautiful then I am.

Panopticus · Accepted Answer

There are, it seems to me, Dian, several types of men in this situation. Firstly though, his attention is attracted by them in the same way as it was attracted to you, it is how all heterosexual men are hardwired. If he was not attracted at all by any other woman then his sexuality might be in doubt. I have seen many women check out men when they are with their husbands and boyfriends, If you are completely honest you would have to say that you are not oblivious to any men other than your boyfriend. You may put that away after a split second but it is there.

Men fall into several types in dealing with this as I say.

Some men pretend to see only the woman in their lives when they are with them - if they fool themselves and the woman they are with fine, but it is dishonesty and not natural behaviour.

Some men will briefly look at a woman but not gaze ... not trying to hide it .. a man should be happy to be a man and appreciate a pretty woman and he should want his girl to be happy being a woman - of course if either is the jealous sort he will have to retreat to the type I have mentioned firstly.

The third type are those who not only gaze too long but humiliate the woman they are with by extolling the charms of the person he is staring at - this man gives the others a bad name!

There are more variations but you get the idea!

What you perhaps need to remember Dian, is that he is with You, not them ... he knows you as a whole person - it is about what is inside as well as the shape of a breast or the line of a hip etcetera. We are not angels floating about on heavenly clouds wearing halos and playing with ribbons - we are mortal human beings no different inside to what our ancesters were 30,000 years ago. We are still driven to search for a mate, to procreate and to pass on our genes. Society may try to imprint patterns of behaviour but what 'attracts' us runs deep ... we camouflage our natural body odours with soap and fragrances but visually the imperatives remain.

An interesting tangent to this is that where I live in the North of the United Kingdom there used to be an unwritten rule that a married lady would not speak to a stranger and her clothes were a lot more modest and did not invite attention. Nowadays the opposite is the case although very few people consider marriage as a certain part of their life together.

Personally I would not stare at or comment on another female even if I was talking to a female friend / aquaintance other than the lady in my life, but then the conversation is usually so interesting that I just don't bother looking around!

bobair · Accepted Answer

Two things...

1) Being in LOVE with you doesn't mean he's now gay. He'll always find other women attractive. Always. Especially younger women as you both age.

There's nothing to be done because attraction isn't a choice. Our bodies want what they want.

This is NOT a measure of your beauty, or your value in his eyes. If he's WITH you then he's made his choice.

He's NOT shopping around, he's simply enjoying the scenery.

I explain it like this... I own a new 4-Runner. I love my "truck." It's my most treasured possession. And yet when I pass other new vehicles on the street I will often admire them. This doesn't mean I want to sell my Truck and buy some other guy's expensive car... I can simply admire the beauty in other people's things.

Most guys can admire other women without a specific desire to "own and operate." If that makes sense. He will always find beautiful women attractive. But realize that attraction is a feeling, like pain and hunger. It ISN'T a judgment on you, or these other girls. He's not comparing either of you. He's simply admiring.

2) He should be mature enough to control his outward behaviors.

Even if he finds other women attractive he should never behave in such a way that is disrespectful towards you. If you don't like him looking at girls he should respect that while walking with you.

He should also never bother to tell you how nice these other girls look in appreciation for your sensitivity about the subject.

This is basic polite behavior.

If he IS being rude, let him know that you find it disrespectful and to oogle girls when you're not around.

I hope this helps!

~ Robby

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raulxpaul · Accepted Answer

first let me start off by saying GUYS ARE PIGS. they act on impulsive decisions and are very rude. they can't help it. its just the way most guys are. if he's checking out another girl, it does not mean he likes her better. if he liked all of these other girls better then he wouldn't still be with you. he would have dumped you at the first hot girl he saw. but he didn't so he obviously likes you and you have to give him so credit. he may be fantasizing about these other women but as soon as he can't see them any more he's fantasizing about you again. he's not likely to cheat but it can happen. we're all faced with the urge to cheat for one reason or another but I doubt this will be the reason that causes him to cheat. even us girls stare at an impossibly pretty girl and are jealous. when our boyfriends see us they're probably like what the hell?! they might question whether your into them or the girl you saw. we know that we love our boyfriends and wouldn't cheat on them. another thing to know about guys is that theyre simple minded. if you convince them once that your all for them, they believe you. they trust you. so trust him with this. but if its really bothering you and it continues, you may want to put an ad on craig'slist for a new boyfriend. don't stay in the relationship out of guilt. make sure your happy first. good luck(:

Firekitty91 · Accepted Answer

I don't have a blog or anything but I can say this: Bla bla bla Men are visual creatures so they look at other women etc etc. Just like how you and I would look at an attractive guy, he'd look at an attractive girl. Heck, maybe the girl IS more attractive than you are and he thinks so, maybe he does actually want to fuck her. Maybe he has visions of fucking her in disturbing positions... Now if you see that as a bad/ abnormal thing then hon, you'd be setting yourself up for some major insecurities. There are definitely going to be more attractive girls than both of us combined and if your man has eyes, a penis and taste, he'd definitely look.

