Can I go around the table handing my number out to men, or would that put them off?

Question

If I hand my number to a guy sitting next to me talking together at a social event, but then he says he has a girlfriend or says no or something, can I shyly slide my number right over to the guy overhearing the conversation sitting beside him? Or does that look desperate or that he is my second choice? From my perspective, the second guy IS attractive, he just hadn't shown the same level of initiative in talking to me as the first guy.

Unit1 · Accepted Answer

Do not feel ashamed doing that and making dating lively. You'll definitely have an advantage over the other girls, who are sitting on their lazy asses and expecting miracles.

DryGermanGuy · Accepted Answer

Why not just give out regular business cards and say that you are happy to stay in contact and continue the conversation? That's networking.

AviatorTom · Answer

You can give your number to whomever you want. Most guys would be very happy to have it, whether they are your first, second or last choice. 😉

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I've seen it done and could be done quite easily. He's not really a second choice or a back-up that'll do in a pinch, he's the winner compared to the first guy that snoozed on the offer and lost. The first guy disqualified himself so, you went with another guy. It's like if you sat at the table of 6 guys and said, "Who wants to fuck me?" And 3 of them raised their hand and then you went, Eenie Meany Miney Moe and picked the lucky guy randomly.

Anonymous · Answer

There isn't a simple answer, its sort of yes and no.

So, it is always a bit of a turn off to feel second choice. It's why it's best to establish a person is single or otherwise as low key as possible before overly reflecting your attention is with them.

However, us guys are very practical as well, and if you had showed interest (meaning reflected well if you found them hot or otherwise, not meaning came on to them all) to multiple guys before trying to give your number to one, then I think the other guys who seemed to reflect your attentions well probably wouldn't be unhappy in any way to get your number.

So I'd say, there's a definite chance it would lessen the way in which they where interested, but I don't think they would be put off vs wondering if they wheren't just in some chain or other guys. So whilst I doubt they would be put off, they might see you in less of a long term way if they suspected or felt second fiddle.

Novacane · Answer

Huys are not like girls in that case, most guys would still accept the number , they might not take you as seriously because they will think you did it just because, but they would still accept it

Xia1994 · Answer

yes it's going to put them off, one of the best pieces of advice I have ever gotten from another woman was to let men come to you let him come to you and ask for your number. I would not suggest giving men your number if they didn't ask you for it first. Yes babes it does look desperate to give a man you number if he didn't ask for it first.

JustAnotherGuy09 · Answer

If a guy can do it why can't a woman. I would be fine with it and if you are willing to reach out like that the least I can do is call.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

XD XD absolutely reeks of desperation and easy "skip" vibes there

FatNeville · Answer

You can go around the table handing your number out to men.

Dinklex3 · Answer

I don’t know… when I think about someone pulling it off, it makes me laugh. If you do decide to try it, report back.!

RetroReviews · Answer

I think some guys would appreciate it because you're being direct to the point not playing games showing an interest

EmmaMary · Answer

@bethany22  Just why the hell would you ever want to do this for? Talk about sheer desperation.

Anonymous · Answer

Make sure you have your scheduling book available, hours of operation available, how much you charge, and what street corner you'll be standing at waiting for your next client

MsBrie · Answer

Most of the guys i know are dating steadily, not old enough to date or married the one guy that isn't might tear the paper its written on before you walk away.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Just wear a t shirt with your phone number on it front and back.

Red_Arrow · Answer

Give it to all of them and the ones that are attracted and interested will all respond.

peedy · Answer

Think of it this why if a man would fo that he would be called a cheep and every women in town would know about it and they would destroy his social and public reputation

nawtee_me · Answer

It would think you desperately need someone if I saw you doing that…. But you can give me your number if you like. I will call and would love to get to know you…

exitseven · Answer

Are you wanting to sell them a house or do you want them to call you for a date?

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It would scare me away from a woman who did that to me.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Depends on how attractive you are. Most guys will bang any woman

Can I go around the table handing my number out to men, or would that put them off?

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It would scare me away from a woman who did that to me.