How to ask a girl out?

[Anonymous]

Girls, In what way do you wish a guy would ask you out?

[fastboxster]

I clicked this link hoping to find some insight myself. You must be inspired to ask such as question. I have to say honestly though, if you try too hard to impress a girl, it will likely backfire. The safest approach to getting a date is just to mention some activities you like to do. You can start this conversation by saying hello and asking how her weekend went. Mention a movie you want to see. Depending on her response, ask her to join you next time. Do that a few times with different girls (including some you might not think of as a girlfriend, but maybe a friend). Eventually you'll find your own "material" that works for you. If you're particularly enamored by a special girl, just keep complimenting her in subtle ways as often as you can. She will encourage you if she feels the same way, and you will feel a natural inspiration to ask her out. Typically a guy should always be prepared with ideas of things to do in case he decides to ask someone out. The "Would you go out with me?" approach is likely to fail, but if you have a specific activity in mind that you think she will enjoy you stand a better chance. Be aware of what your family and friends are planning to do on the weekend (going to the mall, going to a concert, basketball game, etc.) It's easy to just mention to a girl that you and your friend are thinking about seeing a movie and you'd like her to come if she can. If you like each other, it won't be long before you're spending time just the two of you.

[darkkakashi004]

When I was planning on asking my girlfriend I got some crazy advice from friends like, write it on a napkin at an ice cream place or something. Lol I thought it was pretty ridiculous so I just straight asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend. (although I suppose it could work?)

^^sorry I'm not a girl, but the advice I was given was from a girl so I suppose it makes it semi-alright.

[kurkjianb]

Not making a big deal out of it would be nice.

it's annoying when they ask us out in front of their friends and show off. MAJOR TURN-OFF. I will automatically reject you. Casually ask us if you could talk to us "over there" or "in private" if she's with friends. Or if she's by herself just tell her you like her and want to know if she''l go out with you, it's that simple. Rejections happen, maybe she just doesn't like you though, so um yeah, don't call her a bitch if she says no. Guys do that to us in my school.

[studmuffin-perfect10]

What if your so pathetic that you only speak to girls on dating sites because girls in real life would ignore when you speak ? then can you bye email ? lol

[LittleMissGriff]

Directly. Oh dear god, directly. I know, personally, I am a master as seeing what guys like my friends. However, when it comes to anyone interested in me? I'm dumb as a stump. I don't get subtle at all. I think you're just being friendly. A nice 'Hey, so I think you are really charming/fun/beautiful, and I was wondering if we could go out this weekend. Are you interested?' would be absolutely fantastic.

[hlovebug2134]

Alone maybe in a forest...wait no, you will probably look like you want to r8pe her, anyway just don't do it over text or voice mail or scream out the window of a car (it's happened). just figure out her and her hobbies and show her that you care

Example:

she loves biking, so you too rent bikes and travel up a mountain and when the sun sets you ask her out.

[Apath4]

I like them to ask me out of nowhere with no warning signs [no warning signs: meaning I'm expecting them to ask me out b/c my friends already told me]] when I'm by myself. Because if its in front of a lot a people or I'm expecting it bet it on black I'll say NO!

[loveAnsweringOldQS]

I clicked this link hoping to find some insight myself. You must be inspired to ask such as question. I have to say honestly though, if you try too hard to impress a girl, it will likely backfire. The safest approach to getting a date is just to mention some activities you like to do. You can start this conversation by saying hello and asking how her weekend went. Mention a movie you want to see. Depending on her response, ask her to join you next time. Do that a few times with different girls (including some you might not think of as a girlfriend, but maybe a friend). Eventually you'll find your own "material" that works for you. If you're particularly enamored by a special girl, just keep complimenting her in subtle ways as often as you can. She will encourage you if she feels the same way, and you will feel a natural inspiration to ask her out. Typically a guy should always be prepared with ideas of things to do in case he decides to ask someone out. The "Would you go out with me?" approach is likely to fail, but if you have a specific activity in mind that you think she will enjoy you stand a better chance. Be aware of what your family and friends are planning to do on the weekend (going to the mall, going to a concert, basketball game, etc.) It's easy to just mention to a girl that you and your friend are thinking about seeing a movie and you'd like her to come if she can. If you like each other, it won't be long before you're spending time just the two of you.