Now does he put his head out and stare like a disoriented turkey when he sees those woman in front of you? If yes, that's another issue.

Also, you can never tell when a man is more likely to cheat. You'd have the perfect relationship and he's still capable of cheating. Love is a gamble where you'd just have to 'trust' him to 'love' you enough to not do it. One thing I can tell you though, if you're insecure in your relationship, it can spiral into a domino effect of messing up your love life.

Tamikaze · Accepted Answer

You know what it means? It means he is a man. Just because a guy loves us and is attracted to us does not mean they cannot also find other women attractive. Since we do not have testosterone driving us the way it drives guys, we just don't get it, but guys won't stop noticing other women just because they love us.

Oh, and the most he can be thinking is seeing another woman as an object. Not like he knows her, cares about her personality or can imagine himself being with her. But he can think her breasts or ass look f*ckable. It's the same thing that happens in a one night stand. Women think if a guy has sex and enjoyed it, he must really like them, and how could he stop at one night, or how he could just want friends w/benefits without wanting more with them. It is because he is stuck just seeing that girl as a sexual object, nothing more.

I wouldn't worry about him. This is not a sign he is going to cheat. Sounds like he just isn't very sly about this. If you find it disrespectful the way he does it in front of you, tell him. He will still do it, he should just be better about how he does it.

Rebecca2 · Answer

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setcheck67 · Answer

Not all men do this. Rather I spend my time keeping my eyes on my girls goods. For the most part it's because most of those other hot girls are sluts, whores, and skanks. Not to mention a lot of them have some serious baggage or serious issues...(I would know the last hottie I dated would cry throughout the day EVERYDAY how every guy she ever knew used her. I felt bad for her at first, but the more she talked the less sad I felt and the more I got tired of being around her. For one losing your virginity in 7th grade to a friend she had known for 2 weeks just because he was crying about being a virgin won't make a guy feel bad for you. ALSO telling him about every guy you ever had sex with is only going to make him think "I wonder if there is any tread left") I don't know what these other guys are smoking, but they wouldn't want to f*** those hot girls if they knew how messed up many of them are. Roughly 90% of women don't deserve happy relationships. There role is best served as single mothers and temptresses to attract cheating husbands from their wives.

ZenSpace · Answer

The answer to all your questions is no. no! no! No!

Stop freaking out and getting all insecure.

Here is a few truths, some you will like, others you won't.

First if a guy checks out another girl, it does NOT mean he thinks she is more pretty than you. So calm down. Take a deep breath. Seriously. It is natural for men to enjoy female beauty on display. We all like hot women, its in every aspect of our culture, it is incredibly unfair for you to get mad at him for something all men do and have done since the dawn of time. We like hot women. Period.

Second, this is the part you won't like, it is also natural for men to have the urge to sleep with many, many women at once. He may not act on that urge. he will probably be sleep only with you, but he will want to sleep with other women, its biological, we are ALL want that.

When he sees a hot girl he is not comparing her to you to decide who is better. In fact he is not consciously thinking anything, he's on auto-pilot.

What his sub-conscious mind is thinking is: "boy I sure would like to f*** that hot girl and also continue to f*** my even hotter girlfriend. Then I would have it all"

Esisso · Answer

I think I see his point of view completely, and I see that the problem is that you don't fully understand the minds of men. In the minds of most men, there is a disconnect between sexual desire and love that most women do not have or understand. Men are subconsciously promiscuous, but their love for one woman and fear of STD's gives them restraint. It does not matter who you are; most straight men subconsciously want to have sex with multiple different women in any given month regardless of how attractive their one woman is. He checks other ladies out in front of you because he does not want to lie about the deepest, most secret parts of himself and because he knows that his love for you will keep him from ever cheating on you. Most men are not satisfied sexually by one woman because most men want to have sex once or twice a day and most ladies do not have sex with their man more than forty times per month. That's why most men who have a girlfriend still secretly masturbate and sometimes watch p*rn, and that's okay and totally normal and that is not wrong. It is true that it is something that he cannot help because he is probably a naturally honest and open person. That does not mean he is likely to cheat on you; the honest and open type are less likely to cheat then the very smooth, charming, and charismatic type. He does not love those other girls; he loves you, regardless of what other girls look like. Just keep in mind that guy love is a little different than girl love and that if your relationship can overcome your little insecurity then it will be stronger.

