He said he doesn't want to chase me...?

[Anonymous]

Hii(: so for the last 2 months I've been seeing a guy I'm interested in, on and off. We get along great. He treats me right and I can tell he cares for me. On the other hand, I don't necessarily want a relationship, although it gets lonely at times I would just rather have fun without any sense of attatchment. however, this guy keeps on saying he wants to be more than a "hookup" and get to know me for who I really am, which is fine Because I'm willing to take that chance, but at times I don't know what he wants. One minute he'll be txting me and the next he'll stop for a week or so and then says " text me, Because I always text you first. I'm not gonna chase you(:" ... it's not like I'm telling him to chase me, I'm just the kind of girl that needs to be shown and told she's cared for and when he says he's not going to "chase" me, he

doesn't realize he's pushing me away and it hurts. . can anyone

explain what he implies when he says he's not going to "chase" me and what I can do to tell him how I really feel? ... I'm obviously attracted to him but he doesn't understand how guarded I am when it comes to getting to know one another and he interprets that as me being arrogant and conceited... Answers would be greatly appreciated

thanks! (;

[meeemza]

I am not sure... if you ever reply, I am very interested in knowing your perspective. I am involved with a lady that she is scared to even have me as a friend with her social circle revolve around 3 people including me!
I would love to chase her, I have no problem with that. I WILL NEVER hurt her. She said that her ex pursued her two years... obviously I got no time for that.. But i Am willing to put 3 or 6 months worth of time investment.

I think she could be the one... But She has her guards so high!
I might be delusional, but I really know she likes me we lose track of time together.

[Anonymous]

He's probably feeling like he's putting in the effort to talk to you and get to know you better, but you're not reciprocating. He wants something more serious from you and wants to know that you want the same thing, but if you don't, then why would he waste his time when he could find someone who is looking for the same thing as he is?

[Asker]

i understand what you're saying, but he's known to be a player. I don't trust him with my feelings 100%. it also seems like we have a lot of physical attraction which can be bad. Should I be blunt and ask him what he wants? because sometimes its a little too late and then theyre gone.

[Johanna_matt]

Just tell him you like him and that you'd like to get to know him too. It's frustrating for him to feel that he has to be the one who initiates contact all the time.

[Asker]

yes you're right. . Ughh I hate being vulnerable.