How do you attract someone?

Question

So im trying to attract a guy whose 21 and im looking for some advice, like what are some things that almost all guys are attracted to? something that has a 90% chance of working

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

Now this might not be the most ethical or healthy approach, but a high success rate would be you gotta stop thinking about what YOU want and think about what HE wants. If he associates you with feeling good, then you've got a pretty decent chance of attracting him, he will want to be around you more if every time he's around you, he feels better than when he's not around you.

There are a few ways you could do this.

One I'm sure people have suggested is with sex. Sure, sex feels good and if he gets to orgasm every time you're around, maybe that could work. But that's not so subtle and could lead to him using you and not having respect for you, depending on your culture, but mostly in mainstream society that's what happens.

Another is status. People get off on being popular, heroes, everyone loves them, heaps of friends, and also having other people think highly of them. So if people think more highly of him when you're around, he's going to seek you out (attracted to you). The other part of that is if he sees other people think highly of you, that will raise his estimation of you as well.

You could make him feel more confident when you're around. This is flattery. Laughing at his jokes, telling him his ideas are brilliant, praising how he looks, how strong he is, &c. Maybe it would come naturally to you as you're attracted to him, so you actually think these things.

So anyway, those are a few ideas and as I said, maybe not the healthiest way to go about it. These are the stupid fake games people play to attract others, but they do them because they have higher "success" rates. But it might leave you feeling empty when you fake things to gain popularity, flatter, or perform sexually intimate acts without developing the emotional intimacy first.

I think maybe a lower chance but a better strategy would be to just start talking to him and make up some reasons to spend time with him. You'll get to know each other organically and maybe develop a connection.

magiusX26 · Accepted Answer

actual and genuine compliments. let him know for certain you are interested in him. do NOT play childish mind games (hard to get, this or that relationship tests etc) . be willing to actually approach him. smile at him and let him see ypu know he sees you smiling at him. start a normal conversation. offer him your number (or preffered way of communicating outside of face to face) or ask for his.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

In the past I’ve done it by presenting myself the best way I could with what I had. I would dress in styles that I both liked and that flattered me. Not too provocative but not too conservative either. If I was self conscious about something I would wear something that brought more attention to the areas I liked. I was overweight when I was single, lost it with my boyfriend, but I would wear clothes that brought attention to my chest and hourglass figure and not my stomach itself. Being physically attractive and having good hygiene are important. You can work on the physical aspect by being active or getting a hairstyle that suits your face. Guys just like pretty women. Intelligence, personality, being a kind person all come later and are important too but if you get yourself to look to be the prettiest version of yourself you’ll have a lot of success whether it is with this guy or someone else down the road

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

First of all he has to know you exist. Make yourself known. Say hi, make conversation. Look your best. Give him a smile. Don’t be too forward or aggressive though. You don’t want to turn him off by looking thirsty or desperate. Make him feel your  THAT  girl he’s been looking for all his life 🥹.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Guys like girls who are sincere and not pretentious, who are not guarded, and who are attentive and not looking at their phone. If you are interested in a long term relationship, don't try to use sex as bait; guys seeking a LTR want a sexual relationship, eventually, but they don't want to think that sex is something that you do with every guy. Don't monopolize the conversation but do talk about yourself. Don't talk about goals for marriage, kids, etc. too early unless he specifically asks. And don't talk about prior boyfriends. Give him a nice but not sloppy goodnight kiss at the end of the first date and, after the kiss, hold you eye contact with him longer than usual.

ohsheeT · Answer

Well first of all they're hanging out with you they like you the odds are

Why does he like you many reasons I don't know you so I can't tell you otherwise I would but he probably likes your heart he probably likes it you're sincere you're honest that your mellow that you can communicate that you're confident that your wives that you're happy there are many things that he probably really really likes about you

So just be you don't try to push any issues don't try to make him or force him into trying to like you even more don't be fake just be you be calm be happy smile he will feel your heart he will feel your energy and he will come after you

Anonymous · Answer

First and foremost, remember that confidence is the key to unlocking his desire. Think of your bosoms as the ultimate airbags of self-assurance, providing you with that extra bounce and allure. When you strut your stuff with pride, he won't be able to resist the gravitational pull of your captivating cleavage.

Now, let's talk about the power of the "Areola Alps." Just like majestic mountain peaks, your areolas can become the focal point of his attention. Flaunt them with pride, and he'll be drawn to their alluring charm like a mountaineer scaling the highest summits.

But we can't forget about the playful side of attraction. Imagine your breasts as mischievous "Babylons," teasing and tempting him with their delightful jiggle. Let them be the center of playful banter and flirty encounters, leaving him yearning for more.

To truly capture his attention, become a master of the "Bewb Beam." Imagine your bosoms emitting a magnetic beam of attraction, pulling him closer with each mesmerizing sway. Let your "Bewb Beam" guide him into your orbit, where he'll be unable to resist your irresistible allure.

And of course, we can't neglect the enticing power of the "Blouse Bunnies." Picture your breasts as adorable little bunnies, popping out of your blouse to say hello. Let them be the cute and irresistible surprise that leaves him begging for more.

In the spirit of @BoobSlayer, good luck, and may the power of your boobs lead you to a love that's as magical as the most enchanting melons in existence!