southfalcon08 · Answer

The reason guys look at girls with good physical features and why girls do the same with guys is because we are biologically meant to. Good physical features = good genes. People have been researched on what they find most attractive and the results? Symmetric bodies! What do symmetric body parts represent? Better genes! If your boyfriend is looking at other girls, he is looking for qualities that would give his offspring the best competitive edge possible...having said that, our species have learned to love and find THAT more attractive. Thus, although we look for certain qualities, being with you and having your personality is worth more to him than how good your genes may be since he is still with you, which is saying something in my opinion! He will not be more likely to cheat on you but just make sure he knows that it hurts you and hopefully he will take it down a bit...getting more adventurous in bed will never be a bad thing...the more you give him what he wants or has thought about = keeping him DEEPLY interested in you!

KM5347 · Answer

I am extremely attracted to my girlfriend. I see guys with girlfriends walking around malls and stuff, and they could be holding hands with their girl, and I see the boyfriend raping my girlfriend with their eyes while holding another girls hand. It's disgusting and I usually say something, but at the same time, I can't help doing it too sometimes. If I notice someone that is just visually flawless, I don't even think. I just tell myself damn in my head. I keep it pretty quick at least. (staring in general is creepy. If your boyfriend is staring a little too much, you might wanna think about what kind of thoughts are going through his head that are captivating him for so long. Be bold! call him out.) What gets me every time though are those leggings. My girlfriend picked up on me noticing those real quick. It gets kind of annoying though because she always assumes I was looking when she sees a decent girl wearing them even if I didn't see her. I love my girlfriend and I go home to her every night and that is what matters. I wouldn't cheat on her. Not worth losing such a great girl over sex when I can get it from the girl I love and have already. Any day. So like I said, I would just relax if I were you. It's natural. If he ends up disappointing you though, I wouldn't forgive him. Staring and mistakes don't go good together.

Treet33 · Answer

Here's what you do...when your boyfriend checks out other girls in front of you...YOU check out other GUYS in front of him...if he trips, then you call him out on his B*llsh*t..if he doesn't, then you may have nothing to worry about, he may not realize that his behavior is offending you. If a guy can't handle you doing the same thing to him as he does to you, then it's time to kick him to the curb, or continue to give him a taste of his own medicine until he sees how offensive his actions are! Men are just as insecure as women, but men and women handle their insecurities differently. Women turn their insecurities inward, and feel bad about themselves, Men turn their insecurities outward by trying to see how many women they can get with...or a man might turn his insecurities toward his girlfriend in order to make her feel bad about herself and unattractive, so she can began to think she cannot get any other man besides his sorry a**.But if this scenario exists, it is not all the man's fault...if a woman  is dumb enough to believe she cannot get another man then..."Houston we have a problem"!

Anonymous · Answer

Welp, here's the deal. I don't think you weren't made to satisfy him, and neither is any other woman on the earth. And not just him specifically, but all guys. Doesn't it seem like a lot of guys are looking at porn even though they could have the real thing in their girlfriend/wife? It seems like all of us are looking for something more out there, maybe something that would finally satisfy all of our wants/needs. I'd say it's God, but you have to check that out for yourself.

Secondly, I think he can control it. As a guy going through the same sort of thing, I know its possible. I'm pretty sure the difference is between us trying to do the right thing, and us training to do the right thing. This is what I mean: what if some dude was going into the army, and he knew they were going to make him do 50 push ups right when he got there. No matter how hard he wants to and how hard he tries, if he doesn't physically train to do 50 push ups, he won't be able to do them. Same sort of deal with your boyfriend: He has to stop mentally "trying" (or maybe he's not even trying at all yet) and he has to turn that into action.

I think its fair for you to expect him to honor you, and if he's not living up to that, let him know. He may not care, but he may care. If he doesn't care about honoring you, its time to reassess the relationship.

RudeAwakening · Answer

Hi,

When your guy checks out a girl he's not doing anything that any man hasn't done, and continues to do. As you know men and women are made differently, but what you might not realize is that men are visual creatures of habit, and women are emotional creatures of habit.

You and your kind are moved by how something makes you feel, and your guy is moved by what he sees. That doesn't mean he will cheat on you, or that he even thinks that what he's looking at is more attractive than you. There are times that I've looked at a woman's butt, but the woman herself didn't appeal to me, yet I still looked.

