How will you react if you see someone shamelessly flirting with your s/o while you are together?

Question

I am talking about unnecessary touching or whispering on their ears. What will you do?

Quintessence · Accepted Answer

Is he receptive to it? If not, then I wouldn't do anything except maybe snicker in anticipation of her seeing that he is, in fact, with me. I would only step in if the girl was making my partner uncomfortable by being intrusive/creepy or not backing off when he told her off.

If he looked like he was enjoying it--making no attempt to ignore or discourage her advances--or flirting back, I'd pulling him aside and ask him if he's running some kind of social experiment or if he's actually stooped low (and dumb) enough to pull that kind of thing in front of me. My next course of action--whether I stay or whether I leave--depends on his answer to that question.

DaChillCookie · Accepted Answer

In my current relationship, I wouldn't give a shit because we have an open relationship. But in my previous ship, this happened.

I was at my friends house party and I was chilling on the couch while my boyfriend said he had to get some water. Half an hour past and my boyfriend didn't come back so I went to check on him. When I got in the kitchen I saw my boyfriend flirting with a girl while groping her ass. Long story short, I beat his ass and he came running back like he did before.

Because he was so manipulative, I took him back. I was in a very toxic relationship

HANAZAWA · Accepted Answer

I personally think that it takes two hands to clap. I cannot react if he seems to be enjoying it. The only person who can make her stop is him (ignoring her, showing her a pissed off face, basically telling her to get lost while hugging me even closer and tighter).

Goods91 · Accepted Answer

I would drag that hoe.

Juxtapose · Accepted Answer

I'll start whispering in the guy's ear and gently caress him until he gets too creeped out and walks away. I'd keep telling him that if he wanted her pussy wrapped around him he would need to deal with me buried in his ass.

Gaying out on bullies will shake their foundation like nothing else.

Andreas300787 · Accepted Answer

rip my shirt apart and beat my fists on my chest and roar while running towards him.

McMillanD · Answer

Sit back and watch. See how he behaves. I trust him to be faithful to me and if he is getting attention like that, why not let him have his ego stroked a bit? Beside he's walking out with You, and you can be damn sure she will see it 🤣

leader · Answer

I would come closer to my girlfriend and hug her and make it clear she's with me

TheShmanMan · Answer

Why does every guy think that posting on the internet that you would beat another guys ass makes you look like a better person? I am well versed in MMA fighting yet i do not go around smashing peoples skulls over little shit. And even if a problem arises i first try to talk it out with the other party like a civilized human being. And as for non-stop comments on how tough you are, i have question for you all. Who is stronger, the man who starts fights and fronts like he can "kick ass", or the man who is perfectly capable of significantly hurting another person and yet holds himself back?

Bliss-taylor · Answer

Laugh at how uncomfortable my husband looks. It's happened when we were out to a club once. The chick was drunk. She was pretty but it was kind of being ruined by her drunken movements and loud voice. She was just very sloppy.
I watched from a couple chairs away for a little bit but she was hanging onto his sleeve when he tried to walk away. I walked over and put my arm around him. She looked between us and didn't say anything. I showed her our rings and she let go of him. I joked with him a little and we went on with our night. The woman disappeared after that.
When my husband has any flirting he just gets away as soon as he can and tells them he's married right away. I've only felt the need to step in once.
One of his friends he went out with said that he was hit on by a 40-45 year old woman (he was 21 at the time) and when he told her he was married she asked "happily?" He responded "Very" <3 lol
My goodness some women have no morals.

SweetHomicidalQueen · Answer

Well I’d expect my boyfriend to tell her to back the fuck up but if he doesn't for whatever reason I’d do one of two things.

1. Subtlety get between the two, kiss him, grab him. Bite him. Make it known he’s mine. I’d make out with him and look her in the eyes.

Or
2. Push her the fuck away and tell her to keep her hands offa him.

