Could you be in a relationship with a transgender boy?

[ZeQueer]

[[Question for gay/bi boys, heterosexual/bi girls]]

Could his body be an obstacle for you? If he has scars? if he has a vagina? if he has his chest? if he is at the very beginning of transition? (high voice, female form)

Yes, I'm pansexual, so I don't care about the body. If I love the person, it's the most important thing.

No, I find it weird.

Yes, if he takes at least his testosterone treatment because I like male bodies.

Yes, if he takes testosterone and has removed his breasts.

Yes, if he takes testosterone, has removed his breasts and has done an operation of the genitals to have a penis.

No, I prefer male bodies by birth.

No, I find the body of a transgender man rather ugly.

[overthinking_g]

I think as long as you love the person for who they really are inside, mentally and for their personality, in the end it doesn't really matter. They are just trying to match their body to how they feel inside. Also if a person actually decides to physically transition, it's all up to them, they are not necessarily forced to.
But also, I am just a very open and accepting person of everybody just embracing who they are. Though, I can't personally say what I think, because I have never been in a relationship, and not yet completely sure of what is my sexuality. So I don't know how precise my answer is.

[ZeQueer]

At least you are respectful and you try to build your point of view with love in the foreground, not sex. I appreciate

[overthinking_g]

No problem! None of my friends happen to be transgender, but some are part of the LGBTQ+ Community and accept them and love them just for the person that they are. It doesn't change how I feel about them, maybe I might need some time to adjust my mind according to the situation. Like ask if she has found a girlfriend if one of my female friends is gay, and it changes the conversation a little bit, instead of asking if she found a boyfriend. But nothing big. And by the way way I do have a female gay friend, mostly all of her friends know, she was the president of the GSA at her high school as a Senior, but she is still in the closet to her parents and family and they still don't know.

[AshleyMadison00]

Just not into things of that nature. no shade to others. I can be friends tho

[ZeQueer]

Thanks for the answer ;)

[FeministDestroyer]

I've really been struggling with the idea that a person can "transition" and am kind of disgusted by the thought of it to be honest. But from looking at how disrespectful some people are towards you just because you want to be you... makes me sad for you. I'm sorry you have to deal with people like this. And I hope that everyone including myself can learn to understand you and others like you a little better.

[ZeQueer]

Thanks for your answer! I felt exactly the same when I saw someone with tattooed eyes, for the first time. I thought it was disgusting. Today I still find it weird but I got to know these people and now I understand their choice, and I find them beautiful only because they feel beautiful and themselves. A person who feels happy about his body, proud and who assumes his choices (as strange as they are) I find it amazing, I find it beautiful anyway. Their eyes are illuminated, their smiles when they can be who they really are... This is the real life, the life I wish for everyone so they can be happy and not being judged 🌞🖤

[FeministDestroyer]

That is so true, I wish you the absolute best and I hope you remain strong when dealing with difficult people who don't understand you. I'm not sure how much this means to you from a random person on the internet, but I am proud of you, and everyone else who is not afraid to show who they really are

[CT_CD]

Yes, I'm pansexual, so I don't care about the body. If I love the person, it's the most important thing.

[trapper1738]

I'm pansexual, so in all honestly it doesn't matter. Compatibility means more to me than anything.

As for where they are in transition, it doesn't matter as long as they are taking the steps to make them happy and staying healthy through the process.

Scars don't matter to me, scars tell me you've lived. Scars are a story and everyone is a little unique.

[ZeQueer]

Thanks you, it's encouraging

[nerms123]

I had a ftm friend who prefers any pronouns. Anyway she and I talked about this issue and basically I can’t be attracted to non male bodies. That’s the long and short of it. I asked her and she said she also cannot be attracted to male bodies regardless of birth gender. So she understood how I felt. I can like them as a person but I wouldn’t be sexually attracted.

