What creates attraction in women towards a man?

[Anonymous]

Girls of GAG: I want to know personally what attracts you to a man... does a light-hearted, joke-heavy conversation work more than a more serious and intellectual conversation? Talking about careers? Divulging more personal information and more intimate personal details? Not like super personal but things close to your heart.

What is best that triggers something in you that says, "this guy is different..."?

[DesirexDina]

For me personally I am intregued by knowledge of any capacity. I want to be with someone who can hold a decent conversation whether they agree or disagree with what I'm saying. I also want to be heard and not just have him nod because it looks like he understands but if I speak and you don't understand something ask what I mean. At this point in time the average guy can find someone to sleep with for little to no effort but the reason it never lasts is because females don't require a foundation to build upon. We hold the power and we freely give it away for attention. When we first met a guy we should really ask them questions we would want to be asked to see where their head is.

[dragonfly6516]

This a really broad question that will vary greatly from woman to woman based on individual opinions and preferences. If you're wanting an average of the most popular answer, you might want to make a poll.

Personally, I prefer being with a man who's like a best friend. I don't expect him to take care of, just be supportive. I don't need his full undivided attention, in fact I don't even need to see him every single day, so it's nor important to me that we have lots of hobbies in common as opposed to deeper morals and life goals.

[CallMeAlice]

I'm attracted to men who can make me laugh, are confident in themselves, will challenge me when necessary, enjoy conversation (I despise small talk) and exhibit gentleman qualities (holding the door, checking on you when you're sick, making sure you get home etc)

[Emjoyit2x]

Confidence, intelligence, A JOB, A CAR, A ROOM AT LEAST, nice smile, smell, shoes clean, clothes clean, haircut

[bekkesmash]

That sounds super hypergamous, it's sad how much women care about money and the material.

[Emjoyit2x]

Lol you must like unkept men then. Boooooorrrrring

[bekkesmash]

I am not, but you needing a guy to have a job, a car and a room (as seemingly the most important things, since you typed it in higher case) is off putting to men, and just sad overall.

[Emjoyit2x]

Says who? Broke ass bums! I'll say this if I am working. He is working. So on and so on

[bekkesmash]

I am rich (well my dad is) and I say this... I hide most signs of wealth from women because they might be like you.

[Emjoyit2x]

Yeah but you may be ugly. So it doesn't matter

[bekkesmash]

Don't think I am, but that is a whole other argument, it isn't relevant.

[Emjoyit2x]

Um your look is definitely relevant ok. Its the first thing women see is you and how you present yourself.

[bekkesmash]

The argument is about you needing a guy to have material possessions as a prerequisite to date him, obviously you have to be at least somewhat attracted to him at first. The sad thing is that if he didn't have a job you wouldn't date this guy.

[Emjoyit2x]

No I wouldn't

[Emjoyit2x]

Whats sad is you believe that not having a job isn't important

[bekkesmash]

hahahahhaha what a hypergamous hoe, I fell sorry for whomever dates you.

[Emjoyit2x]

Ok. Have a good life. Daddy's money isn't your money get a life and A job

[bekkesmash]

I have a job... from my dad, nepotism insures my future.

[Asker]

@bekkesmash I've gotta agree with Emjoy... as a man, we should strive to be the best we can be. Challenge ourselves. Grow. With growth comes success... jobs, then better jobs, money, then houses, fancy cars, looking good. Its all a byproduct of a working hard and wanting to be the best man you can be.

I don't blame women at all for wanting wealthy men, because we should all seek success in our lives regardless. There are plenty of ways to earn a good living.

But here's the thing, there's a certain comfort in mediocrity, where it's comfortable to just loaf around in life and not do anything substantial, and where it's a little bit frightening to put yourself out there and challenge yourself to be a better, more successful person, but again that's what every man should strive for, by default.

[iFarted]

check, ?, check, check, check, ?, check, check, check, and check... still singleeeee

[Asker]

@iFarted I'm with you man lol

[bekkesmash]

Yeah we should strive for those things, but women should't have it as a prerequisite to date us, it's basically prostitution.

[Anonymous]

It is random. There are no patterns of attraction in humans.

[LunaJ]

i always like to talk with those people who are intelligent.
you can be funny, but show sometimes that you can be serious. one of my friend hides his awesome smartness behind his jokes.

◽ being open about yourself (like/dislike, interest) is important, cos this way can you find out if you're compatible or not

[Mari_Land]

I like someone who gives me pet names right off the bat, like when we first start talking. And an intelligent conversation about pretty much nothing is sexy as hell. Also, I have weird taste in guys so don't take what I say to heart, I like a guy with a thick accent, it's adorable to listen to them talk

[LaFemmeFatale]

I connect better when I am talking about something deep and meaningful but It drains me sometimes, so I need to be playful every now and then if not I'll just need a break to be playful somewhere else.

When I am talking to the guys face to face I am far more playful and deep conversations without having some fun kinda exhaust me. I still love them though.

[blubblubblub]

i'm always a sucker for a sweetheart. like today this guy had a much younger sister and he was tying her shoelaces for her, and i fell in love with him for the day. whenever i see him being unusually sweet or nice, or making me laugh like hell. or sometimes even when he's awkward and i'll find it really cute. it really depends, some stuff just doesn't have a trend. but it'll just stand out to me

[Miss_Mystique]

What attracts me to a guy is how much he cares. I want a guy who understands and protect me both emotionally and physically. What attracts me the most is if the guy can make me laugh.

[zagor]

You say you're looking for someone who's never weak but always strong
To protect you and defend you, whether you are right or wrong

[Miss_Mystique]

@zagor
Not exactly, but yes. He doesn't always need to be strong or defend me, I just want someone who understand and don't judge me for who I am. And when I need it, can make me smile.

[neurolove]

it's not any one thing. it's multiple things unique to him. Usually, it's a combination of strength, caring, thoughtfulness, good looking, responsible, and trustworthy. adventurous and fun helps a great deal.

[Belorum]

Appearance (height, wide shoulders, nice ass, good looking face etc), sense of humour, character traits, confidence etc

[Asker]

I've always been curious about this, what is a nice ass for a guy? lol it's much more obvious for women.

[Belorum]

For me a woman's ass isn't nice at all lol. Dunno how to tell it... not flat and not too round either. Kinda square shaped with slightly defined muscles would be the perfect manass for me 😁

[Asker]

I ask because I swear sometimes I go out and once in a great while, a girl will grab my butt as she walks by lol.

[SarahsSummer]

I’m initially drawn to a guy who is balanced with his seriousness and sense of humor, a guy who is confident and knowledgeable but also has a bit of mystery to him.

[tata1993]

I think a balanced personality. Sense of humor is nice but kicking all the time gets annoying. The biggest turn of is showing off and when a guy brags about himself

[GirlyGirl962]

I like a gentle caring guy, with a child like personality that wants me to be their mummy and who love and adore me and accept me for who I am

[Anonymous]

All of those... at the right time... naturally increase the conversation. A lot of it is to do with chemistry too and lord knows how that works but if it's there there's no denying it!! Lol

[CrazyRT]

Great sense of humour, doesn't take himself too seriously and is smart

[Tanisha69]

Honestly? the force of his personality

[Anonymous]

When he knows who he is and what he wants.

[zagor]

So if he knows he's a heroin addict, and he wants more dope...

[Opinion Owner]

@zagor loooooool

[RobinMM]

I prefer combination of everything.

[Tania_bilkis]

Having serious and intellectual conversation