Why aren't guys romantic anymore?

Question

There are girls who still want that in a guy...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

To the poster and to any girl reading this if you want my honest opinion why I am not romantic anymore and I mean this from the bottom of my heart. I do not want any hardcore feminist to read this and think "whatever", because I know there are girls like that on GAG. As an individual, I am the quiet/keep to myself type, however I enjoy talking, even with new people. But I have done everything I could to "impress" girls, I have tried to change the way I dress, facial hair or no facial hair, just doing things that aren't me. I thought to myself one day, why does it matter if I want to wear sneakers, a vintage t-shirt and some joggers and just crack jokes, talk about sports, video games, history/politics/religion? Not conforming myself to what a girl wants and sitting around gossiping about other people or watching mindless reality television shows.

The truth is what died inside of me are three things that happened.

1) In 2004, I asked a girl out that I really liked back in high school, she shot me down, she rejected me about going to prom but she still tries to act like a friend, she tells her ex boyfriend because she wasn't thinking, her ex boyfriend loses it and wants to kick my ass and she starts to get stressed. I told her ex boyfriend bring it and fight me, never happened. Weeks pass, prom is approaching and only 2 schools in the enter city/suburbs are sharing the same banquet hall on prom night (my high school and her idiot ex bfs school) what are the freaking odds? To make matters worse, prom night was on the day of my birthday but I didn't go despite other people telling me to go. The girl who I asked to prom the next day said, "oh you should have went, I would have danced with you". I was cold and distant. School ended, she went off to university, we eventually argue on MSN messenger, we stop talking to each other, 14 years later she adds me to Facebook but is married and that's fine, I don't harbour any anger towards her after all this time.

2) Another girl I really liked, she showed interest, she called me, she asked me to meet up, I was there for her, she knew I liked her. I went to the flower shop, ordered roses, bought her chocolates, paid $70 or something to have it delivered to her work. The next day didn't tell her, she said, "by the way I found a guy and we've been talking about I'm going to be with him". When I got the roses by delivery to my house, I threw the roses meant for her in the garbage. She rejected me and cut me out of her life for good not giving a crap.

3) I spent 3 years talking to another girl recently, she liked me, she wanted to meet up, she even wanted my nudes, and even wanted to send her nudes to me but I declined. I tried to be real with her, talk to her about other stuff and have real genuine convos and not just lusting over her like some obsessive simp guy. She stopped talking to me (basically ghosted), the last thing I told her in June is I wish her well, if she doesn't want to talk to me anymore thats fine and I told her I hope she finds the right guy that will treat her well and etc. I tried for 3 years to meet a girl and never happened and we live like 30-40 mins away from each other.

God knows I tried, and I have rejected different girls for sex, I am still a virgin, I don't party/I don't sleep around/I don't drink/I don't do drugs. If any girl reads this and assumes i'm some overbearing annoying guy, I know how to give girl space. I had the balls, patience and kindness to do nice things and what do I get in return, rejection and heart break. Romance inside of me is dead, I don't trust girls. To anyone who says, "focus on my life", I have gone to sporting events alone, the movies alone, studied and done well in school alone, go into law schools, doing my masters, work out, cook food, help my parents, work, saving money, minding my own business and etc. Its not like every guy today is better then me/is perfect, I've just been at the wrong place, wrong time