Hopefully, he'll show some tact and do it respectfully.

Hope this helps1

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enigma2win · Answer

Ok, so ill explain this to you in the best manner possible.

Yes, ur boyfriend still loves you and find you attractive.

No, it has nothing to do with findinf them more attractive.

Males are wired differenty then females. As men, we are wired to focus on fertile women.

Big boobs, nice ass, fit body, cute face...those are all fertile qualities.

So, it is natural for him to look at other women.

Attraction happens, its a natural thing.

If he has a strong emotional connection with u, he will always prefer you out of every other women.

drummerdude25 · Answer

It's natural for a guy to see a pretty girl and automatically check her out. Guys are very visual and while a lot of times a girl is attracted to a guy emotionally, guys are purely attracted physically, but personality does play a role also.

It's really just natural... While these girls may be more physically "attractive" he says, he still thinks you are more "beautiful" because he actually knows you and likes your personality as well... You're beautiful inside and out to him...

Nothing to worry about... If he already finds you to be the most beautiful girl in the world, he might look at other attractive women, but he won't really have any interest in meeting/getting to know them.

:)

TreborPeridot · Answer

First, I think you worry too much about your appearance.

Next, A guy will ALWAYS look at other girls.

Guys are visual. We like to look at what's nice to look at.

It doesn't mean he doesn't love you.

It doesn't mean that he's want to cheat on you.

It doesn't mean that you're not good enough.

He's with you, right? He puts up with you any time you're difficult, right?

He does that for you, not them. That should say something.

Why do you think a lot of guys hesitate about commitment?

It's our challenge to focus on the beauty on just 1 girl when so many girls are beautiful.

If you have a brother, or cousin or a friend that's a guy, ask and you'll see.

daveguy · Answer

Your boyfriend is being extremely inconsiderate of your feelings when he "checks out" other women in front of you. Perhaps a reasonable tactic would be for you to ask him if he would like it if you checked out every hot guy that walks by, maybe comment on the possible size of their package. I bet he'd go through the roof, but it would make your point.

Bottom line, even if your boyfriend "must" check out other woman, you should be able to expect him not to do it in front of you. By doing it in front of you he's putting you second to his momentary indulgence of some chick walking by - your feelings should rank higher than that.

Lay it out for him and if he keeps it up move on.

- David

theyareallcrazy · Answer

I'm a people watcher. It drives my girlfriend crazy. To the point that she'll pick the seat with the best view so I won't have one.

I look at women and men. Of course, when I'm looking at women I might find some attractive. I also may find something funny about them, or hideous, or noteworthy for a multitude of reasons.

So how do you know he finds them attractive and that's the ONLY reason he's looking at them? Does he tell you this?

Do YOU ever look at a guy and think "He's Attractive?" If you say "No" I have a feeling it's total BS.

Be glad he's with you. Let him satisfy his curiousity by looking around. If you ever see him look at someone's dog, ask him if he's into beastiality.

ArizonaRX · Answer

Well, it's pretty rude to check other girls out in a way that is obvious to you. I'm not saying he should check out other girls or you check out other guys for that matter, it's just something that should be discreet and less obtrusive to your relationship.

I suggest you flamboyantly check out other guys while you are with him. Make some little comments under your breath so he barely hears them. See how he likes feeling self conscience and have the attention off of him and onto someone else. Sometimes a taste of bitter medicine, wakes people up.

20Questions · Answer

I would say 'No' to your first 2 questions. Everyone gets tempted by what is forbidden to them. Especially guys, in the area of physical attraction. But while most of us are like this naturally (as your boyfriend obviously is, please try and empathise with him) it can be controlled and eventually disciplined (though never fully).

From personal experience, if these habits continue, they could well lead to a guy being unfaithful to his lady. Your man needs to form a habit of bouncing his eyes off attractive females, and its highly possible to do. Talk to him as gently as possible and let him know how much it hurts you when he does this.

What I do is I think about God, is he displeased by my unfaithfulness? (cos that's what checking out other women is). Then I think about my girl, isn't she worth all my attention and sexual desire?

I hope your boyfriend isn't an atheist cos then you're screwed (joke)!

