Ladies and guys, what is your flirting style?

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 I like bread 🥖 too

[weasley8]

If I'm trying to flirt with someone, I won't do it in front of people. I'll talk to them far more when I pass them in the hallway alone than I do when I pass them in the hall with friends, mine or theirs.

I tend to ask for help with things I don't need help with. Just little decisions, like picking decorations for my apartment, or picking songs to play for an event. I make it a pattern. Every time I'm adding a new decoration, or making a new playlist, I'll ask for their input.

I sometimes tease people a bit, in a lighthearted way. The guy I'm talking too now, for example, thought about the theme of my new playlist for a while, and then came and found me when he finally thought of something. It was not at all thematic, and just had a slight connection, so I kind of laughed at it. He laughed too.

If there are group outings, I will invite the person to them. But that's not really to flirt. That's just to make it clear that I like them, and I like spending time with them. I'm not big on PDA. If I end up talking to them one on one at the event, then maybe. I don't mind flirting when there are other people in the room, or near us, I just don't like doing it when talking at the table with a bunch of other people, for example. If I just see them in group conversations, I'll talk to them about the same things I talk to everyone else about.

I also like to give people compliments. With most people I avoid compliments on clothing or appearance though. If I like someone though, I'll tell them if I like a certain shirt on them, or if I like their hair the way they styled it on a certain day. It also helps me see if they like me back, because if they do, they'll usually dress like that, or style their hair that way, more often.

[Jamie05rhs]

@weasley8 Have any of those guys ever figured out that you were flirting with them?

[weasley8]

I think some suspect it. But the things I do at first is intentionally vague, so that they can't really confirm it. If they start subtly flirting too, I'll step it up.

I usually start just by being extra goofy. I make bad jokes, or stick my tongue out when I win games. If that is also reciprocated, I'm a big hugger. Or sometimes once I've established the guy as a friend, I can be physically playful. I think it's funny to try to push them over, as a game.

But it has to be mutual escalation, and I have to have a friendly, playful relationship with the guy before I get more intense, or make anything official.

If I say I like something a guy is wearing, for example, and he doesn't start wearing that thing or similar things more often, I take it as a sign that he's not interested. If he doesn't go out of his way to talk to me, I assume he's not interested. If the guy doesn't compliment me, or try to be funny in some way, I assume he's not interested. If the guy isn't trying to flirt with me, in some way that matches or exceeds what I'm already doing, I assume he's not interested, and I stop trying, because I move on.

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't know, sis. That doesn't sound like a very good strategy to me. I'm just being honest with you.

I think you need to be more assertive and direct if you want to get results.

[weasley8]

@Jamie05rhs You say that, but it's been successful for me so far. But then again, flirting is different for men and women. I prefer to be asked out, so rather than ask the guy myself, I have things I do to get him to ask me. And it works. I also rely quite a lot on my appearance though, to be perfectly honest. I know I have a pretty face, and if I let my hair go free, it can be quite the attention grabber, especially if combined with a dress that I know I look good in, and a touch of tinted lip balm.

I dressed up like that for orientation at work this year, for example, because I knew one guy in particular would be there (the one I'm talking to currently), and I hadn't seen him for a while. Not only has he been approaching me a lot more this year, but the number of guys from my entire workplace who come up and try to make conversation with me despite having no reason to talk to me is kind of hilarious. It's still happening, especially with this year's new hires, because first impressions make a difference.

[Jamie05rhs]

@weasley8 You say it's been successful, but you didn't mention any of those guys actually catching on and asking you out. (Because I asked you about that specifically.) 🤷

[Jamie05rhs]

A guy approaching you to talk doesn't count.

[weasley8]

I don't think you asked me that specifically, but yes, they have asked me out.

My problem with dating isn't that I can't get guys to ask me out. My problem is that I get bored quickly. I can be a bit eccentric at times, and I prefer to date people who are similarly eccentric, and who have the energy to keep up with me. I think that's another reason that I like to build a friendship first, build everything slowly. If the guy can hold my attention through all of that, chances are he can hold my attention in a relationship.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay. Well, I respectfully disagree with your tactics. (Not morally; just logistically. Lol). But you do you. :)

[weasley8]

I'm never interested in guys who just ask me out without ever talking first though. That's why I didn't bring that up first. I bring up the guys that approach me to talk without having any reason to because that's what most people will do before actually asking someone out. If I'm not at all interested, I'm also pretty good at redirecting, and most guys catch on to that, and therefore don't ask me out. Some still do, and that gets awkward, but again, I wouldn't consider that a success. Because I"m not interested in them.

