What are some good ways to flirt by touching?

[Anonymous]

I've been flirting with this girl and so far I've physically flirted by doing these things:

1) Sitting/standing very close to her

2) Having my hand touch her hands and having them linger for up to half a minute

3) Having our legs touch when sitting together

4) Giving her hugs (good hugs, arms around her waist and pull her in close and snug)

5) Touching her knee and just above it with my hand

6) Touching her arms and shoulders, her back

7) Whispering in her ear while I have my arm around her shoulders

Now that I think of it that's quite a list (lol), but I've been wanting to do more. Like hold hands with her and maybe touch her thigh and upper leg, her stomach and waist, face hair.

But all that stuff seems very personal and romantic, something that only comes with the dating/relationship territory. When I see her I want to hold her hand and caress it but since we've only been flirting and I haven't asked her out, I feel like that would be too much?

I mean she lets me touch her, I feel like I could touch her most any way I want, she doesn't move away and she gets all giddy. But now that you know how I've touched her, where do I go from here (without asking her out)? What is an OK way to touch her if we're not dating to keep escalating?

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*face and hair, not her face hair

[Anonymous]

Wow, that really is already quite a list, lol. 7's a particularly nice move too...

You do want to date her, right? I guess just ask her, then. Seems to me like you've already gotten to the pre-nuzzling stuff.

If you're trying to get around to holding her hand before you ask her out, just sort of ease into it -- either sort of bump into her hand while you're walking and take it for a while to see how she reacts or (if you're feeling cheeky) put your hand over hers the next time it's on a table/counter and step away from the table/counter, taking her along with you. The first one usually works. The second takes a semi-macho sort of personality, but I've seen it work as well.

Good luck!

[carolinagirl15]

Everything you've done is good, but I wouldn't go as far as upper leg and thigh until y'all actually are together. Everything you're doing seems very sweet, and holding hands is...a stretch? I mean...it depends on the girl that you are with. As I read on,..."touch her almost anywhere you want" can be a bad thing. Running your hands up and down her arms and around her face- that's one thing. Grabbing and groping her breasts and crotch could get you a slap in the face, and possibly a criminal charge if she's not comfortable with it. Wait until you and her are together. If you want me opinion, ask her out. But apparently you don't want to, so I respect that.

--hope this helps! :)

[hsshannah96]

Holy shit. If it’s me I would’ve stopped the dude. If I am not dating them yet I don’t want to be touched.

[steve1122]

I think you are fishing in dangerous waters. You reach a woman with your eyes and with your words. If you try reaching with your hands, you are likely to get into trouble.

Always let her initiate the touching- for a woman, respecting her personal space is a big deal. If she likes you, she will touch your arm or your shoulder in a playful way, but the meaning is clear. Once she has breached the personal space barrier, then you may proceed, but carefully, or you could freak her out.