I've been talking to this guy for a good 4-5 months now. From the get-go, I'd like to explain how I had started this thing on the basis that I was crushing on him and had wanted to get to know the guy better.
What started off as a regular Facebook chat one particular night of the week grew into random pop-ups on FB chat and then soon developed to texting. The guy eventually gave me his number so I could reach him right away as opposed to having to wait until he logged on to FB before I could get his reply.
He'd been flirty since the beginning-but I was quick to brush it off as I have painfully learned time-and-time again, it COULD just be all in my head.
Over the course of our 'bond' there were instances where I felt discouraged and sometimes was afraid of getting 'friend-zoned' as mentioned, I was crushing on the guy from the beginning.
-P/s I had been extra careful to only take signals that suggested interest from him with a grain of salt in the beginning (and sometimes still now too) as he had just gotten out of a relationship when we started this.
-He texts me almost everyday and if he does not, always has a reason not to and they all check-out.
-We barely talk about the opposite sex to each other-maybe not the ones who are in our lives (save for celebrities we may physically admire I suppose)
-I was describing the nature of our texts to a girlfriend and she said that we were each others' 'Personal Twitter'
-He started joking about getting married a couple of times when we hung out with one of his best friends e.g. 'why are you being so and so, how are we gonna get married this way?'
-He made that joke again recently, but this time it was just between the two of us.
-Someone asked if he was my boyfriend in front of him and he offered 'yes' before explaining that he actually was NOT on account of him wanting me but I didn't want him back (this was a statement that was new to me as is to the person he was telling it to)
-Seems like he is not averse to the idea of us being together (e.g. someone suggested we had a double wedding with a mutual friend and his response was to guffaw how cost-effective that would be!)
-What throws a wrench into all of this (for me):
a) Sometimes greets me with 'Hi friend!'
b) Referred to me as 'buddy' that one time recently
c) Most prominent reason, he has not clarified his feelings to me (if he has any)
d)And we're pushing 5 months of contact already and him not giving me the proper low-down on what's going on here is not encouraging
Seriously, what is going on with this dude?
What started off as a regular Facebook chat one particular night of the week grew into random pop-ups on FB chat and then soon developed to texting. The guy eventually gave me his number so I could reach him right away as opposed to having to wait until he logged on to FB before I could get his reply.
He'd been flirty since the beginning-but I was quick to brush it off as I have painfully learned time-and-time again, it COULD just be all in my head.
Over the course of our 'bond' there were instances where I felt discouraged and sometimes was afraid of getting 'friend-zoned' as mentioned, I was crushing on the guy from the beginning.
-P/s I had been extra careful to only take signals that suggested interest from him with a grain of salt in the beginning (and sometimes still now too) as he had just gotten out of a relationship when we started this.
-He texts me almost everyday and if he does not, always has a reason not to and they all check-out.
-We barely talk about the opposite sex to each other-maybe not the ones who are in our lives (save for celebrities we may physically admire I suppose)
-I was describing the nature of our texts to a girlfriend and she said that we were each others' 'Personal Twitter'
-He started joking about getting married a couple of times when we hung out with one of his best friends e.g. 'why are you being so and so, how are we gonna get married this way?'
-He made that joke again recently, but this time it was just between the two of us.
-Someone asked if he was my boyfriend in front of him and he offered 'yes' before explaining that he actually was NOT on account of him wanting me but I didn't want him back (this was a statement that was new to me as is to the person he was telling it to)
-Seems like he is not averse to the idea of us being together (e.g. someone suggested we had a double wedding with a mutual friend and his response was to guffaw how cost-effective that would be!)
-What throws a wrench into all of this (for me):
a) Sometimes greets me with 'Hi friend!'
b) Referred to me as 'buddy' that one time recently
c) Most prominent reason, he has not clarified his feelings to me (if he has any)
d)And we're pushing 5 months of contact already and him not giving me the proper low-down on what's going on here is not encouraging
Seriously, what is going on with this dude?
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I wish guys would just say things outright
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