[ZeQueer]

Thanks for your answer ;)

[Justacatlady]

I would be okay. Their journey isn’t going to change who they are at the core. The outside might change and in that some behaviors might change but if they are still the person I feel in love with, then that’s who I’ll love 💕

[ZeQueer]

I'm a french transman ;) so I can tell you we don't want to change who we are, of course not ! We just need to change our bodies because they are not according with who we truly are.

[Justacatlady]

Yes I know. I was saying I understood that 😉

[VIVANT]

Yes if I love someone I could be in a relationship with them

[Pink2000]

She wouldn’t be a boy no matter how many surgeries she has or hormones she takes. I like real men not mentally unstable women who chop off their boobs cause they want to be a “man”.

[ZeQueer]

He* it's he*

[Pink2000]

She was born with a vagina. Therefore she is a female. Just because you want to be a man doesn’t mean you are a man. Thats just ridiculous.

[Pink2000]

You really said “if he has a vagina” wtf is wrong with you people?

[ZeQueer]

Because the pronoun is chosen by the person. Not the others. It's just the way we talk when we have a minimum of respect. It's our body, our rights

[ZeQueer]

Sex has nothing to do with it, I'm talking about gender

[dimetridrossos]

and I assume its considered violence and a crime? thats what many want it to become

[ZeQueer]

Seriously, violence and crime comparison for the transidentity?

[Pink2000]

I think you all need help.

[dimetridrossos]

bro, I may have been exposed to extreme doses of retiredness like that calling someone the wrong pronoun in a form of violence, I am almost insane. THESE PEOPLE EXIST

[dimetridrossos]

@ZeQueer Not to me it isn't but to the feminize shit I watch to much that eats my brain alive... definitely does, and if you watch Steven crowders change my mind video on "there are not more then 2 genders" this one woman legit said t should be a federal crime to intentionally say the wrong pronoun when referring to them. hard to believe? Look it up yourself.

[dimetridrossos]

And she seemed like a normal lesbian feminist and I very much hope most feminists don't believe this should happen because if that was true, I might be in some big trouble and someone comes up and I say "hello Siri, instead of ma'am" there was this 1 funny video where this guy clearly being a man gets pissed off because the cashier kept calling him sir instead of ma'am 😂 it was quite funny.

[dimetridrossos]

(darn auto correct... Siri was supposed to be "sir" and im sure you know hat is supposed to be what...)

[ZeQueer]

Ok, but I'm not feminist, I'm humanist. Humanity is more varied than you all dare to believe, but it's okay. Education is not the same everywhere, and culture plays a major role for decades unfortunately. But I still hope that one day everybody will be able to accept everyone. Love and respect the diversity of the world, because when you do that, you feel amazing.

[Pink2000]

Everyone does not have to accept everyone...

[ZeQueer]

Of course they have to. Otherwise it's war, like right now because of beliefs and religions. It's the same for genders. You don't have to understand but you have to respect them.

[Pink2000]

Respect and accept are different

[ZeQueer]

Respect is accepting the difference

[dimetridrossos]

we still have the right to our own opinion and you can't make people act a certain way, are we hurting anybody? or just your feelings? because I think we all know that facts come before feelings and facts say she is still a female.

[Pink2000]

@dimetridrossos exactly.

[ZeQueer]

Sex and gender are two differents things, everybody knows that today :) and if not, people are learning it, which is great news for the world ! Respect and love extends

[dimetridrossos]

I still don't agree, but I love how respectful you are when coming across against differing opinions.

[dimetridrossos]

Too many people that I have talked to from the LGBT community have not acted in a respectful was when confronting people with opinions like mine.

[ZeQueer]

I do not want to be disrespectful, I love the diversity of the world and it's a good place to contemplate it ♥

[EmmaMary]

Hell would need to freeze over first.

[ZeQueer]

It's okay, do not feel threatened, no one forces you to love

[EmmaMary]

Oh I've absolutely no need whatsoever to feel threatened as I'm extremely happily married to a 100% heterosexual man.

