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When my boyfriend checks out another girl does that mean he finds her more attractive? (Page 3)
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its human nature to be attracted to beautiful creatures. the real problem is he's doing it in front of you. that sounds like he doesn't really care about your feelings. he may not cheat but with an attitude like that don't think he might not because he just might. it never does it in front of you OK I would say obviously he cares and respects you enough to not do it around you.
You are expecting a man to not be a man. Guys will always look at other women, that's not the issue. The issue is how obviously he is doing it in front of you. It sounds like it has nothing to do with whether he finds you attractive or not, it's more that he doesn't seem to have a lot of respect for you. But since I have no idea what you look like, ya never know...
It's a natural thing, for example when I see a butterfly I immediatly think it's pretty and stare until it flies away. It's the same situation. Just because a man think another woman is attractive does not mean he is going to cheat on you or break up with you. Right afterhe passes the girl she's probably already forgotten and new topic such as what's for dinner is already taken over.
If it is something that happens more than occasionally then he's being rude and disrespectful to you! That may be a sign that you should take a stronger stance and set him straight about that sort of activity concerning you! It just means he does it all the time otherwise when your not around also!
Its very common for men to check out other women, there's not enough information to tell if he'd be likely to cheat but many guys just look at other women for fun and he may not find them more or as attractive then he finds you, variation interests men even if they have no intention of doing or wanting to do anything with the other women, I also agree with mshaker, look but don't touch =P
Guys always look, and be honest, girls dress to attract attention, so it is hard not to notice. But more important is how he acts. If he is not chasing the skirt, I think you will be OK. It sounds like you are as good as he can get. :-)
Have some confidence in yourself, and trust your relationship to be strong enough to survive his wondering eye.
Good Luck,
James
Great point man a lot of girls could be walking 10 feet away yet they are kinda in your face with how they are dressed.
This happened to me y'day, and it's caused so much trouble in my relationship :( My boyfriend isn't the type to objectify ordinarily, but this girl comes sauntering down the street in Katy Perry esque attire and he spent a good and very painful 30 seconds checking her out with his peripheral vision. When I pulled him up about it he got angry and defensive and claimed to have been looking in her direction only. It's just not usual behavior and the length of the stare was pretty hurtful :(
Him looking should not threaten you or your relationship. If you are going to worry about that, you are in for a life of frustration. Relax and enjoy the fact that you caught him without having to dress like that. Good Luck, James
I think you are being way to insecure here. Although he may be insensitve and immature, as most people say, don't take it as a threat to your relationship. Guys will be guys. My boyfriend tells me all the tome how much he loves me, but I have still caught my boyfriend checking other girls out ...most of the time when he does it, I find an attractive guy to check out and comment on. Immature, yes, but we both get a good laugh out of it and he loves that I'm not insecure like his friends' girlfriends. You just need to chill out a bit because if you start getting too paranoid and insecure, it may freak your guy out.
We all do that its a natural reaction. We've been checking women out for most of our lives it is hard to not look at them. It doesn't mean he's not happy with how you look. He's most likely thinking that he wants to have a threesome with you and the woman he's looking at.
That's not something that you yell your girl. It's selfish and you're basically telling her that she's not taking care of you enough.
If you wouldn't share her with another guy, then never ask a girl to do that.
If they're on here, obviously they don't want to share so please think before you post something stupid.
I know that. I don't tell women everything that I think about. I didn't post anything stupid. I've never had a girl and even if she was on here she wouldn't know that I'm her boyfriend.
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he is being a guy :)
i know, I would be annoyed if my boyfriend did the same thing, but when he does check out girls or comments on them, I tease him about it, to show him that I don't really mind (I do mind.. a little) it bugs him that I don't seem to care, and that way, he stops checking them out.
if you trust him to only look at these girls and not touch them, then that's fine :3 but if he starts to do more than just checking out, well then... he's got a problem.
i wouldn't worry too much though :)
if he says you're beautiful, then you are. those other girls are nothing. good luck *hugs*
It's something that basically all guys except homosexuals are going to do, even we have girlfriends or wifes. It's just instinct like flammabledude said. At least you can be thankful he does it in front of you and not when he's alone... anyways it doesn't mean he does not like the way you look like its just something we can't stop doing as guys, at least me.
I'd rather my boyfriend did it when I wasn't there, rather than both.
