I’m kind of steering cautious of this guy. He’s one of the only men who work there and everyone at our job are women.
I notice he’ll have no problem complimenting us which is fine and I think normal. He does have a girlfriend and he’s 30.
I can’t help but think some of his compliments are weird though.
I’m 21 and on one of our first interactions he told me he was happy to see me but I shrugged it off. Once I was calling a guy I was dating and he interrupted me to tell me how good I smelled.
He had a girl come in for training in his department and he kept bringing her near me and when I saw them, I coincidentally rushed to go home and before I left he asked “what was that?”
We have some awkward moments. He asked me what I was doing for the weekend and I told him and there was an awkward pause and he told me what I was doing and then lingered and just said “yeah and cool”.
He’ll joke with me too and once purposefully got my name wrong. He’s said my name before though.
He always used to come to me in the mornings and talk to me and one morning he came to me right when I got there and was blushing and awkward again and I giggled and he asked “what?” And I told him it was awkward and he said “ok” then left.
I do feel sexual tension I can’t lie and I know it’s there because it feels awkward and I feel like he feels it too and it’s embarrassing.
The difference between how he talks to me vs other coworkers though is that he seems way more confident talking to them. The other day he told one she looked great after getting no sleep.
Yesterday I walked by his office and we looked at each other and didn’t say good morning ( sometimes we get in weird moods where we don’t speak ) and I went back to my desk and he called me on the office phone at my desk.
I was calling someone else so I didn’t pick up but went to his office to ask him if he meant to call me and he said “I saw your name light up so I thought you had something to say” then looked at me.
Why is it so weird?
I notice he’ll have no problem complimenting us which is fine and I think normal. He does have a girlfriend and he’s 30.
I can’t help but think some of his compliments are weird though.
I’m 21 and on one of our first interactions he told me he was happy to see me but I shrugged it off. Once I was calling a guy I was dating and he interrupted me to tell me how good I smelled.
He had a girl come in for training in his department and he kept bringing her near me and when I saw them, I coincidentally rushed to go home and before I left he asked “what was that?”
We have some awkward moments. He asked me what I was doing for the weekend and I told him and there was an awkward pause and he told me what I was doing and then lingered and just said “yeah and cool”.
He’ll joke with me too and once purposefully got my name wrong. He’s said my name before though.
He always used to come to me in the mornings and talk to me and one morning he came to me right when I got there and was blushing and awkward again and I giggled and he asked “what?” And I told him it was awkward and he said “ok” then left.
I do feel sexual tension I can’t lie and I know it’s there because it feels awkward and I feel like he feels it too and it’s embarrassing.
The difference between how he talks to me vs other coworkers though is that he seems way more confident talking to them. The other day he told one she looked great after getting no sleep.
Yesterday I walked by his office and we looked at each other and didn’t say good morning ( sometimes we get in weird moods where we don’t speak ) and I went back to my desk and he called me on the office phone at my desk.
I was calling someone else so I didn’t pick up but went to his office to ask him if he meant to call me and he said “I saw your name light up so I thought you had something to say” then looked at me.
Why is it so weird?
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Because you are making it weird. These posts never cease to amaze me. All of this ridiculous detail and oh by the way...
He has a girlfriend! Which apparently you are choosing to ignore or to not respect his relationship. Both of which make you gross. Seriously, find a single dude instead.
What am I doing wrong, this whole post is about his behaviors. Plus isn’t he supposed to be the one respecting his relationship?
Of course he is supposed to. But you can't control him. So if he chooses to be a shitbag you just through your hands up and say oh well. As far as his 'behaviors' you've really mentioned nothing that indicates anything. You, on the other hand, are obviously into him or: you wouldn't have posted this, and you wouldn't be watching his every single move. You can deny it all you want but what I said is 100% correct.
What do his behaviors matter to you anyway? Is getting cheap validation from a taken guy really where your self esteem is? Come on.
"He does have a girlfriend". He shouldn't forget it, you also. I don't find his behavior quite right as for somebody who's taken.