Hope this helps

Alistair · Answer

definite insecurity with you, men who are looking for something will go over and talk to the while men who just think the girl has nice features will just look... its natural for guys to check out other girls... doesn't mean he likes them more it just means he likes a certain aspect of them... you strike me as a girl who wouldn't even like if her man looked at porn cause then he's fantasizing about another girl or some sh*t. Men will always fantisize about other girls and sh*t but it doesn't mean they will act on it and/or that they aren't perfectly happy with you

dave_b_quick · Answer

We guys have a real problem with our eyes.  I didn't really notice that I had a problem until I had a girlfriend who let me know in no uncertain terms that I was cruising other women while I was supposed to be with her, and that she didn't like it.  When I'm with her now I make a huge effort, if I see another girl, not to stare, but instead to direct my eyes back to my own girl.  She checks me on it too.  Every time a pretty girl goes by she watches how I'll handle it.  I make it a point not to look longer than a second at the other woman, and when my eyes get back to my own girl her eyes are waiting for mine and she will smile and nod to indicate that I passed the test... this time.  Maybe you can teach your man this difficult discipline.

soslin711 · Answer

This subject is a little iffy for me because I think it depends. Everybody knows that guys like to look at girls.. it being 'natural' isn't an excuse if it bothers the girl though. I have come to accept the fact that guys are gonna look at other girls, it doesn't mean I'm not pretty enough, it doesn't mean they want a different girl, they just like to look! lol. HOWEVER, it is rude to do this blatantly in front of me. If we are at dinner, on a date, and you are sitting across from me and some girl with big t*ts hanging out of her shirt walks by and I can practically see the drool coming out of your mouth I'm gonna be irritated. Sometimes, the guy slips up, and I'm like okay, I get it, I forgive you, whatever. But doing it ALL the time right in front of me with no regard to how it makes me feel, is unacceptable.

phoenix23 · Answer

im an average looking girl, and I accept that there are much more gogeous girls than me out there and it doesn't bother me. I like looking at guys, and if I have a boyfriend I still have hormones lol.

if I catch a guy I'm with checking out a girl, whether its on the street or in a movie, it doesn't annoy me. most often ill say out loud what I think the guys thinking, like "i wish my t**s looked like that", or 'wow, look at the ass on that!" I make a joke about it. it catches them of guard and they love it! it can lead to a conversation about fanatsies about threesomes etc. its good fun, for you and the guy, and gets the attention back on u. I've had some pretty kinky conversations doin this, and we both end up horny ;)

hunnybunny81105 · Answer

It could mean he thinks they're more attractive or not. You don't really know. It is normal for people to check other people out. I rarely find someone I think is attractive, but if I see a guy I think is cute I look at him.

To look is different, if your boyfriend is doing it so obvious and drooling over her that is really disrespectful. If my boyfriend made a big deal out of looking at a girl then I'd be p*ssed. I know he looks at girls, but I know he looks at people in general lol. I know when he looks at someone pretty he always asks my opinion if I think they're pretty too or ugly. I know it's nice to know he's thinking of me haha.

Openminded · Answer

I have 9 brothers and my family is mostly guys. No he doesn't think they are more beautiful than you or even wants them he's just being a guy. Its kind how you see a guy on a movie or tv an think that he's sexy or cute. It doesn't mean that you want him or that you think he's sexier or anything. I guess its just human behavior. Your worrying to much. My uncle took a bullet for my aunt when they got robbed but he still looks at other girls. As long as he doesn't touch them or try to hit on them or anything then your fine.

drSkabs · Answer

No. He doesn't necessarily  think they are more beautiful than you. Even if you think they are, it's probably for different reasons. Honestly, I check out guys and girls all the time, but it doesn't mean I'm interested in them that way. Plus, men are very visual beings. I do it because I'm the artsy type. I wouldn't worry about him cheating either. If he was cheating he wouldn't make it so obvious. Another thing is, maybe he does it to make you a little jealous in order to get a reaction out of you and validate himself so that he knows you care ( dumb, I know, but we all do dumb things). Basically from now on try to ignore it, if he keeps making it more and more obvious then clearly he is doing for the reaction, if he stops, then that means he realizes that's not the way to get to you. Hope this helps. :)

Loveispateint · Answer

Guys are going to look, just like you are going to look. It doesn't have to mean anything other than he thinks she is pretty. It could mean that he finds her more attractive but look at the reason he is with you. There is more substance to your bond than looks and you are more than just a pretty girl to him.