Or a different option I should’ve considered

3. Asked if she knew were together and if no then I’d still be kinda all over him. If yes then I’d rock her jaw.

Nerdking · Answer

As long as she's not flirting back and walks away. Happened to me a few years ago, i went to gamestop in the mall to get my receipt i left and some guy from my old HS stepped up as soon as i left my seat at the food court and she told he asked "why are you with that guy i knew him in hs and he was a lame talking about cartoon $hit" she said " he didn't sit across the food court talking loud to his friends howd he'd would fk me and approach me after he got up to go somewhere and stare at my breast before and after he said something"
I hate when guys do this

Justacatlady · Answer

Is my SO engaging back?
That would make all the difference. If the other person is flirting hard core but my SO is treating them like they are just talking and isn't feeding into the flirt, then I would be okay.
If my SO is flirting back and doing his own touching and flirting, shit is about to go down

Nielctz · Answer

Well all the girls I've dated I've always had an arrangement with which has always worked well both ways. If someone is in her face she takes care of the guy herself because a woman can and usually wants to take care of the guy herself. I only jump in when she signals me to come over and he doesn't want to back down.

That1tallguy · Answer

Smh all these "alphas" saying he'll get his was kicked or I'll break his skull! It makes me wonder how many guys are really bout it or just talking.

Besides if the person doesn't have a ring on how is anybody supposed to know your taken. How about talk about it first like adults make it know she's your girl. 9/10 that should end the flirting right there

BitterSweetApplePie · Answer

I would step right in and grab my man's ass, wrap myself around his arm and smiley politely at the dumb bitch trying to get with him. Maybe she doesn't realize he is already with someone, but I guarantee she would find out quickly.

I don't play & I definitely don't share. If he was flirting back then he'd get his ass kicked to the curb unless he had a damn good reason for it.

samhradh_leannan · Answer

Well, first of all, I'd expect my partner to do his best to shut it down. As long as he's not flirting back, I don't really care all that much. But if it's really excessive, I will probably come up to them and do something to make it obvious that he's with me.

Cheetah23 · Answer

My boyfriend is quite naive, he wouldn't understand she's flirting, so when she's gone, i'd make him self-aware and he'd keep his distance with her.
If it's a lot of flirting, I'd going over and tell him "lets go have lunch, babe" or something.
If it's EXCESSIVE flirting, I'd go over & show her who's riding this lane.

Miristheiss · Answer

I don't know, too much would depend. My mood, where are we, who is this person, what is the entire situation, how does she react to it? I don't know, too many variables.

Seeing how she is inviting it or resisting it kind of will play a role too. If she is too "friendly" it could just be me cutting her lose. If she isn't loyal I could do better anyway.

hahahmm · Answer

Depends. If he knows she’s with me then that is a personal insult to me. Besides invading her space. I would invade his personal space.

If he does not know i would let her tell him herself. If he ignores what she says then we’re back at what I said above.

azzntittiz · Answer

Since I'm not married I usually break up with the so they can be a happy couple. To some people that's dramatic, but it's how I live my life. If I get married and that happens, then I'll stop having sex with him, wanna entertain lame bitches, do it when we're not fucking.

MissLogical · Answer

I'd go over to my boyfriend and hold onto his arm or hand, say something like, "Hey baby, who's this?" I'd make it obvious he's taken. If she didn't get the hint by that point I'd tell her to fuck off because he isn't interested, he wouldn't flirt with another woman, especially besides the fact he can barely tell when someone is flirting with him.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I first of all look at the partner... are you accepting or allowing this undue attention? If so, I'm done with the partner. If not, this is harassment then yeah?

... I'm not going to possibly have to fight some guy if the girl is bringing it upon herself. If she can't be faithful in that circumstance then she definitely won't be faithful in most circumstances where I'm not around to do anything about it.

kaajal · Answer

Id be pissed! But at the same time id also see how my s/o is behaving with that person, if he is reciprocating the gestures as well or bearing with it trying to be nice or simply avoiding it. If my s/o is reciprocating , then he would be in big trouble. If he isn't id be somewhat more understanding.

godfatherfan · Answer

What if the guy doesn't know it is flirting?
When I was married, my ex would laugh at me because sometimes we would be out and she would say "she was flirting with you". I would be like? What? all she did was say she liked my jacket. Or she would say XYZ. Whatever it was. I seriously did not think it was flirting at all. I still don't think they were. However, if she thought it was, then it really doesn't matter if the other woman was flirting or not, my ex felt it was.

Masselin · Answer

It would either be hot or worrying. Depends on the situation and how much of a problem it seems to be. If they are being overly pushy towards the other person i might have to pull you away to spare a harassment order, but if they are recieving and replying the same way of probably grab some popcorn.

grimtigress · Answer

i'd be walking away because had he ever allowed it, i wouldn't need him and i don't take pushovers who make excuses. that's my territory as long as he wants to be in it. then again, i don't love a pushover- but hypothetically- well, you know. bye motherfucker? lol

Sienna-Rose · Answer

He knows it's expected to be respectful and would keep it in check otherwise I wouldn't be with him. However if she was relentless I'd give her that snake eyed look as a firm warning, and we'd (him) touch in an affectionate way setting the clear boundaries.

