So...How do I NOT give off gay vibes?

[xxxmegan]

I'm strait,very strait.I I'm totally okay with gay people,I really have no problem with it,and I'm certainly not homophobic.But recently my besties pointed out that I give off gay vibes.They say that I get hit on by girls like a lot.I mean, I've gotten 6 love letters so far from girls,groped by girls,hit on by girls,and asked out by girls.One of my friends actually said she had a crush on me,and when it comes to girls having crushes on me,I don't care,if they want to like me they can,I'm not going to stop them.

But my bestie Eric said that at parties he has to fight guys and girls off me. He says that I give off vibes that say "I'm gay".

So I'm kinda wondering how I give off those vibes?

And how do I get rid of them?

[browolf]

it must be something to do with the way you are/behave at a subconscious level since attraction is not a choice. If you could distill the essence and bottle it, you'd be rich in no time. Females have like buttons that get pushed in interaction. Most of this happens without people being aware of what exactly happened or how they did it. Whatever you're doing, subconsciously its pushing these buttons. I realize I'm being a bit vague here. I know some theory on the matter. This is how the vibes are given off. Unfortunately I can't say what they might be exactly. If I knew that.lol

Interaction is approx 7% words, 50% body language and 43% tone and vocal stuff. In order to work out what you're doing, I would try and compare your own body language and tone to other people, guys and girls. I would imagine there's a difference between yours and say other girls. Like magnets, opposites attract. It's kind of hard to watch yourself when you're interacting, do that or get someone else to watch you.

[xxxmegan]

Thanks : ] I will try to compare myself to others,see what's going on...

[browolf]

It occurred to me, that if you hang out with guys a lot (eric), maybe you've picked up some of their behaviors.

[xxxmegan]

OMG!You could be right on that! Ah!Holt crap!

[grace86]

I don't think you're giving off "gay vibes". Unless you're shouting "I FIND WOMEN ATTRACTIVE" which I doubt you are doing. I'm not a believer in vibes.

Gay women may find you attractive and may try it on with you in case you fancy them too. How do they know you're gay or not?

It's just like a man asking a woman out and her not finding him attractive.

Lots of people used to think I was gay and I have absolutely no idea why.

[xxxmegan]

That may be it...Thanks : ]

[gigi007]

There is nothing wrong with giving gay vibes. you know you are straight and that's all that counts. now if girls are attracted to you that just means your banging hot, and totally nice. Maybe you can be a bit liberal and that's were the vibes come in. people might think that because you don't have a problem with what they do youd actually do it. and that's were the problem comes in. you can get rid of it if you wanna get rid of your personality.

[xxxmegan]

Thanks,that really helps : ]

[gravygirl]

There are some girls who have a way of looking at me that is more like a guy would then how a girl would. Do you think you might be doing that? Because I'm sure that if I were interested in girls I'd be approaching these girls first.

[xxxmegan]

Hmm...I dunno...Thanks : ]

[OhDangLetsBanggg87]

uhhh. if a girl starts to hit on you then just say no, I don't go that way. or something. I'm bi, and in my past when I thought my friend was too, she said no. I was heartbroken, but hey, everything happens for a reason.

[xxxmegan]

I usually do just politely reject them,but in theory I was just wondering why....Thanks : ]