[k7993]

ok if a guy was to ask me out I would want it to be just me an him like were having a converstation an then bam out of nowher he asks me but in a sweet way were if we were talking he would be like could I ask you something an be like will you go out with me or be my girl friend

[993099142]

I don't want him to ask me out. I want him to show me that he loves me and cares for me, buys me flowers, bubble gum, candy, compliments me on my personality, reaches out to me and has deep conversations with me. Move into a relationship without specifically asking me out.

[Anonymous]

Awww well it would have to be something amazing - I would recommend you use a talent of yours (if you don't think you have one - trust me- you'll find something!) every girl I know loves to be asked out in a unique way - and try a little! Make it seem like you used a little effort, but don't go OTT =]

[Candytwist96]

wow.uhmm one thing.DONT EVER do it over email!

aha this guy asked me out over email, and I was doubting it if I should say yes or no, then I decided to say no and one of the reasons was the way he asked me out

so ask her out in person and tell her she's beautiful and stuff =]

[studmuffin-perfect10]

What if your so pathetic that you only speak to girls on dating sites because girls in real life would ignore when you speak ? then can you bye email ? lol

[minnie-mouse1289]

Get me alone and say You're Beautiful. Would you like to go out sometime? NEVER EVER get my number from one of your friends or my ex and randomly call me (sorry personal issue)

[lost-angel]

Lol yah I hate that too.

[studmuffin-perfect10]

If you tell a girl she beautiful, well I would get laught at . "he thinks he's he's attractive he's not in my league" they say lol

[xxHangingOnxx]

I really don't care as long as he comes up to me and asks instead of having someone else do it. Notes are cute; like, not im's and emails. Kind of ruins the point.

[secretsinseadle95]

i wish he would.

say i've been crushing on you for the longest time and you have to be the most beautiful girl in the school. the only thing I wish is if you would accept to be girlfriend?

place/time.

somewhere public saying I care enough that I don't care if the world knew I was practically in love with you! time any if your that romantic I would say yes in a heartbeat!

[lil-beautimus]

Anyway but over the phone. Its not cool. Spontaneously is a great way

[jessie63]

Not over the computer! haha that's the worst also not in front of his or my friends cause that is awkward :p

[PopOnArrival]

I completely agree, NOT OVER THE COMPUTER!!!

I advise men not to be afraid to ask a woman out IN FRONT of HER friends. This move shows that you have confidence and although her friends may tease her a bit for it, she just got asked out and they didn't. Who's the real winner of this situation?

[katyylee]

in person, do not ask in im, txt, e mail, note, phone.it just ruins the moment

[CRAZYxREBEL]

As a pleasant surprise. Girls love to be asked out. Just do it.

[sassycowchick-17]

Just ask me out! I'm not gonna wait around for you. It doesn't have to be anything special.

[Anonymous]

all you who have answered recently.look at the date, he asked this over a year ago he probably doesn't need any help anymore lol

[ashleyattack]

come up to me grab my hand and just flat out ask me :P

[misha1992]

in person at a very pretty or romantic location or werever you both feel comfortable.

[hesidocambiado]

ask her to be your girlfriend, not just to go out with you. it means a lot more, and it's cuter.

[Familywww]

Well get her alone or write a really cute note. If you talk to her just ask her right out with a smile and reccamind a movie. If note just walk by give it to her and smile or wink.

[Akaesea]

Flowers and chocolates, anything girly really. I love it when guys are really sweet about it an dask you comfortably, because if you are uncomfortable, we are too.

[musiclova16]

Just ask me straight out, I won't even care if my friends told me he was gonna ask me out first.