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Women can  say  that they want romantic men, and some of them can actually  believe  that they do, but their ACTIONS communicate very loudly and clearly to men that they don't. Romantic men rarely get women, and if they do, they rarely keep them, and are almost never respected. Strong, demanding, self-centered men get the women, and the women RESPECT those men, and work hard to make them happy. Let's use Will Smith and Jada Pinket as a good example. Will may be a wealthy celebrity with Hollywood clout, but he's also a genuine nice guy and a romantic guy. Will started planning Jada's 40th birthday party 2 years in advance. He made a point to learn everything she liked and get it for her. He hired Mary J. Blige to sing for her, and invited all of her friends. Two years of work and planning and thinking about her, and a considerable amount of money, to give her the most special birthday ever, and what happened? She insulted him for it, in front of their friends, and told him it was all about HIM showing off and feeding his own ego. No thank you, no appreciation, just an insult. About 15 years ago, a buddy of mine got married. He'd been working on his dream car - an old Chevy Chevelle SS - for about 4 years at the time, turning an old rust bucket into a beautiful resto-mod. About a year in, she starts complaining that they don't "do anything" - they have date nights nearly every week, and occasional weekend trips to nice places, but she still feels like he's not making a real effort to take her places. He spends the next year working 20 hours a week on the car to finish it, and when it's finally done, he sells it to fund a 2-week vacation in Paris, because that was her dream. But she complained the entire trip - the airport was a hassle, the plane ride was too long, the hotel wasn't nice enough, the lines for attractions was too long, it was too hot and too cold, etc. My buddy had sold his dream car that he'd invested thousands of hours of work into, only to have her make them both miserable for two weeks. And it's all his fault. Yeah, these were both "big gesture" examples, but I've seen it happen at all levels and have had it happen to me too. Guys try to be romantic - something that doesn't come easily or natural for most of us - and too often get no appreciation for it, and sometimes even get punished for it. What do you think that teaches men?

hi_it_is_me123 · Accepted Answer

You are generalizing.😅 I know many guys who are nice but romantic? Sorry but why would be a random man be romantic to you? If you mean your boyfriend, talk with him. Communication is key. Anyway, most of the guys are very nice/romantic to their gfs/wifes in real life. At least in my experience. You also should be romantic too and give your attention and love too, otherwise you can't just expect romanticism, attention and love if you dont give all of this.
I like to give my money, gifts, time, love and my attention to my boyfriend. So i try be romantic and i like it when he gets shy but tries to hide it whenever i am showering him with my love lol.

No offence but gag has also some unrealistic leftover guys in my experience that blame all their problems on women and feminism because they can't take responsibility for their own decisions. As if random feminist ruin their relationships. They are like feminazis but genders reversed. They attract what they are. No wonder why they only meet bad women because good women won't even look at them
As I said bad people attract bad people.

However, women ain't angels. So bad women exist too but you have to be smart and not naive and stupid. I have been approached by players, or bad men aka leftover men but i rejected them or did not waste my time on them. So you can't blame all women because of your own stupidity and naivety that made you the victims of bad women. This is like when a stupid girl generalize all men because of her experience with bad men😅
We have problems too but we can't be the problem of all your problems. So why do some guys in the commentsection generalize women and blame all their problems on women without knowing the whole female population. Just explain to me how i influence your marriage, relationship etc? Do I ruin your relationship? If not, why do you blame all women for your problems? Just say some women or specific women like your exs. I see no difference between these guys and feminazis. I love how these guys hate feminazis but act exactly like them just genders reversed.
If anyone trashtalk aka generalize one gender, then the problem is this person, and not all men or women.
Before you give me a dislike, read my whole post slowly. I only critizise some or specific guys in the commentsection but even critizising some men make me get dislikes even though i did not generalize men which confused me.
However, i am sorry if i offended anyone.

harmseygracelu · Accepted Answer

Because people have forgotten old-school traditions that worked. Feminism, social media, red-pill; just the modern world has wrecked a lot of good things. People have gotten too sensitive, too picky and too up themselves.

Guys used to ask our dad's permission, take us on a date and walk us home safe. But somethings gone wrong somewhere, parenting maybe. Boys aren't raised to be respectful and a lot of girls have lost that homely, motherly feeling.

I'm not saying to be a push-over, you can still speak your mind appropriately and be successful in whatever you choose, but I reckon if girls got that homely-motherly thing back, then a lot more guys would wanna be taking you on dates and buying you flowers. That's just nature.

And guys, I'm sure you'd be getting a lot more girls if you were just a gentlemen. You can't change the world by 'going your own way', you can only change it if you lead by example. That means living in a way that represents your beliefs and you'll find someone the same.

