Why is it so hard for guys to be romantic?

[Anonymous]

Why do guys need the help of someone else to impress a girl or be romantic? Why is it hard for you guys?

[LishaJones]

I believe a lot of the way a man is...is how they were raised. How their parents treated on another. I have found that guys who have affection parents are affection people. Its how they were raised, it what they saw... Pictures this: A young guy sees his dad treating his mom like dirt, name calling, no I love you's, no cuddling, and no affection. He grows up believing that how a man treats a women. Never knowing the difference...

VS..

A young guy who sees his father showering his mom with gifts, cuddling, sweet talking, and then this young man sees the reaction on his mothers face. The guy grow up believing all women need to be treated like queens...

See the differences..

I have learnt through the years that you can not focus someone to be romantic, or make sweet gestures. It either comes naturally or not at all..Remember that..

If romance is what you what...you need to look for the guy whose father is romantic...

[darkscorpio]

Absolutely spot on! No point me answering because I couldn't have said it better myself.

[redheadbabygirl]

If you've ever had a guy who's OVERLY romantic, you'd know that it's a thousand times worse :P

Seriously, how would you like your boyfriend to write you a love poem every day, send you flowers all the time, and talk like he's quoting Romeo and Juliet? That's how my exboyfriend did things, and although it gave me butterflies at first, after a while it made me want to gag. Combined with clinginess, it was a nightmare.

I'm not saying that a degree of romanticism is bad. It can be QUITE good. Just as long as it's not suffocating. And it has to be the right amount for YOU. It might come easier to some guys than others.

Romanticism is SOMEWHAT inborn, but a lot of it can be learned. So if you want your guy to be more romantic, then just tell him it turns you on. Pretty soon he'll be a basket case :P

good luck!

[amberview]

I love the advice at the end. That's great advice! I'm much older than you, but you just gave me a great idea. :-)

[Ellex89]

I think it's because guys are okay with sitting on the sofa with soda and pizza on a date, where as girls have a standard of that "prince charming" sort of guy. Flowers are lovely, but we can't realistically expect to get them everyday. Guys love romance just as much as ladies do, they just require much less. All he cares about is how hot you look and how much he cares about you, I doesn't matter so much to him if you bought him some flowers 4 months ago.

If you're looking for more romance, simply ask him, men respond well when you tell them what you think is missing in the relationship. He'll never know if you want him to read your mind.

[Anonymous]

I think its hard for most guys to be romantic because most guys don't feel comfortable being vunerable and putting themselves out there. There is nothing worse than trying to be romantic and get shot down. I'm not speaking to every guy out there. I'm just generalizing. Most guys I know are not raised to be romantic. We just know what we see in the movies.lol My dad taught me how to throw a football before he taught me how to be romantic with girls. lol

[Albedo667]

I think it all depends on the guy really, I myself think I can be romantic.I just haven't had too much of an opportunity to do so