But if your question is if I'm successful at getting guys I like to ask me out, the answer is yes. I just don't consider it a success unless it happens in a timeline that I'm comfortable with, which is on the slower end.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay

[JPresidente]

I like this approach.

[Jamie05rhs]

@JPresidente What happened to your old account?

[JPresidente]

@Jamie05rhs I closed it down for a while. It was taking up too much of my time... lol. I'm back and hoping I balance my time better.

[JPresidente]

@Jamie05rhs thanks for asking!

[Jamie05rhs]

@JPresidente Oh, okay; cool. Welcome back, man. :)

[JPresidente]

@Jamie05rhs thanks! I've been looking for my ole pal @Maria2916 but I think she's gone. If she ever comes back I hope she says hello.

[Jamie05rhs]

@JPresidente Maria is gone? Damn! She was a cool chick.

[JPresidente]

@Jamie05rhs yep. We'd message for days on end. Miss her.

[Jamie05rhs]

@JPresidente And she'd always comment your name on my posts. Lol

[JPresidente]

I think she’s still there. I can’t send out messages yet but I think I can receive them @maria2716

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh; cool :)

[Ms_Facesitter]

Mine is by listening and being welcoming all the time. While doing so I'll inch closer and closer to you.

[BullShark]

I have a more teasing sort of flirting style, that can come off as overpowering to some or endearing to others. I start off with light good humored jokes and try to match her energy. If she's into it too and I feel like she's comfortable around me, I slowly try taking things up a notch. I also try the push and pull method where I'll ask her a sort of risque question and then switch the topic to something else, which always leaves them begging for more and wanting to get back to what we were talking before.

[Sparkie460]

Yes I love bread. Can I have you in between the 2 slices. I'm only kidding. I'm more of an innocent flirter since I'm married.

[Sparkie460]

Now I want a sandwich. Thanks. Lol

[Pinay_ako]

🤣. Do you like ham pbj?

[Sparkie460]

I love ham and PBJ. Just on separate sandwiches

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 I meant OR

[Sparkie460]

I was going to make a tuna sandwich but now I can't choose. Ugg

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 that’s good too. Make it two please

[Sparkie460]

Sure. Come on over. You bring the bread. Lol

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 ok 👌

[Sparkie460]

See, my flirting worked. Lmao 🤣

[Sparkie460]

Your bread comment wasn't bad either. The guy just has to be quick thinking.

[Sparkie460]

Thanks for the mho

[melanieeeB]

It's a mix out of stupid ass jokes, suggestive sentences sometimes and definitely touching

[sheenagwapa]

i've been accused as flirty but i was just being friendly. i am friendly and accommodating regardless of gender. not gonna lie i've flirted before i'm not perfect but irl be it strangers i am really like this friendly and accommodating. my ex before use to get mad at me because i have this habit of talkinh to taxi drivers. why would i fucking flirt with a taxi driver and worst in front of my boyfriend at that time. i think people at times are not really thinkinh


i will get massive headache if i keep changing the way i interact with people depending on their gender

[MIMOSACHALLENGE]

I'm usually a very nice person but the minute I like a guy I begin to tease him (not sexually but about him , for example the way he eats, a shirt he wore or the way he says something). I don't do it in a rude or mean way usually it makes them laugh but something about having someone joke back is kinda hot.

Or I usually flirt with my eyes which I learned to do after years of practice. It works very well.

[dolemite89]

i’m the same way with teasing girls and having funny playful arguments

[Blackthorné]

It ranges between cheesey pick up lines (said that in humor) to actually physically flirting, or full on sensual flirting.
Ex.
1.) "So... You come here often? *Eyebrow wiggles*"
2.) *Touching your shoulders or waist*
3.) Plain out having a very suggestive conversation about sex
It's all about learning to read body language, and social cues. Usually best to just be out there and blunt with it, and to accept rejection gracefully.

[dynamicyandere]

I have a pretty dynamic approach. But, I guess that’s what keeps things interesting, yeah?