ShortCircuit · Answer

In most flirting situations, I would leave it up to my partner to tell him off (and I expect her to tell him off), unless she specifically asked for my help.

However, if he dared to lay a finger on her without permission, there would be a dent in the wall that resembled the shape of his face.

Regardless of the situation, if she entertained him, or expressed enjoyment in being flirted with, I would not only dump her on the spot, but I'd let her find her own way home.

chris-carne · Answer

It's a hard beast that old insecurity. Look deep inside yourself. Know you are complete and that your partner is with you not the other.. Know that you are worthy and because of this, you attracted a worthy mate. This mate of yours will attract others. So accept that your partner is attractive. Trust that if you are comfortable in your position as explosive partner they will respect this and come. back to you

potatoisme · Answer

I will wait to see my SO reaction to see if he will push that bitch away or what. If he doesn't, I'm ending the relationship. And I'm not interfering in any way, because it's his job to push her away and respect me.

Ceramic_bloke · Answer

Depends on how she's reacting to him.
Of she's clearly not into it then I'll step between and tell him she's not available.
If she's seems to be enjoying herself I'd simply get closer and put my arm round her, casually asking what he's whispering about.
I'd probably be quite annoyed if she was enjoying it though.

Goochbreaker · Answer

Act friendly in an intimidating way. "Whatcha doin there bud?" he says whatever I say "I'm not sure if you knew, but that's my girlfriend right there" he says some shit and either fucks off or tells you to fuck off. If he tells you to fuck off, it's a fight, to all the men out there, you gotta be strong, I know most of you know this but this gender non conformity shit is fucking stupid women be beautiful men be strong idgaf

Kenni · Answer

I'm not gonna blame a stranger who doesn't even know the man is taken but the man himself. The guy is in a relationship, with his girlfriend right there beside him and he's not introducing me as his girlfriend or telling her his taken, or at least not encouraging her ?

joker91 · Answer

They're trying to cause a rift or argument between you and the SO later on so that the SO will think back on how cool and relaxed the unwanted toucher was. To throw them off you should touch and flirt with the person doing the shameless flirting, they'd be so confused lol

witherwing · Answer

Lol. I would just start laughing. They think they can trump me. They can try. I'm sure my boyfriend would do something more mature and just tell them to back off.

_bunny_ · Answer

I'd smack a bitch like excuse me bitch and I drag him out lol

jessture · Answer

I'd trust my partner to know right from wrong, and I"m not going to freak out about anything. If the touching is excessive (groping boobs, etc.), or they start making out and grinding, that's a different story. If its just something little there's no need to end the world over it.

claw09 · Answer

I won't bother until the guy is determined not to leave her alone or until she gives me a signal that the guy isn't leaving and she's uncomfortable.

There's no point in being protective. If a guy wants to flirt with your girl, go ahead. You would do the same thing. If you feel the need that you have defend her from every male that attempts to talk to her, it means you are insecure.

If she's going to cheat, let her. Dump her afterwards and find someone else.

AynonOMouse · Answer

I would think if they are touching the SO, it is their partner's duty to stop the flirter or attack them. If a guy flirts with my SO (when I have one) I would beat him down, and I would expect her to do the same thing to a girl if she was touching and flirting with me.

LivinLegend · Answer

I'm coming for the violence understand?

Thats disrespectful I'm right there and you got the balls to flirt with my girl? Now if a dude is a beta he'll be like "Hey do I-I know you?" Most likely the guy trynna to steal your s/o is an Alpha so he'll show more dominant traits, probably embarrass you in front the girl, the night won't end well for you. Now if your a real man you'll be "Who tf is you?" and show this guy you ain't playing with em be ready for confrontation.

SammyGurl · Answer

I guess I'd ask her, "so did you see the wedding ring on his finger? Well it's the mate to this one!" Leave it that!

PoliceLivesMatter · Answer

No touching while I’m there. Cannot tolerate any touching of any sort

anxiousanon · Answer

I would trust my SO to be respectful of me. Let the other person flirt all they want, but I would trust my SO to know when to cut that person off and to not flirt back.