The world isn't necessarily doomed, it just needs people who feel this way to act on it, lead by example and show people how much nicer it could be. Then maybe we could get back what we've lost.

blank_expression · Answer

“Guys” have lost their romantic side with the feminist shaming thereof. Overtime, life has lost its spice. Does anyone notice food does not even taste right anymore? I recently bought some produce from a small farmer, cooked it up, and I realized that I forgot how food was supposed to taste. You cannot even have a conversation with someone anymore because he or she has earphones in, walking around talking to themselves. If you accidentally respond, you discover they are talking to the phone. Has anyone “stopped to smell the roses” recently or even in their lifetimes? We sadly are in an artificial-life and in that state any creative thought or desire for the simple ways are shunned. There is a sinister air about the world today and those that can sense it suffer the most. The human condition is traversing from natural life to a semi-automated highly regulated and controlled existence. In this existence, there really is no room for such things as “romance.” Such of a thing is considered passé, and is fallen to a dusty old novel. The new existence revolves around the new woman and her strife for ultimate success and societal domination with all lights and cameras on her. Nothing, which is counter to her succeeding, is politically correct and “romance” is at the top of the cancel culture’s list. Our world is headed to everything mechanized and that includes thought too where anything that you think must comply with policy while the phone and the internet are there to track and monitor your every thought for total regulatory control of said thought. “Romance” shall be removed from the dictionary.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Greet someone, and get accused of sexual harassment immediately, when you said nothing inappropriate. That crap in 2015 has created men who view all women as mousetraps.

Doomer is a meme for a reason.

Thotty Wojak enters the park. Sits on a bench. Chad walks by. Thotty throws herself at Chad. Chad goes away. She gets mad when Chad doesn't return the next day for a rerun.

Doomer walks into the park. Notices Thotty. Keeps on walking. Thotty is so disgusted by Doomer's mere existence, she sics Karen on him. Doomer confronts Thotty about lying about him to Karen. Thotty calls the police.

Doomer avoids jail time. But is required to speak to a counselor. Counselor only further blames Doomer's existence for everything wrong in the world, rather than acknowledging that he was the real victim of an actual criminal conspiracy. Counselor is a pink-haired butch with feigned credentials.

Doomer starts contemplating suicide.

That's why you can't find good men. Thots and Karens conspire to destroy them before you get a chance. And try to cockblock you if they notice you found a workaround.

Then, there are those self-important university student government freaks, pink hair optional. They see romantic men like what you want as acceptable human sacrifices for their virtue signaling campaigns.

In at least one instance, when the gal refused to play along with the student government defaming her boyfriend and trying to get him expelled over an incident that never happened, they tried to gaslight her that she had Stockholm syndrome. When she wouldn't fall for it, they bullied her outright, threatening to get her expelled if she didn't change her tune and testify against her boyfriend to advance their narrative.

Such evildoers need to be burned at the stake. Then, romantic men may possibly make a return. For now, they have to hide under rocks to avoid these insufferable sociopaths.

rjroy3 · Answer

You're really asking why the guys that YOU like don't decide to be romantic with you. Because there are plenty of guys who are romantic.

In all seriousness. The average girl does not appreciate romantic Gestures outside maybe an ego boost unless it's a guy they already like.

Outside of that the reaction can range from uncomfortable but flattered to "that's creepy". I've seen guys be romantic and get shit on by the girl who thinks he's pathetic.

Romance makes some sense in a dating context with a girl you really like. Like your girlfriend, wife, or girl on the road to becoming either.

Without that pre established relationship you'll perceive the guys actions negatively. Your boyfriend giving you flowers, saying "you're mine and I want to be with you always" you might say is romantic.

Now how do you feel, when it's the guy behind the register at 711 whom you only see at 711 sometimes saying, "you're mine and I want to be with you always"

Still romantic?