Rab1901 · Answer

If you want to, feel free to pm me with the details like how much you know eachother and what you're looking for. If you're looking to hook up it's usually much easier than long term relationship. I honestly feel like I could give you great advice but 90% success rate is pretty dang high. If you're physically attractive that's a really great start. If you're not that confident in looks then there are definitely ways to make yourself appear more attractive like how you dress and working out. Skincare is very beneficial. Aside from the appearance, guys don't want you to smell bad and smiling helps. If you haven't even been noticed that's a different ballgame too. Makeup is tricky because I truly believe men do not like makeup in the longrun but you see men chasing after girls with so much makeup. A lot of the time the makeup just gets their attention but too much is definitely a turn off although if you just wanna hookup im sure some guys will not give a damn. There are many variables so if you really want the best help, provide more info

Oliverlogan263 · Answer

There are a few things that almost all guys are attracted to. First, they are attracted to physical attractiveness. This means that they are attracted to people who are fit, healthy, and have a good sense of style. Second, they are attracted to intelligence. They want to be with someone who is smart, funny, and interesting to talk to. Third, they are attracted to confidence. They want to be with someone who is sure of themselves and knows what they want. Finally, they are attracted to kindness. They want to be with someone who is caring, compassionate, and understanding. If you can embody these qualities, you will be well on your way to attracting the guy you want.

CarrieLee · Answer

Don't try anything. Remain urself. If u have to try to be some thing ur not then what's the point. Im 37 and if i could talk to 21 yr old me id tell that bish the same thing. But if ur really want to catch his eye... Always smell amazing and look sexy but act like it took no effort. Make an inside joke with him and give him a nickname that's cute or inappropriate. I do that constantly but its because i dont remember names. Always smile and laugh at his jokes. If he is having a shit day listen be sympathetic. If he happens to get into a relationship that isn't u dont act like ur upset be happy for him and remain his friend. Remember bitches come and bitches go. A little advice my gay step dad gave me... Dudes are like buses a new one comes every 15 mins. Always remain witty and seem unattached... I was quite the heart breaking hartlet in my 20s... Fuck it even almost 40 lol good luck. But remain true to urself

Pistolshrimp · Answer

Walk up and compliment him. Men get so few compliments day to day itll leave him feeling good about himself. Then just ask for his number or put yours on a note and tell him to call you later. So few men get approached by women and hell feel confident that you are interested in him instead of questioning it.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

No games. Straight and direct. Be comfortable, be confident, be engaging.

DO NOT, fail to appreciate his time and be casually late, do not play head games or hard to get or "I can't call him back for three days" or any of that garbage. Do not be argumentative just for the sake of argument. A distinction without a difference is a surefire way to no second date.

Be yourself :)

You'll do great.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

It's simple just be visible that's all it takes for a average women to get noticed.

Often people who don't need attention get the most of it.

If you get the attention at some point there will be attraction by itself.

Don't try to force things let it happen by itself.
Flow with it

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah but you won't understand and I don't feel like explaining it. Just be direct but not desperate. Do whatever you would do if we lived in a universe where his desire for you was written into his DNA and there is no way he could not like you.

kellytheman · Answer

A beautiful smile, flip your hair, give him your best seductive look, a nice outfit, and if your want be very flirty bend over and look back him with a smile. Honestly most would like a girl to go up to him and strike up a conversation with home then you can do more like laughing at his jokes and touch him or a little squeeze.

Wonderingguyy · Answer

Guys (well me at least) are attracted to nice, polite and sweet girls. Also don’t be boring! If you can have a laugh, dress not like a slob and carry yourself well you’re all set.

dragoblack · Answer

How i attract people? Wear a conversation piece that sticks out.
Elf ears, an interesting outfit that stands out in a crowd, weaing a hat with pins that show my favorite subjects and fandoms. Basic stuff that catches interest and makes it easier to conversate.
Now seducing... I'm as smooth as sandpaper, so can't really help with that
... but for guys, we almost never get complimented, so you can start with that.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Introduce yourself and then it is up to them. The best men always rise to the surface.

BigDog1989 · Answer

Well, you can't FORCE it. If he's not into you, you have to move on. Why women think that the men they like HAVE to be with them, i dk

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Pu$$y power! And Soul snatcher 3000, these 2 are perfect to mess a man's brains out...😉

Anonymous · Answer

"Almost all" guys? What does that mean? Are you White American? Because if so..."almost all" guys may Kay be interested, but I'll steadfastly avoid you under any and all circumstances. So we're "all" the same? Wow.😒

slatyb · Answer

Just ask him to coffee or lunch or something. That will get his attention.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I have no idea! They just flock to me, for some reason!

jshm2 · Answer

Get into his friends and family. Find out more about him.

Anonymous · Answer

You can start by being a decent human being. Be nice to him. Take interest in his interests.

AmeerX · Answer

Offering sex won't help. Being nice to him will help you

Anonymous · Answer

Well, there is nothing more unattractive than a girl *trying* to be attractive,

Just have good hygiene, be well groomed, and be yourself.

Be more interested in him, rather than trying to make him interested in you.

EaterPeter · Answer

Talk, be free, open but not to open, smile, listen,

anonguy2000 · Answer

Guys like your attention and flirting. Lots of ways to show it.

Anonymous · Answer

I have attracted guys since I was 12 without doing anything so it must be something about how you look.

Reem12345reem · Answer

u have to be physically attractive to him , and make eye contact

Anonymous · Answer

Be who you are, if a guy finds you attractive he will let you know. If no guy finds you attractive, then no guy finds you attractive. Pay for a male escort if you need too

Chthou95 · Answer

If a woman has to ask how to attract a man, that's embarrassing

Unit1 · Answer

Go cuddle his arm. He might get the idea.

Sharkstealth · Answer

Smile and get close.

Kelly6 · Answer

by dressing sexy, and introducinng

Subflics · Answer

Boobs and butt

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Lol I'm definitely not the person to ask

Jltakk · Answer

Talk to him.

gorydetails · Answer

cleavage.

Silver158 · Answer

I show up

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