[ZeQueer]

I'm really happy for you ♥

[EmmaMary]

Thank you.

[VIVANT]

No need to be rude #EmmaMary

[EmmaMary]

@VIVANT I was quite simply and clearly stating my opinion, and at no point was I being rude, and certainly not to any individual.

[VIVANT]

Simply saying no would have been fully informative, and polite.

[dimetridrossos]

@VIVANT doesn't she have the right to express her opinion how she wants?

[dimetridrossos]

@VIVANT I don't find a problem with it, I like things to be a bit EXTRA sometimes and I think she is the kinda girl to be a bit EXTRA on some things.

[VIVANT]

@dimetridrossos

Cool - sorry to interrupt 😊

[ZeQueer]

Everything is cool here, no problems it's okay, this person was respectful🌈

[VIVANT]

Sorry to you both 💜

[dimetridrossos]

@VIVANT I don't get whats going on.

[VIVANT]

@dimetridrossos

I don’t think anything is going on 🤷‍♀️

I misinterpreted something, it was pointed out to me , I apologized 😊.

[ZeQueer]

It's okay, I do not take anything personally ^^

[dimetridrossos]

@VIVANT oh ok, lol

[AngelLily]

I could never be in a relationship with a trans man

[AuroraRoseat]

No. I prefer a man who doesn't have gender dysphoria.

[Solomoncumquats]

No, it would be something that is always in the back of my mind

And that would be very very strange

[Nachowedgie]

No straight women would, maybe the other options would though

[AmesRocks1]

I would

[ZeQueer]

What do ya mean?

[AmesRocks1]

I mean that I would date a transgender boy, despite of how he looks. I wouldn't care if he's not all male ohysically, I'd only care of how he feels

[ZeQueer]

Oh okay ;)

[Anonymous]

Be in a relationship with a ‘boy’ with a vagina? Lmao no.

[Opinion Owner]

I prefer biological males

[ZeQueer]

Why are you laughing?

[Opinion Owner]

I use ‘lmao’ at the end of most sentences idek why but I didn’t mean to imply that I was laughing. I was dumb for using it.

[ZeQueer]

And what about 'boy' ? Do you think it's not real boys? I understand that you can talk about the biological term. But have you ever met a trans man years and years after his transition? It's impressive. It's literally like a biological man but it's not, and this is the beautiful part. It means everyone is strong enough to do amazing things.

[dimetridrossos]

No its not. if you were born a male you will always be male and if you were born a female you will always be female, there is nothing you can do about it besides change the way you look basically being the most overpowered trap. Because you are trapping girls by them being attracted to you then them realizing you have a fucking vagina. thats gay and if they are heterosexual (aka normal, why do we even need the term heterosexual 🙄) that could piss them off knowing they have just been lusting after a female this whole time.

[Opinion Owner]

I do know a female that transitioned as a male, and whilst I’m not against their life style I still find it difficult to just suddenly have to recognise them as male when I’ve known them and grown up with them being female their entire life. Like I said, it’s none of my business how people want to live their lives, but I wouldn’t be comfortable dating someone or being with someone that is because I prefer biological males.

[dimetridrossos]

You can believe what you believe. These people though seem to think because they look like a boy, they are now a boy, and must be called a boy.

[ZeQueer]

You have a lot of things to learn

[Opinion Owner]

Who?

[dimetridrossos]

no, I you have a lot to learn. You guys ignore basic human biology for feelings.

[ZeQueer]

I think I know more than you on this point because well... I'm actually living it ^^

[Shahax]

Not touching this question with a 10 ft pole

[Syrian_survivor]

Maybe, if I was into aliens.

[ZeQueer]

It's okay, stay strong, maybe one day you will

[MattyIceBox]

Anything is possible.. go for it.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Who wants a real life catfish?

[CyberWarrior98]

Looks like a circus show.

[ZeQueer]

Sh** up please

[dimetridrossos]

hahaha

[ZeQueer]

X)))

[Anonymous]

No way