Look, it's not like the female or male sexes or even you won't find someone hotter than your boyfriend that you might want to check out just with your eyes. Isn't there any celebs that you find hotter than your boyfriend or is he the finest piece of meat you've ever seen that you've never found yourself looking at other males around you that are attractive but when your boyfriend is around does that mean you are going to **** every hot guy you see? If he cares about you, you can trust him not to cheat on you but then again it's possible he might anyway. Just because I look at hot guys chests and asses doesn't mean I am more likely to cheat on my boyfriend for those other people I find more attractive. Besides what if my boyfriend was so good at sex that even if he was ugly it would be hard to dump him for someone more attractive?
I've learned in life there will always be people in the world that will be better looking than you and some that are not-so-good looking when compared to you.. It's natural to look. And I am sure you have looked too, just haven't gotten caught. People are just naturally creatures of curiousity and when one finds someone attractive they usually tend to sneak a peek (or two) but doesn't mean his feelings have changed... it's not like he's running after her for her number or anything. So just know that at the end of the day he's comin home to you... and I am sure you are quite the lovely lady... :o)
Just look for the different signs. Usually if a guy is no longer in you then we will not have sex with you anymore, and it will be obvious and you will feel you guys growing apart BUT with guys looking at other women it is RUDE...ANNOYING...but THEY are men. Men are attracted to women but dosen't mean he will cheat. Just like if you see a hott sexy guy...you will look right? For a guy its even difficult because that's their whole framework...girls, girls, and...girls.
Plus and Minus, he's probably gotten use to you, so he doesn't think it would bother you if he looked at other girls from time to time. I say, if he can listen to you and respond his mind is on you and only you. He won't cheat. If he complete blocks you out, his mind is running from you.
I said plus and minus because we will always look at other girls even when you think we're not. When the one we are with is in presence, we usually think, not to look at other females because you'll think just what your thinking at the moment. But the thing is, he knows all the heck he'd have to go through to get a girl right of the streets. He won't cheat unless another women makes that easy for him too. -...-
It means he is a man. He enjoys beautiful women to stare at and he most likely then thinks to himself how it would be interesting if she thought he was handsome but then redirects his attention to you and feels the desire to have you stimulate him visually and seduce him. he is not a hypocrite about it which says a lot of good about him. It has NOTHING to do with you in the moment when he does so. That it seems is your main concern.
hey girls talk about how they think certain people are so hot and stuff. "Lyk OMG did you see TayL3r lautner last night?"
"YEA HE WAS SO HOT!"
girls do that all the time, even if they have boyfriends. No he doesn't think they're more attractive, he just thinks that they're attractive too.
Yeah but we don't fkn check them out in front of you so... please. It hurts our feelings more than you think, and us girls are self concious enough..
Actually you do but we can't tell because you use peripherals.
Thats not true cause I know people that are in a relationship and will say that person looks better than her/his gf/bf...i mean I had every1 telling me that my x boyfriend was ugly and why am I with him...i told them because in my eyes he's perfect...
No this does not mean he no longer is satisfied with you or doesn't find you atractive, it's in a guys DNA to have wondering eyes. Just like girls when we look at a really atractive guy on the street it doesn't mean that we no longer care for our partner it just means we appreciate a good looking man when we see one. I also have to agree with the girls below me it seems to me that you have insecruity problems. You think that just because he looks at other women your no longer pretty enough and that will make him cheat. That's not true ,you need to know that if he wanted to cheat or he found someone else better looking he would have dumped you long time ago. But he's with you because HE finds you the most beautiful.
All guys do this. The ones that claim they don't just don't want to admit it or are better at hiding what they are doing. This is no way means he doesn't find you attractive or that he is going to cheat on you. If he actually felt that way he would've left you a long time ago.
BS, I don't check girls out, and if I catch my eyes wondering I reign them it. Why don't I because I think its pathetic and because girls say they don't like that.
+1 for earlofpuuding
I don't see how you're different EarlofPudding? You just said your eyes wander... that is exactly what we're talking about. Guys are hardwired to notice females for mating purposes, it's the animal instinct in us. Okay sure you reign your eyes in quicker than some guys, but that doesn't mean you still don't do it. I agree that staring blindly at a girl when you're with your girlfriend is offensive and I don't do it either, but don't try to pretend you don't look at all.
here are my thoughts, most guys automatically check out girls, its become a habit so treat it as a habit, also you can tell what kind of guy your dating by simply seeing how strong he resists the urge to look if he lets his eyes stare (for too long) then you can probably tell he's an unfaithful one :p
I see where your coming from and your boyfriend should feel a tad bit of shame