"You should come over sometime and I'll make you a latte" what does this mean?

[Anonymous]

We were having a convo about coffee and starting a coffee shop.. Then he texted me "You should come over sometime and I'll make you a latte" (to his house)... What does this mean exactly? Does he like me?

[UnknownReflection]

I suggest you to not waste your time reading between the lines. The best would be just to flow with the moments without thinking too much about what every word, move, behavior and action means. It's just about spending some time with you. Maybe he likes you, maybe he wants to know you more, maybe he considers you a good friend, maybe he wants to have sex with you. Literally anything is possible. So my suggestion would be that instead of thinking too much about the meanings, just move forward with the moments and communicate and give it time. When you do that, by time you will understand more. But these kind of overthinking is an unhealthy thinking pattern because it just stress you out, make you paranoid with a tone of assumptions and judgement which can lead to misunderstandings and a one sided story that you've built in your mind without any sense of reality attached to it. You need set your mind free and just be it. You'll know better in the right time.

[Asker]

Thank you so much!! ❤

[UnknownReflection]

You're most welcome :)

[lightbulb27]

a convo where. like met him on the street, it means one thing.
someone you know, he likes you probably, make coffee, get to know, who knows from three... maybe it gets really serious and you play xbox 360?

[Asker]

😂😂😂 Yeah he's a really good friend of mine! We've just never been together alone..

[lightbulb27]

really good friend, I think all good. go hang out, bake a cake while you are at it!:)

[Asker]

😂😂😂😂 okay thanks!!

[midnightmoon05]

This is tricky... I would not be comfortable with my 15 year old daughter going to a guys house with just the two of them.

[Anonymous]

It's meant to be taken literally. There's potential more things can happen but that's for people to decide on the fly. It's not "code" for anything. If you go over there a coffee will probably happen. But if you go an say fuck it, let's snog, that will probably be fine too.

[Asker]

He didn't mean it to be sexual.. Everyone is saying it has to do with him wanted to have sex but he didn't mean for I to be sexual!! We were talking about how he makes good coffee and I've never had HIS coffee before!!

[Opinion Owner]

I agree it's not meant to be blatantly sexual. But he is interested in your company more then your coffee critique.

It's not sexual but the situation is set up with the possibility things going that direction. Just don't get caught off guard if things take a turn for the intimate.

People are saying it's sexual because most people don't leave it as "just coffee" when it comes to someone they like. Most people meet with someone at their house in a 1 on 1 situation because even though sharing a coffee can be nice, both parties usually have an interest in going a little further. There's no commitment being made beyond the premise of the date: in this case coffee, but the situation is such that either party can escalate.

[Asker]

Yes that was well said!! Thank you!.. But did he kinda ask me out on a date without meaning to?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh he mean to.

Although "dates" aren't really the norm any more. Most people have a simple activity that acts as a premise for enjoying each other's company. Which may once have been the definition of "date" but now it's loaded with pretense, so most people prefer "hang out" or don't really put any specific label on it, they just call it what it is. e. g coffee... plus whatever.
It's very open ended and relaxed.

So don't think about if he would call it a date or whatever.
Put it this way: He intended to spend one on one time with you under the pretense of coffee. Everything after that is unknown and completely fluid. I suppose that's the modern equivalent of "date."

[Asker]

Thank you so much! 😊

[AndreasM96]

It means he's gonna make you a latte that you can afterwards drink.

And yeah, he likes you, he made a move.

[Asker]

😂😂 .. He even said he sees us together in the future.. He didn't say it to me tho.. He told a mutual friend

[AndreasM96]

What more do ya want, a marriage proposal? 😂 Go drink the dude's latte, he's trying his ass off!!!

[Asker]

😂😂😂😂 Thank you very much!!!

[Roooni]

It sounds quite sexual to me.. clearly saying he's gonna make her taste it.

[Asker]

Well he didn't mean it like that!.. Everyone keeps saying stuff like that but they're skipping the part where I said we were talking about coffee! We were talking about if he makes better lattes, or my sister. That's all.

[Roooni]

No we read that but it doesn't ring that way even if the subject from outside looks only related to coffee. He said something while meaning something else. If you would've went with the flow, and played the game a little you would've found out for sure. Other wise if you were so sure about what he said why coming and asking about it here ?

[Asker]

I mean I didn't call him out on anything I said "that would be awesome!" Because I took it as friend asking another friend over for coffee. But I did find that it didn't sound like something "just a friend" would say. That's why I wasn't sure, and came here.

[Roooni]

Tadaa you see ! You sensed it..
Unless he came off wrong... i agree that its not something commonly said. It give the wrong vibe and lead to different thoughts.

[Asker]

Yeah 😂😊

[DDpsy]

I would tell you what the late means but you are 15 so you will have to figure that damn thing yourself.

[Asker]

Omg he didn't mean it like that! Y'all are skipping the part where I said we were talking about coffee!!

[DDpsy]

Yeah.. right... coffee. :p

[Asker]

He didn't mean it to sound sexual! He's not that kinda guy! We're really good friends I think should know!

[DDpsy]

All guys are the kind of guys that like lattes. I'm a guy that loves lattes I think I should know.

[Kee25]

It means you are going tip get a creamy one. And maybe a latte

[Asker]

It wasn't mean to sound sexual. That's all.

[humanearth]

He wants to have sex with you

[Asker]

He didn't mean for it to sound sexual. That's not what he mean.

[TheSpartan]

He wants to have sex with you.

[Asker]

Very highly doubt that..

[TheSpartan]

Why?

[Asker]

Probably cause we're Christians and he's a preachers son or MAYBE! JUST MAYBE! He's actually a good guy! (He is!!) He didn't mean to make it sound sexual! We were talking about if him or my sister made a better latte. That's all.

[Asker]

There was obviously sexual tension there.. But that's to be expected when a guy and girl like each other.. Duhhh

[MrBurke]

I think that's a reference to a sitcom

[Asker]

😂😂😂