Don't assume that he is cheating with you in his mind just because he looks at pretty girls who walking by. That is a man's nature. You know you look too but you know what your intentions are not to gawk and think about what it would be like to be with some other guy. Men do what men do but he doesn't have to be a jerk of course.

achope246 · Answer

Yeah, I don't think he's comparing you to another girl, just looking. I've been married for almost 9 years and my husband still does it on occasion. He just tries to be smooth about it. I'm actually OK with it because I trust him. I hate to admit it, but sometimes even I'm amazed by a girl's boobs and have to point her out to him (like he hasn't already noticed, lol), or if I catch him looking at a girl I call him out on it just to give him a hard time. Unless you don't trust him, I don't think it's that big of a deal, except for the fact that he's so obvious about it. He should have more respect for you than he does.

bellybuttonlint · Answer

I totally disagree with the other guys who says it is a natural reaction.

It's natural to find someone attractive, but not natural to gawk at them. I don't think that he's not satisfied with you, I'm sure he is. But a lot of guys are just trained by the media to stare. I don't think it's ever appropriate because I wouldn't like my girl to stare at other guys.

But I don't think this makes the guy more likely to cheat. I just think it makes him inconsiderate.

CakeGirl02 · Answer

I don't think that when a guy checks a girl out in front of his girlfriend that it means anything but he notices an attractive girl. If this bothers you, than perhaps you need to have a conversation with him about this.

You cannot say that you haven't notice an attractive guy while with him at some point or another. I know you probably don't say anything out of respect but if it's chipping away at your self-esteem and you're insecure when he does this than you definitely need to address that with him.

angbrennil · Answer

I think it is just a natural thing for people to look at the opposite sex. Have you never looked at a guy and thought "Hmm not bad" but still think your man is better looking?

Guys are very visual creatures... just because the admire other women does not mean they will cheat or think you are less beautiful... it just means that they admire the opposite sex.

Women do the same thing... I know I do and have never been ashamed of it, I also admire other women that I think are beautiful. I have never cheated in any relationship. I have lived by a saying all my life: It is okay to check out the menu just make sure you eat at home.

gfe0001 · Answer

just because a guy checks a girl out it doesn't mean  that he finds her more attractive. there are  many  pretty woman out there and its natural to look,  it has noting to do with your appearance. looking at her doesn't make you less attractive to him . it only becomes a problem if he's rude about it and does it constantly when your together but if he doesn't don't let it affect you it really isn't a big deal.but if it makes you feel very uncomfortable try to talk to him about it and if he doesn't change then maybe that's a personality flaw that you will deal with or reevaluate if you two are compatible.

ankurunderdog · Answer

Do you do d same thing as he does?If yes den d question is baseless but if ur don't feel like him den you shud take a step.D guy is taking you for granted,hold him back tell him that you won't be wid him if he continues 2 do dis...if necessary stop talking wid him for sumtime,if he loves you he'll stop dese activities very soon,and girl its never about physique its abt love & affection,u have it over d edge so you are satisfied wid him,if he stops his misdeeds den he loves you or else...

Find out yourself.

brettbuck · Answer

For me when me and my ex were together, and I saw a good looking girl I would look at my girl and give her all of my attention. It sound like your dude is a little immature tool. Do this next time you’re out together blatantly look at a different guy and see what he does.

kevin15776 · Answer

And you never look at other guys?  It's human nature.  Whether he's going to be faithful or not is a different story.  If his girl viewing is so obvious that it bothers you, say something, but don't nag.  Make a joke of it.  Say something like, "She's hot.  I'd do her."  Joke about it--make it a non issue.  Show you're confidence.  That's a huge turn on to guys.  There's nothing worse in a relationship than an insecure partner.

Anonymous · Answer

I have to agree with the some of the girls on this one, you definitely seem insecure, certainly don't seem self confident and a little conceited, seems like you want any and all and as much attention from him as you can get. If your head gets any bigger you won't be able to get through doorways...lol.  And most guys won't say this but reality check its not all about you, and yes its wrong to check out other girls in front of you as it would be the same for you checking out other guys in front of him, sure guys will be guys. Ask yourself something he is with you right? Who does he go home with? it should be you and if its not then there are other problems if he is doing things with other girls.

Delahatesyou · Answer

Take into consideration the following:

guys still have the instinct to mate with more than just one woman, thus spread their genes.

guys eye sight is more focused so when they look at something, everyone knows it.

just because he's looking doesn't mean he's going to touch.

Quit being so jealous.

