Doesn't it suck when this happens? I've seen this happen too many times. Here's some advice...
Now honestly think about this... maybe you ARE ignoring your friend just a little. Yes, relationships are great. And yes, you want to spend time with him. That is normal. But remember how it felt to hang out with her before he came along? It should still feel that fun, and you should continue to spend a decent amount of time with her. Try setting aside time every week to spend with her. Lunch hour every Monday, or movie night every Sunday, or something. She needs to feel needed.
This also may be a little bit about HER. She may be jealous of the time you spend with him, or jealous that you have a boyfriend, or a mixture of the two. Or maybe she worries that she will loose you forever. Even if she is acting a little too extreme, her fears may be legitimate.
Instead of dismissing her worries, sit her down and let her tell you what she is worried about. Listen to her, and try and keep an open mind. After she is done, tell her how you feel. Don't dismiss her worries, but don't be afraid to tell her (nicely) if you are offended by her lack of trust or feel that she is not being fair. But try and find a happy medium. Make sure YOU put in the effort to spend time with her regularly, and SHE tries to accept the boyfriend's influence on your life. Eventually she should understand that she is not being replaced, and will back off.
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