Is a direct approach good when asking a girl out?

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Something like "Hey, I think you're very pretty and I'd like to get to know you better over coffee if you'd like (or if you're interested)" Would that be a good approach?

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

Dear god, your game sucks. Talk about a strike-out.

You don't 'ask someone out', and you don't start off with flattery - girls already know you'll say and do ANYTHING to get in her panties.
No, if you don't already know them, or have been introduced to each other, you start a dialog, a conversation. And you better be good at it - they LOVE to talk about themselves.
Secondly, you don't 'invite someone out' you invite them to do something FUN with you.
"We'll be at [name that bar] after work, stop on by"
"I have tickets to [movie or concert] - wanna go with me?"
"I'm going hiking Sunday, want come along?"

If they decline but offer an alternate time or thing, they're interested. If they just flatly decline, they're not.

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You really need to do some reading.

slatyb · Accepted Answer

No. Asking a woman out immediately after meeting her will rarely succeed. She does. t know enough to say yes, so she will decline. Talk a bit before asking. You can tell in a couple of minutes whether she is receptive. If she's someone you see briefly but repeatedly, like a server at a restaurant you visit repeatedly, introduce yourself so you can greet her by name when you see her. Then you will have an idea whether she might be receptive.

iseekpinetrees · Accepted Answer

I am weird I get shy but the 2 people that approached me one was hot af so I didn't care what he said I was like yes! Other guy I had a boyfriend at the time n was thinking like omg don't follow me to my car it's so old it stands out was worried he might break into my car at school. Now a days I'd be more open to it so yea be direct its best. Wait I think i had a guy who was proper ask me out at work once I had a boyfriend so I told him no but I said don't give up keep asking people. Weird thing is years later this might of been the guy I had a one night stand with lol I actually asked him even did u ask out a girl who worked here? But he didn't remember.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

For me - the best way to ask a girl out - is to move into the dating range of behaviours without explicitly asking or vocalizing that it's a date - if you text her first thing in the morning and before going to bed each day - and invite her to your place and pay for her meals at restaurants - its suggested as a date without verbalizing it as a date - I'm not saying to trick or lie to her - but I think your chances of rejection are higher if you officially ask for a date before rapport and romantic interest has been mutually established.

JustAnj · Answer

Start off with simple conversation, something you noticed she's into even the coffee she likes. Starting a Convo straight into your pretty without already making small talk will end badly unless she already likes you.

If you two connect keep it going and ask her if she'd like to go out to grab a bite (weekend set time or a drink of coffee in the morning at a local shop you'd think she'd like)

Most important part try not to seem to nervous or anything she will know your into her right away and it might make her feel pressured into letting you down softly. You want to catch her interest.

Katebfun · Answer

That sounds perfect, I hope a guy says that to me one day. Keep it cool n casual. You don't have to express she's pretty right away. You could say you want to get to know her more and she agrees, then tell her she's pretty on the date. I say this because, asking someone out they usually already know your into her.

I-C3_ME · Answer

When first meeting them? No, mostly what you can do is trying to get them to add you on social media and asking them that way. The pauze is vital to not be creepy. So basically find a good excuse to have them add you, like for example I'm a web designer so I'd go "hey by the way I'm a web designer so add me and if you ever need a website I'll give you a discount". Even if she says no, i still a potential future client. So find something like this, something cool and useful

Notfabricated · Answer

All depends on how attractive she finds you to be and how shy she is. If she's feeling you it could work. Lol I ask a girl that once and she said " I dont know you like that " and other times it was " here's my number call me tonight" . Thats why if I dont see some type of indication your feeling me I don't bother. Not being direct is a good way to be friend zoned.

Anonymous · Answer

I would feel uncomfortable if someone is that direct. It depends. Do i know him? How long we ve been talking? Where do i meet him? If is a complete stranger i would feel very uncomfortable and creeped out.

KWill90 · Answer

In my opinion, no. It's better to just start asking questions about them and have natural conversations. Just start getting to know them, instead of asking permission to get to know them.

MoonStalker · Answer

What happens if she says no? Are you going to listen or get stalkerish?

muscularbumblebee · Answer

Yes unless it’s the middle of the road. Just don’t be that guy. Time and place.. but direct is always a yes for me

Anonymous · Answer

Way better than most we get, especially the guys who obsess over us for years and never have the courage to say anything.

SynthKobra · Answer

It can be if they have initial high interest. Otherwise you need to turn their dial up by building sexual tension and wanting to learn more about you non sexually. Just my two cents.

exitseven · Answer

Don't lead with the "I think you are pretty" because it makes you look shallow but yes the direct approach is probably best.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Nope. That'll just get you a bunch of polite smiles (if you're lucky) and something along the lines of "gee, you're so sweet. I'm just super busy"

PinkHamster · Answer

He would get a good slap with coffee flavor instead💕✨

LeoElias · Answer

Does it feel natural when you guys talk? Does she cut the conversation short? You should test the waters more and if she seems receptive then definitely go for it.

Lexi_Lous · Answer

Not for me. I am a shy person. A direct approach pushes me away

Avicenna · Answer

No, that would actually be embarrassing. Where are you planning to approach girls?

K-I-S-S · Answer

Be as direct as you can, in your interest and intentions but don't say it out directly.

Anonymous · Answer

It can work with mature girls but immature girls will play games with you and string you along for years as their admirer. If they say no then just break off contact and don't talk to them again

Anonymous · Answer

Um think of yourself as a potential murderer. That will help you behave more appropiately to strangers

dreamstar72 · Answer

Get a friend do direct approach with the asking

he-takes-a-part · Answer

I kissed directly no bullshit

slackbabbath · Answer

Yes, 100%

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