Basically anything you consider romantic. Imagine it's a old, fat, 75 year old man doing and saying the same thing. Do you feel the same way?

This should illuminate what you really care about rather than broadly talking about guys in general. Because guys in general will be romantic. Question is are they guys you would want and would they with you?

wtf636 · Answer

I would argue they still are. More so than women at least. But it has gone down, and I would say that would be on modern feminism and modern women.

Women are out here saying they are independent, don't need a man, blah blah blah, but then they still want men to open doors for them, pay for the date, and buy them flowers. And expect nothing in return. Treat them like they are "special" rather than an "equal" like they have been asking for. So men have adjusted. You can't be equal and special at the same time.

Also women make these rules for some men and not others. They want romance from one guy and make him work for it, then go fuck some hot dude the first night without any of that, and we see that.

I would also ask you what do women do that is "romantic" for men these days? Most women can't even cook anymore. Valentines day is for women not men. What do we get from you? A shitty tie or something cheap for our birthdays and some sex?

Women "give" men sex, which is actually something for both people. Women act like them giving us some pussy is a gift. When they need dick too.

So overall answer. Women expect too much and provide little to nothing in return these days. And guys are kind of tired of it. That's my opinion anyway.

Estaroze · Answer

In my experience, 1. There're many American/Italian/Asian guys who really treat you romantically. Even when they are hard to find, you'll find them with time. 2. French guys are suuuuper unromantic!(sicne 30 y ago?) If there's any woman who thinks them as romantic, it's because they haven't been liked by lots of men before, and haven't been treated well by them.
French guys treat you like men at some point, thinking it's being equal.. and they're never desperate for love, making the idea of love so unimportant and indispensable. They always have some lame idea of trying to think "it's meant to be like that", even when it's just being lazy and weak.
On the other hand, romantic men make you feel he is desperate to make you happy, and be loved by you. If the destiny is against him, he'll try to overcome it like a man.
Just take your time, and search for this kind of guy.
Even when they're kind of hiding, because the fab is making "being careless" as being cool, they do exist.

Anonymous · Answer

When I was young I was romantic and idealistic. I was looking for my “soul mate”. When I liked a girl I’d imagine all kinds of romantic things we might do together, I’d think about her if I heard romantic songs. I wanted that stuff.

But then I’d act that way and those women would seem to like it for a while, we’d sometimes be doing boyfriend/girlfriend stuff like holding hands, cuddling, maybe even kissing, and then they’d say that there was “no spark”. They’d date some guy who obviously was not romantic, and was probably a bit of a player.

If that happens enough times many of us just think to ourselves “well I did all this stuff and those women all turned me down. And she went for the guy who didn’t do that stuff. Maybe it just doesn’t work in my favour” and we stop.

Then for some of us, well speaking for myself here, when we stop with that stuff women seem to like us more and want to stick around more.

Basically it’s about how women reward or punish certain behaviours in men. That’s what determines the way many of us act. If being romantic worked more guys would be romantic, but it doesn’t so we avoid it.

Lj0011 · Answer

I still am I have just found it difficult with women i have met especially Australian women.
When I was living in Scotland (Edinburgh) i was dating a French girl who really appreciate it and we had dated for a while but she wanted to go home (Angers) and I didn't want to live in France so we departed ways.
But I'd always open the door for her, give my coat when it would get cold (Scotland can get pretty cold), always look after her if she wqs unwell, if something was on her mind no matter what id always wanted to help, I cleaned her apartment for her (then become our apartment when we i moved in) would cook dinner, plan weekend get aways in the highlands and she would treat me just as well. I never raised my voice or cracked it.. If we argued (vary rarely) i would try to explain my point of view and she would explain hers and then we would try and see it from the others point of view.
She was the first women who i felt I wasn't being judged for having red hair so i let my gaurds down and was myself.
In Australia I have never come across women like that whom are caring, feminine and strong.
I have found most like the fully sick type of men who treat women poorly.

