Why would a guy discourage his guy friends from pursuing his best friend who is a girl?

[Anonymous]

Why would my best guy friend discourage his friends from pursuing me? He says they may try but he has told them not to bother or that they would be unsuccessful in their attempts. He has also told me that I can pursue them if I want but he would recommend not doing so. He has made it clear to me and everyone else we are just friends so why does he care if he isn’t interested?

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He also discourages me from going on dating sites

[Anonymous]

I'm just guessing (imagining if this was me), he's either selfish (or this is for selfish reasons), or because he knows you all, doesn't think you'll be good matches (playing God lol). Or possible immaturity?

If there's truly is no interest on his part for you, it could be something like "I don't want her, but don't want you to have her either". I had a best friend when I went to high school and she was like this. "Confessed" to me years later as adults that she purposely chased away girls that showed any interest in me (we all hung around together), to "protect" me. "They weren't good enough", but I think it was just that, she was being selfish and liked the attention I gave her and didn't want that changing. In your case he could be afraid of loosing your friendship (or being on the back burner). Or, maybe he truly believes that his friends are no good for you or that you won't be compatible. But again, he's playing God if that's the case and making the decisions for you.

[OlderAndWiser]

". . . so why does he care if he isn’t interested?" You are an adult and yoou have some prior experience with guys. What do you think?

[MrCommodore]

He either has a secret crush on you or doesn't want anybody messing up his group of friends by getting romantically involved.

[dreamstar72]

Control you

[LightOfTruth]

Lol he likes you