Would it be weird if I gave a guy my number after he finishes working his shift?

[Anonymous]

For context, he’s a really cute guy that works at a fast food place in my uni. I’ve seen him a couple times and the place usually closes around 4pm and he typically closes alone. I know it would be really awkward to bother him while he’s in the middle of working so that’s why I haven’t approached him yet. I asked my friends about it and they all said it would be really weird so that’s why I haven’t gone for it yet. I don’t wanna ask for his number because a) he’s working and b) I don’t want to pressure him into giving it to me in case he’s not interested. If I do go through with it how should I go about it?

[Radiate143]

You don't ever do that. 99% of guys take that as oh, she wants me to call and come fuck her right now. Women just want to chat. They give their number and get hurt when the guy speaks to her like some skank.

You meet to signal that YOU are approachable, you male small talk and do everything to make him know you will 100% accept his request by HIM to YOU of your number.

If you do the masculine things lkke approaching and hunting, men think she's like a dude and dudes are DTF always. So that's why women can't do that unless they are that way and what casual encounters.

[Holsen]

Yea , I agree on that, there’s nothing wrong with girls taking the initiative or chasing the person they like or are interested in. Relationships are personal so why should it matter if the girl makes the first move or the boy , after all what matters is the experience and bomd between them.

[Radiate143]

@Holsen you say you agree but then said the opposite?

I'm gonna assume you disagree.

Anyway, this is the truth. Like it or not. For sex woman pursuing a man works great. For relationship women pursuing the man is a disaster.

[Holsen]

Maybe men are bot worth being pursued over then!!🤔

[Holsen]

And as for that It doesn’t really matter to me as long as there is a connection or bond or liking even one sided either boy or the girl , knowing that I was trying to be as inside the corner as possible while not expressing directly my stand point!

[Radiate143]

@Holsen yeah any guy who can't man up and put him self out there isn't they guy for me. Too insecure.

[Radiate143]

@Holsen or not very interested.

[Holsen]

Lol , that raises many controversies but yeah that stands too!!

[Holsen]

First of all be a customer and play the role of the social and friendly one that likes to chat and is communicative, then if he acts social as well try to dig a bit deeper into him and take your time, what you think is wasted time actually is a step back to either retreat if not worth it or either take two steps forward. Second of all once you have bought into the character then find a conntive point between you and him and press naturally on that!

[Asker]

Thank you! I’m really bad at talking to people tho so I was wondering if you had any tips on how I should start the conversation?

[Holsen]

Actually you can start with anything as long as it’s versatile enough to give you the chance to create a relationship even as little as it can and also doesn’t run out, like hobbies or something you care about, now the important part is to ask for opinion but spontaneous like you are really meaning to just discuss or talk and in the same time to develop the conversation in a nice one. As you talk to a stranger it takes a bit of effort as at first till you burst him out of his bubble you will need to be the one to guide the conversation

[Billlewis]

No, I don't think that would be weird at all.

[Anonymous]

It’s fine