When at a club, what do you wish an attractive guy does to initiate dancing?

[Biobear119]

You're at a club with a group of your friends, loud music, lots of people. You're trying not to let your eyes wander to avoid any creeps taking it as an invitation. How can a decent guy "test the waters" and get your attention? Guys often just try to go all in and grind and that seems disrespectful when uninvited but there are struggles in the chaos.

Secondly, while grinding, what should the guy do, I usually try to follow the girls hips to the rhythm but I have varied success with this. Then what's a respectful way to escalate things then? The club is hard to have a conversation but is there anything someone could say that would make you more likely to like him and potentially go home with him?

What do the guys that are successful do to make a girl more open to them?

[Guy13]

Here's what has worked for me: 2-5 minutes nonsexual/up-n-down looking chatting her up. Let's go exercise and gently take hand and go. Lead but then follow her skill level. Push her with Skills and let her do the same. Emotional bond without having to sit and hear "yak-yak" and squeeze me for some "emotional talk" that's not going to happen...

[mandyfire98]

Walk straight up to me and and say hi and ask me to dance. That's way more likely to work on me then sneaking up behind me and trying to dance up on me.

If we are grinding in the club just put your hands on my hips and match the rhythm. Just pay attention to my movements and feel my vibe. If I'm getting more aggressive then I want you to get more aggressive. If you feel my hands touch you then touch back. If it feels like I'm all over you I'm into you. At that point it's probably time to ask if I want to get out of there and go hangout.

[Slingblade1126]

Goddamn! I need a drink.

[Sonorous]

Just ask me. I'll bust it down with a Chad any day. Platonically ofc. Obviously.