Hi,
I need your opinions on whether you think this guy (a colleague) is/was interested or not. This all started about 6 weeks ago, prior to this we’d just say hello and make casual small talk:
- He complimented me on some work my team and I did (he thought it was all me) during a meeting and then began playfully teasing me about being impatient. He now always playfully teased or tries to make me laugh.
- When I’d say hello he’d raise his eyebrow and if I semi ignored him he would say hello.
- During breaks he’d come over to where I was and start talking.
- When we are out in a group, it ends up being him and I talking for the majority of the time like the others aren’t there. It’s us talking about personal things like memories, family, growing up etc He has strong eye contact. When others are talking I’ve seen him glance at me and look away quickly.
- He bought me a drink a few weeks ago insisting that it was because I drove.
- A few times he has borrowed my keys and when he has handed them back our fingers lightly brushed.
- As he doesn’t have a car at the moment, I drive- it’s on my way and not a big deal, but he kept thanking me and telling me I’m too nice to him and that he’s had fun.
- When showing him something on my phone, he’d lean in really close to the point our shoulders were touching.
- When we talk other than the personal stuff, there are questions he asks which he could ask some of the guys at work.
- I have his number and we tested it to make sure it works so we can still talk. I noticed that he saved it in his phone as my first name and last name and I’ve never actually mentioned my last name to him.
- He also remember things I’ve told him brings them up.
Am I reading into this all too much? I’ve had some bad experiences in the last few years with guys and really doubting myself. I know not much can happen since he is moving back home but it would be nice to know whether it would have been something worth pursuing if he had decided to stay here.
I need your opinions on whether you think this guy (a colleague) is/was interested or not. This all started about 6 weeks ago, prior to this we’d just say hello and make casual small talk:
- He complimented me on some work my team and I did (he thought it was all me) during a meeting and then began playfully teasing me about being impatient. He now always playfully teased or tries to make me laugh.
- When I’d say hello he’d raise his eyebrow and if I semi ignored him he would say hello.
- During breaks he’d come over to where I was and start talking.
- When we are out in a group, it ends up being him and I talking for the majority of the time like the others aren’t there. It’s us talking about personal things like memories, family, growing up etc He has strong eye contact. When others are talking I’ve seen him glance at me and look away quickly.
- He bought me a drink a few weeks ago insisting that it was because I drove.
- A few times he has borrowed my keys and when he has handed them back our fingers lightly brushed.
- As he doesn’t have a car at the moment, I drive- it’s on my way and not a big deal, but he kept thanking me and telling me I’m too nice to him and that he’s had fun.
- When showing him something on my phone, he’d lean in really close to the point our shoulders were touching.
- When we talk other than the personal stuff, there are questions he asks which he could ask some of the guys at work.
- I have his number and we tested it to make sure it works so we can still talk. I noticed that he saved it in his phone as my first name and last name and I’ve never actually mentioned my last name to him.
- He also remember things I’ve told him brings them up.
Am I reading into this all too much? I’ve had some bad experiences in the last few years with guys and really doubting myself. I know not much can happen since he is moving back home but it would be nice to know whether it would have been something worth pursuing if he had decided to stay here.
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A bit more info:
Friday night when we got to his place, we stayed talking in the car for another 30 mins. During that time, he kept saying “you’re the best” to me and thanking me, telling me how I’m too nice to him and should be angry at him for moving away (with others it’s more “why are these people not more annoyed”). Even when he was talking there was a sadness in his eyes. His words were very deep, not like the goodbyes he’d given others (including our boss).
Friday night when we got to his place, we stayed talking in the car for another 30 mins. During that time, he kept saying “you’re the best” to me and thanking me, telling me how I’m too nice to him and should be angry at him for moving away (with others it’s more “why are these people not more annoyed”). Even when he was talking there was a sadness in his eyes. His words were very deep, not like the goodbyes he’d given others (including our boss).
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He then said he needed to give me a hug and when we did hug it’s lasted a little longer than a casual one would. Our cheeks touched, my arms were around his neck and his were sort of the middle of my back and I think there was a bit of a squeeze. After the hug, we kept talking and he’d be like “I love how you… do this or make a decision like that”.
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