I can be really sweet, I can be sultry, I can be corny, I can be funny, I can we weird, I can be intense.


It really depends on my mood and the situation and the energy in the air and how I want to go about it.


I don’t stick to just a single style. If styles were colors. I’d be a rainbow. ✨🌈✨

[ObscuredBeyond]

Online, I may wax philosophical, and throw in some flattery. Aiming as much for personality likes as for beauty. In person, it's a lot of choking up while attempting to do the same. Or trying to share some trivia, getting some two-way interest, then saying I'd like to hang out somewhere like Barnes and Noble to talk in more detail.

It doesn't usually work.

[NZGirl07]

I usually don't like to initiate things with a boy, with my boyfriend now, we met at a music concert we worked at, and I saw him staring at me and then try to carry about 10 music stands by himself, I thought he was trying to impress me so I asked if he needed help 😂 once someone shows interest, I usually like to make jokes, and if the guy shows lots of interest I might sit close to him or do a little arm touch.

[God_of_Thunder]

Man, if a girl asked me if I liked bread, I would know I've found my soulmate, lol.

I'm apparently very good at flirting (so I've been told), but damn it; I love dinner rolls, biscuits, sourdough... 😂

[Pinay_ako]

Soooo… do you like bread 🍞? 🤣

[God_of_Thunder]

Marry me 💍

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 💒 👰🏻‍♀️

[God_of_Thunder]

🏡👨‍👩‍👧‍👦🐕😂

[Pinay_ako]

🤟 😽

[Bmories99]

I try not to flirt but I guess sometimes it can come across as flirting. In other words if i flirt its unintentional. I love getting to know people and talking to people. Making new friends and just being welcoming. With my wife sometimes it's teasing her to the point she smacks me on the arm. Sometimes it's just giving her a hug and telling her how much I appreciate her. When the kids aren't around then sometimes it's some dirty joking or a slap on the butt.

[DoctorSex]

This gives me an idea for a question lol I probably won't get as many comments as you, but I'm enjoying the idea of asking it!

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Pinay_ako]

Yas do it please 😆

[VistasV2]

I usually make a sexual comment in a comedic way, or I’ll try and get her to laugh before I catch her off guard like *something funny* *girl laughs* “you look/sound very cute/etc when you *action*”. I like to do it when least expected.

or I do this really cool thing where I’m absolutely oblivious and miss my opportunity with a girl I think is really cute.

[Belgie]

You wanna grab a coffee sometime?

(BLUNT AND DIRECT)

[Pinay_ako]

Loooove it

[Still-alive]

i'd add 'nice shoes' at the start of that lol

[Pinay_ako]

@Still-alive hmmm not a good idea. 🤣 but okay

[Still-alive]

How come? are her shoes bad? :P

[KBird]

Do you like cheese? My favourite's Gouda.

- if you know, you know ;)

[Pinay_ako]

Oooh that’s a sexy line 😘

[MrPickles13]

I think the I do you like bread is close enough. But to be completely honest I don't know how to flirt or to tell when someone is. Nor do I know what flirting is.

[Pinay_ako]

Use that line 😂

[MrPickles13]

To be honest it's probably the best line I know now. I've never been a fan of the idea really pick up lines just don't seem genuine.

[Emiliamazing]

The last time I flirted with somebody was when I met my husband and I was pretty forward. It went something like this: “what’s a good looking good like you doing here by yourself?”

[nawtee_me]

Hmmmm Ladies and guys…. Not Ladies and Gentlemen or guys and gals, or even boys and girls but Ladies and guys? Why is that? lol

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 wowwwww answer the question please

[Marshymallow]

Eye contact (would give ‘em the eyes)
Smile and laugh to unfunny jokes
I become more talkative than I usually am or less… depends

[Shark_61695]

Yea... no, I'm about as subtle as an elephant tapdancing in a pile of drum kits.

If I fancy someone, I think depressing thoughts until they go away.

[Midgetmcwidget]

Being friendly to everyone and not being able to function around the guy a like, success rate 0. Don’t recommend!

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't think I have one. Or if I did it's been repressed for so long that it may have died.

Honestly, the only way I know how to flirt is by being dirty (sadly). But that's not allowed, so that doesn't really help much. 🤷