Not_Average · Answer

The truth is that most women don’t act in a way that makes men want to be romantic. Modern culture tells women to sleep around and be selfish. It’s not a conscience act of if you don’t do this, then I won’t either. It’s a matter of vulnerability. It takes a lot of balls to show emotional intimacy to a woman, and when women are shown to be selfish and untrustworthy, then we put our guards up. We won’t be as hurt if don’t put as much effort. Nothing feels shittier than going out of your way to show a woman romance to find out she’s been fucking someone else the entire time. It’s extremely emasculating and hurtful. Truthfully it’s just so unattractive as well. The more feminine and loyal a woman is, the more romance she’ll attract.

hahahmm · Answer

Women finally convinced men that most women are whorish/low quality, disloyal. In the past a guy would assume you were a lady until proven wrong. Now they assume you're NOT a lady until proven otherwise. It's the same reason why a guy won't treat you like his wife if you're not even his girlfriend. Get real. There's a level of trust you have to EARN before a guy is going to give you yet another thing that you feel entitled to.

Anonymous · Answer

Ok so you're here asking why men are no longer what women want them to be. Do you think women now are what men want them to be? Men have been forced to accept women for what they are now in place of what men really want them to be. Guess what, turnabout is fair play. Women now are nothing like what women were like 50 years ago. Do you think men are happy about that? Do you think men like what women have become? When women decide to be traditional women again, men will care enough to be traditional men again. Until then, tough shit.

Anonymous · Answer

There are girls who still want that in a guy? Really? What about what guys want in a woman? Why would men care about what women want in a man when women clearly gave up trying to be what men want decades ago?

Today's women are not women anymore, and they don't deserve men working at being good men. They have lost that right. Today's women do not offer men much beyond sex, so why should men value them for anything beyond sex.

Women have made their bed and now they get to sleep in it.

missmels · Answer

There’s lots of romantic guys still out there, I think you’ve just been bumping into the ones that either aren’t like that at all or aren’t like that towards you.

Also if you’re with a guy and there’s certain things you need to feel loved, then let them know. They can’t read minds.

The right guy is out there

Anonymous · Answer

We grew out of our naivety. I used to do the whole works: candle-light massages, nice dinners, cards and letters without an occasion...

Not only did I never get anything in return, the women I was romantic toward would always treat me as if I were beneath them afterward. I recognised "romanticism" for what it really is: a woman's insistence on being served. And nobody ever respects those who serve them.

So go light some candles, take a nice hot bath, cook yourself some dinner, and write yourself a love letter...

... serve yo' self

Anonymous · Answer

I am one. But I rarely find girls into it. They usually are either hoes or just want to be completely dominated and treated a certain way. Romance is not something of the ego. by the way you're 31 how could you possibly even know what guys were like in the past. I'm so sick of people saying why isn't it like this anymore and they are only 20 or something lmao. Stop falling for the lies that the past was better. The same paradigms are being past right down the line and they may change a little but not much. Same how people think people of the past worked harder. If so then they would have been more well off and they weren't.

Kaamraj · Answer

Because it's not worth it. Romance is an effort that a man who is either gaining sexual value, or had value puts in to attract and secure a woman of comparative value. Now if women are going to be so choosy that they are all after the literal 5% elite guys and then settling with other men as a compromise when those elite guys refuse to commit, then why put in the effort and why commit?

cth96190 · Answer

Because a woman will see that as weakness, which will cause her to monkey branch to a man who will treat her poorly.
Women crave cold abusive bastards, even if the abuse is confined to psychological abuse.

K-I-S-S · Answer

Women usually want these things from men:

Decent income/make more than her
Ambition
Charismatic
Funny
Intelligent
Confidence
Maturity
Decently fit/strong
Good looking
Pretty tall
Leadership qualities
Good in bed
Hobbies/interests and whatnot too

And of course romantic.

