Is it flirting if a man says you smell good?

[Anonymous]

A man I met and have been friends with for about a month told me , “you smell really nice : are you wearing a new perfume today? Which one is it”

Is that flirting? Also indirectly asked me to go out and grab a bite with him but I politely declined as he didn’t out right ask - instead he walked me out of the building - ? Any ideas

[Johnnie1000]

The guy like you is some way or another and indirectly asked you to spend a meal with him. Does it matter if it was direct or indirectly. Yo sure got the message by your comments. What everyone has to make some declaration of intent just to grab a bite. Are you cold to everyone. I've asked women I just met on a plane if she would like to share dinner while we made connections. I didn't want to rape or kill her. I was just being friendly. We were both alone traveling on a long flight. It was nice to have company. A couple of times it has turned in to more but only threw some indirect suggestions. They got it and we had a good time between our business appointments.
Some women look like the need to be treated softly because they will dismiss you. It can't be to indirect if you understood. You just like men to jump though your hoops. He was better off.

[Wally48]

Guys just need to be psychology prepared for girls like that and not get their feelings hurt

[Johnnie1000]

You know, it seems like you just can't be friendly to some people without them being suspicious. But the gal in this question was about his format in asking. He was required to place a formal request rather than about to asked if she like to get a bite. He couldn't be nice he needed some kind of formal format that she liked. That is one uptight lady. I guess she never indirectly says that she is going to the powder room or similar. being direct and formal she would expect him to declare that he was going to evacuate his bowels. After he could not just imply it but say he was going to the rest room or even that much. Its not about hurt feelings. Hell I have been told no DIRECTLY and it didn't break my heart.

[Johnnie1000]

Sorry wrong post before. I don't know how. ... But I'm not always flirting if I mention your perfume.

[serious]

1."A man I met and have been friends with for about a month told me , “you smell really nice : are you wearing a new perfume today? Which one is it” "

No, according to me that is not flirting. It means that the perfume/deo/ scent the woman is wearing smells very nice, has a nice fragrance that's all.

It's a straightforward sentence. However, this may be misinterpreted as flirting which is not true.

2. "Also indirectly asked me to go out and grab a bite with him but I politely declined as he didn’t out right ask - instead he walked me out of the building - ? Any ideas "

Well, that is subjective. You thought that he didn't ask you out appropriately and so you declined. That's fine.

[Julie_TS]

Yeah, kinda... probably.
But, let's be honest, people try to smell good, and not necc just for ourselves.

[pootytangg]

Yes he is flirting. He got nervous that's why he indirectly asked.

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily. I work w a lot of females, I may say something similar because I like the way it smells. I’ve gotten my girl a few of the scents my female co-workers were wearing cause I liked it, so I’d asked them. Not cause I was hitting on them. As far as going out, it’s possible but then I’ve had friends when I was single who I wasn’t interested in but thought they had a great personality that I’d ask if they’d like to hang out outside of work. It could go either way.

[Rolla78]

It definitely sounds like flirting, as smell and fragrance, is meant to trigger certain things in your brain.

[Bikeboy]

I guess it all depends. Is he down on a knee. The yes that is flirting. If he is standing it’s just a innocent observation

[larry69]

Yes he is interested and testing the waters with you.

[Browneye57]

He's fishing. Are you DTF?

[Asker]

What’s fishing?

[Browneye57]

Seeing how you respond, if you're interested. If there's the potential for developing some kind of relationship.
For god's sakes - you're 25-29 and you don't know when a guy is coming onto you?

[Asker]

No I do but as 25 I think he should be more mature and not indirectly ask me 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Browneye57]

Then it's not a match. You're already judging him to be inferior, incapable. So it will never work anyway. NEXT!!

[GreedyReedy]

Nope... It's just kinda creepy

[Poormanscomedian]

No, i have told women that before.

[prathikpk]

If i said that.. Its 100% flirting