HOAAH · Answer

I would hope that he would be able to handle it by telling them that he is happily married/taken and that he would pay more attention to me in front of them...

Gingerbread-Man · Answer

I don't think I'd really mind. I mean, it's kind of a compliment to me. Here she is, so sexy other people are flirting shamelessly with her... but we both know I'm the one she wants.

gobsmacked3 · Answer

Nothing

Whenever this was done around my ex-wife. I knew she would state she was attached. If he continued, she would politely fend it off. If he kept going, she would impolitely tell him to sod off. If the guy was silly/disrespectful enough to keep going and overstepped a line in the sand he should never. It never ended well for him

SirHac · Answer

Well to be honest I'm territorial but I'd try to give them space because I'd trust her but as soon as it starts to visibly upsets her in any way I'm making sure he/she knows not to flirt with my girl please note this is hypothetical I've not experienced this and am currently single

Plumy · Answer

He doesn't go along with flirts, but if someone is persistent and tries to embarrass him then I get closer to him and poke him for a kiss 💋

AdamED · Answer

If the guy knew that she's with someone (doesn't matter if he knew me) and flirted with her, I'll def be like "EX FUCKING CUSE ME..." and give him a devil's look then wait to what he's gonna say, if he apologizes then that's it, if he doesn't like what I said/play a game then I'll add another line based on the situation. I don't think it's worth starting a fight (that's too childish) coz it doesn't need to unless he acts like an asshole, then you gotta stop them.

PillowThief · Answer

Tell them to back off politely if they weren't aware of us, and more aggressively if they were. It's not being territorial, it's about demanding the respect for the monogamous relationship that I'd be in for that situation.

Superbdiamond1981 · Answer

I will be strong for an opinion and not be ashamed to say what I have to say. Straight to the point with periods and question mark at the end of my words to them. But be prepared for what they have to say in return. I have also a backup answer too

sugarchateau · Answer

Do everything that the flirt did to my SO right back to the flirt, in front of my SO... Precisely right in the middle of the flirts flirting.

I like me some girls, but it will most likely scare them all off. Either way... perfect!

melanieeeB · Answer

Watch how he behaves and acts and depending on that either smile nicely at the girl or ignore her in a super arrogant way lol

MortalityDoesStuff · Answer

If someone were flirting with my s/o in front of me I'd politely ask him to fuck right off. And if that doesn't do the trick, God gave me two hard fists for a reason

lumos · Answer

Nothing. It’s up to my boyfriend to reject them and prove to me his trustworthiness, not up to me to act like a possessive and jealous girlfriend who just wants to cause a scene.

FemWorship · Answer

Reaction is always physically get between them
never make a big deal of it
assume the guy has a death wish
and that she might have shopping on her mind
which opens my eyes to other ships in the sea in case mine sinks no matter what I do

9teen · Answer

I expect him to handle the situation. I mean he is an adult right and I trust him.
If not, and he allows her to touch etc, I will interfere. I might just sit on his lap, touching him shamelessly and take everything over, leaving her insecure and devastated. Of course, I will give her my mischievous smile to let her burn inside even more.
If she can´t keep her hands off of someone else´s s/o, I will simply teach her.

Bman73 · Answer

Well depends on a few different things. Does he know we are together. If not I would walk up put my arm around my girl introduce myself and get involved in the conversation. If he does know and is doing it then I may get a little upset depending on how she is reacting might be upset with both. Then if we are trying to bring the guy back so we can double team her then I would think all is going as planne

BikerGirl89 · Answer

Pay attention to his moves, disregard hers. She's not your partner, he is. If he's going, I leave the relationship. If he rejects her and walks away, he's a keeper.

r4ngeF · Answer

I always let my ex's to flirt, even when Im around.
It's much more fun (ny), and if someone is willing to "flirt", they will do it with or without you.
Can't really avoid it. Better recognize it and let it be, that way its much safer.

Fitness-Fanatic · Answer

I wouldn't need to react, because my boyfriend would react before I could lol He'd push her away and tell her to fuck off. He'd humiliate her. He hates flirty females , except me of course lol

radrio · Answer

Pull her away from the situation and talk to her in private about how that situation made me uncomfortable. Then proceed to bury my tounge into her mouth while we are alone.

Balcazaurus · Answer

My brother works at a restaurant and he's a really big flirt, so when a bored-of-each-other couple comes in, he'll just start messing with the dude by engaging in conversation with the girl.

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