TheGoodTheBadTheHOT · Answer

As many have said before me, it's human instinct, even if a girl is not more attractive than you, he will still look out of interest, just because he looks doesn't mean he will go any further than that. I'm sure that if you were at the beach with him and a group of muscular, tanned, male models walked past you'd check them out, don't lie ;)

OceanLover · Answer

all guys' minds are wired differently than girls. guys focus much more on appearance and it's honestly just instinct to check them out. he really can't help it. it doesn't mean he finds you less attractive than those other girls. and it doesn't mean he's more likely to cheat. it's just the way our minds work.

but if it's not just glancing at girls and he's staring for a really long time, then it may be a problem.

mikkie180 · Answer

There is no way to determine what is going through his mind, but his behavior is pretty rude. Why males are stimulated visually, we can help not staring if we want to. Why he insists on behaving rudely is the question here. He may not have enough respect for you or your feelings. Maybe he has gotten too comfortable in your relationship that he figures he can behave like a cad.

Standingpretty · Answer

This is an age-old qeustion and the answer is no. just because your boyfriend checks out other women doesn't mean he's going to cheat or thinks she's hotter. Guys really can't help checking women out and most of the time, there not checking a girl out but actually just looking at her in a non-sexual way. Most of the time he probably doesn't even notice what he's doing. It's really hard for women to understand because they don't do it but it's really just how men are.

h3lpm3plz · Answer

really cool question. I do it a lot, not because I like to check out girls ( I do) but mainly I like to let my girlfriend catch me doing it and make her all jealous. its kinda mean (im sorry girls) but I always like to see them jealous and mad. I like to have an excuse to cheer them up and make them smile again.

is that werid?

HonestMan · Answer

Guys do like to look at girls, but not like people act like. Only closet gay dudes trying to cover it up or guys that don't get enough p**** will stare and drool over a girl. And if he really likes them he will cheat on you. He doesn't respect youu either. Drop that a**hole. I'm being honest with you, not trying to blame it on "instinct". Its a choice. I love looking at beautiful women, but if I'm with my girlfriend I have respect for her. I don't stand there and ogle over some random chick that I don't even know. I can just look at my own beautiful woman.

nomadia · Answer

its human nature to be attracted to beautiful creatures. the real problem is he's doing it in front of you. that sounds like he doesn't really care about your feelings. he may not cheat but with an attitude like that don't think he might not because he just might. it never does it in front of you OK I would say obviously he cares and respects you enough to not do it around you.

ThoroughFred · Answer

You are expecting a man to not be a man. Guys will always look at other women, that's not the issue. The issue is how obviously he is doing it in front of you. It sounds like it has nothing to do with whether he finds you attractive or not, it's more that he doesn't seem to have a lot of respect for you. But since I have no idea what you look like, ya never know...

mythro · Answer

It's a natural thing, for example when I see a butterfly I immediatly think it's pretty and stare until it flies away. It's the same situation. Just because a man think another woman is attractive does not mean he is going to cheat on you or break up with you. Right afterhe passes the girl she's probably already forgotten and new topic such as what's for dinner is already taken over.

Riksounds · Answer

If it is something that happens more than occasionally then he's being rude and disrespectful to you! That may be a sign that you should take a stronger stance and set him straight about that sort of activity concerning you! It just means he does it all the time otherwise when your not around also!

JustWondering6 · Answer

Its very common for men to check out other women, there's not enough information to tell if he'd be likely to cheat but many guys just look at other women for fun and he may not find them more or as attractive then he finds you, variation interests men even if they have no intention of doing or wanting to do anything with the other women, I also agree with mshaker, look but don't touch =P

TexPlayboy · Answer

Guys always look, and be honest, girls dress to attract attention, so it is hard not to notice. But more important is how he acts. If he is not chasing the skirt, I think you will be OK. It sounds like you are as good as he can get. :-)

Have some confidence in yourself, and trust your relationship to be strong enough to survive his wondering eye.

Good Luck,

James

crazylady009 · Answer

I think you are being way to insecure here.  Although he may be insensitve and immature, as most people say, don't take it as a threat to your relationship.  Guys will be guys.  My boyfriend tells me all the tome how much he loves me, but I have still caught my boyfriend checking other girls out ...most of the time when he does it, I find an attractive guy to check out and comment on.  Immature, yes, but we both get a good laugh out of it and he loves that I'm not insecure like his friends' girlfriends.  You just need to chill out a bit because if you start getting too paranoid and insecure, it may freak your guy out.

darkknight1x · Answer

We all do that its a natural reaction. We've been checking women out for most of our lives it is hard to not look at them. It doesn't mean he's not happy with how you look. He's most likely thinking that he wants to have a threesome with you and the woman he's looking at.

