I have no social skills when it comes to guys and it's terrible I can only talk to girls. When I make guy friends the friendship fades because I can't go up to them to speak unless they speak to me first. I get so weird when I have crushes and 100% of the time unless it's online I WILL ruin it he will not like me and most likely avoid me or not even know I exist. I can’t even comprehend getting into a conversation with a guy. I’m very pretty but men don’t come up to me at all either
I have never pulled a guy in real life and guys do not come up to me. I do not know how to start conversations with guys I can only start them talking to girls. I don’t even know how to make my presence known aside from accidentally making long eye contact which just makes me look creepy when I’m not even trying to look at them. I cannot smile because I get too scared and they always look straight faced so so do I.
Just to be clear i'm incredibly social with girls unless they're in a group. I cannot join a conversation with guys in it or smile If I accidentally look at a guy. I don’t get how normal women talk to men. help please
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It sounds like you're experiencing some social anxiety when it comes to interacting with guys, especially when you have a crush on someone. It's not uncommon to feel nervous or unsure in these situations. One way to start is by practicing small steps, like making brief eye contact and offering a smile when you feel comfortable. Additionally, try to focus on common interests or topics when initiating conversations with guys. Remember, it's okay to be yourself and take things one step at a time. Building confidence in social situations takes practice, so be patient with yourself. If you continue to struggle, consider seeking support from a trusted friend.
I can relate as I am bit like you in this kind of situation. I can get along very well with female friends but with males it is more difficult unless they talked to me first or if I know they have a girlfriend / wife, I feel more at ease. I have a hard time chatting with guys. Regarding talking to your crush, you can start with small talk, say hi and smile to him, that will make you approachable or appear friendly. Then you can ask how is it going, what's your week end plan / how was your week end and talk about yours. Then find some common interests (food / travel) are actually common topics that is easy to talk about. I know that is not that easy, but you can try with this :).