Usually adults are more straight forward and just ask out people they like. I literally grabbed my boyfriend by the dick and had him locked down after that lol.
When I was a in HS, I would try to make eye contact with guys I like as much as possible. I’d laugh at what they say a lot. Stand close to them, lean in, watch them closely when they talk, be super interested in everything they have to say.
It’s a little creepy 🤷♀️ But that’s what I did as a teen. Also- I wasted MONTHS of crushing on guys and stalking them before I realized I should just be more straightforward and not be afraid of rejection.
As an adult... I just used dating websites and it was usually obvious if my dates liked me or not. And if I liked the date I was with, I’d want to hang out with them for as long as possible and probably initiate physical contact by touching their arm or leg or giving them a hug.
I had one guy beating around the bush after a date. I knew he wanted to kiss me so I just kissed him.
That’s my take on it 🤷♀️ I don't know what girls you’re hanging out with or I’m just different but I didn’t think it’s that hard to figure out if someone is interested in you.
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You're uniquely audacious lol, its refreshing actually 😅
Girls usually start talking a lot to the people they like. Even the quiet ones may start to open up if they find someone they gel with. Usually, “interest” builds if there are common grounds or hobbies (eg share love a particular genre of books or song). Other times, it can be opposites that attract. There’s no hard and fast rule. Just go with the flow. Your heart will tell you when you’ve met the one.
I think everyone is going to run into that because you can receive all the advice or cues in the world but it will ultimately depend on the persons personality/demeanor. I personally give eye contact and smile but someone more shy may barely look at you or constantly look away when you look. Which could mean they’re attracted or perhaps thinking you look like the most wanted poster they just saw. There’s books on body language that could really teach a thing or two... gives you more to assess then just eye contact such as feet placement believe it or not, if their whole body is facing you. Whether pupils are dilated or not. The raising of an eyebrow. There’s a lot to it and women tend to be better biologically at reading body language.
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