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LittleMissV · Answer

he is being a guy :)

i know, I would be annoyed if my boyfriend did the same thing, but when he does check out girls or comments on them, I tease him about it, to show him that I don't really mind (I do mind.. a little) it bugs him that I don't seem to care, and that way, he stops checking them out.

if you trust him to only look at these girls and not touch them, then that's fine :3 but if he starts to do more than just checking out, well then... he's got a problem.

i wouldn't worry too much though :)

if he says you're beautiful, then you are. those other girls are nothing. good luck *hugs*

juaN073 · Answer

It's something that basically all guys except homosexuals are going to do, even we have girlfriends or wifes. It's just instinct like flammabledude said. At least you can be thankful he does it in front of you and not when he's alone... anyways it doesn't mean he does not like the way you look like its just something we can't stop doing as guys, at least me.

spittingblaze · Answer

Look, it's not like the female or male sexes or even you won't find someone hotter than your boyfriend that you might want to check out just with your eyes. Isn't there any celebs that you find hotter than your boyfriend or is he the finest piece of meat you've ever seen that you've never found yourself looking at other males around you that are attractive but when your boyfriend is around does that mean you are going to **** every hot guy you see? If he cares about you, you can trust him not to cheat on you but then again it's possible he might anyway. Just because I look at hot guys chests and asses doesn't mean I am more likely to cheat on my boyfriend for those other people I find more attractive. Besides what if my boyfriend was so good at sex that even if he was ugly it would be hard to dump him for someone more attractive?

Justbereal2602 · Answer

I've learned in life there will always be people in the world that will be better looking than you and some that are not-so-good looking when compared to you.. It's natural to look. And I am sure you have looked too, just haven't gotten caught. People are just naturally creatures of curiousity and when one finds someone attractive they usually tend to sneak a peek (or two) but doesn't mean his feelings have changed... it's not like he's running after her for her number or anything. So just know that at the end of the day he's comin home to you... and I am sure you are quite the lovely lady... :o)

DIPEPDINGOLD · Answer

Just look for the different signs. Usually if a guy is no longer in you then we will not have sex with you anymore, and it will be obvious and you will feel you guys growing apart BUT with guys looking at other women it is RUDE...ANNOYING...but THEY are men. Men are attracted to women but dosen't mean he will cheat. Just like if you see a hott sexy guy...you will look right? For a guy its even difficult because that's their whole framework...girls, girls, and...girls.

MrXYZ · Answer

Plus and Minus, he's probably gotten use to you, so he doesn't think it would bother you if he looked at other girls from time to time. I say, if he can listen to you and respond his mind is on you and only you. He won't cheat. If he complete blocks you out, his mind is running from you.

I said plus and minus because we will always look at other girls even when you think we're not. When the one we are with is in presence, we usually think, not to look at other females because you'll think just what your thinking at the moment. But the thing is, he knows all the heck he'd have to go through to get a girl right of the streets. He won't cheat unless another women makes that easy for him too. -...-

Marshall33 · Answer

It means he is a man. He enjoys beautiful women to stare at and he most likely then thinks to himself how it would be interesting if she thought he was handsome but then redirects his attention to you and feels the desire to have you stimulate him visually and seduce him. he is not a hypocrite about it which says a lot of good about him. It has NOTHING to do with you in the moment when he does so. That it seems is your main concern.

anotherdude · Answer

hey girls talk about how they think certain people are so hot and stuff. "Lyk OMG did you see TayL3r lautner last night?"

"YEA HE WAS SO HOT!"

girls do that all the time, even if they have boyfriends. No he doesn't think they're more attractive, he just thinks that they're attractive too.

AyoMari · Answer

No this does not mean he no longer is satisfied with you or doesn't find you atractive, it's in a guys DNA to have wondering eyes. Just like girls when we look at a really atractive guy on the street it doesn't mean that we no longer care for our partner it just means we appreciate a good looking man when we see one. I also have to agree with the girls below me it seems to me that you have insecruity problems. You think that just because he looks at other women your no longer pretty enough and that will make him cheat. That's not true ,you need to know that if he wanted to cheat or he found someone else better looking he would have dumped you long time ago. But he's with you because HE finds you the most beautiful.

Anonymous · Answer

All guys do this. The ones that claim they don't just don't want to admit it or are better at hiding what they are doing. This is no way means he doesn't find you attractive or that he is going to cheat on you. If he actually felt that way he would've left you a long time ago.

makevali · Answer

here are my thoughts, most guys automatically check out girls, its become a habit so treat it as a habit, also you can tell what kind of guy your dating by simply seeing how strong he resists the urge to look if he lets his eyes stare (for too long) then you can probably tell he's an unfaithful one :p

I see where your coming from and your boyfriend should feel a tad bit of shame

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