Well, you see, guys are just a bit busy at the moment 😗

TwinTonyz · Answer

There's no reward for romance. Yiu can expect romance from your partners, sure, but the most-stringent criteria for him as a man was appearance, stability, morals, pasttimes, then friends in that order. How many barriers must a man cross before you're satisfied he's worth while? Where does romance fit into your social heriarchy?

One could assume you aren't finding romantic men because you're not seeking romantic men.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Women aren’t what men want. Their more work. Their more risk. They give less then before.

Why am I sexist when I tell you to get into the kitchen and make me a sandwich but your not when you want me to pay for said sandwich?

he-takes-a-part · Answer

They have tried hard, conflict happens where womens in their surrounding don’t remain of their surrounding anymore but think of them as high demanded models wherein a guy follows the same traditional approach which girls don’t find attractive now the same girl rejects modern approach on the pretext of being asked for quick sex. This causes dilemma. Girls don’t realise this instantaneously later on when they do its quite late. Resultantly end up getting married by give up nature and now the new marriage issues are emerging

dustybiker · Answer

Communication. Nobody is a mind-reader. If you feel something is lacking find a kind way of expressing your wants. Try giving some examples of what you like and then ask if they are interested in trying them. Ask if they have any interesting wants or needs. You’d be surprised what is going on in others minds, it only takes a question.

Rab1901 · Answer

I'm romantic and so are my brothers but to give you more context, guys aren't romantic when they feel girls aren't worth being romantic for. This could be because the guy has been hurt by girls or that he's seen so many guys get hurt. Between age 18-24, men cheat more than women, so during early adulthood, guys get cheated on more and feel girls are not worth romancing. If a girl can make a guy feel she is worth it, he will gladly be romantic for her.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Because whats considered "romantic" by many people and movies, is simply not my style.

I won't spent money on flowers just to watch them slowly rot away.
I can't prepare anthing special with candles and other stuff, as i am worried out cats may get hurt.
and so on

Petermorgan34 · Answer

Id say overall it is a symptom of how society is. For example half of women and men are not worth the time or effort to be romantic to, due to various reasons such as disloyalty , poor effort in return (giving way more than you get in return), or in general they are not a good person. But there are still plenty of men and women out there that are worth that extra time and effort

FilmGuy93 · Answer

This is one of those times when you really have to be grilling the sisterhood because men are just responding to how women treat us.
What modern women have to understand about men is that we do things that we see work. If we see our fathers and grandfathers being romantic and it works well; we'll be romantic. But if being romantic doesn't work; why bother doing it?

RasberrySlushPuppy · Answer

Girls and women usually kill that quickly either by getting their phones out or not being able to resist too much alcohol then being rude and perverted.
Many of your female side of dating are stuck up spoilt because they are used to dating low value men and they can't cope when they meet someone who has self respect.

rebelsunshine · Answer

Because sex has become so easy to get from women. Dating apps like Tinder and others and make it socially acceptable for women to explictly seek "hooking up" an option.

Guys don't need to be romantic to get sex anymore, so fewer of them are. (But there are some still out there, so keep looking.)

ohshee · Answer

And that's what I want from a girl is wanting that from a guy because I absolutely love to be romantic I love every part about romantic from text to kiss you doing I'm not doing it eye contact Lyft contact Energy contact skin to skin contact and 500 other things yes I absolutely love to be that way and then once I'm able to touch somebody's energy romance turns into a passion and desire and it just it's electrifying

Lionman95 · Answer

Because we feel like it´s not wanted anymore. Women always how well they can do everything for themselves. Romance is something we guys maybe underrate.
Because we guys take our knowledge about girls often time from the internet we lost the ability to recognize if a woman wants romance or not.

Anonymous · Answer

Feminist assholes killed romanticism. Why would a guy bother when every time he tries to be romantic or say Hello to a girl he likes, he gets accused of sexual assault. Also, as KrakenAttackin said, women want "equality." You don't get romance and fancy dinners out with equality. Pick one; you don't get to have both and you don't get to be contradictions. I used to be a romantic. Then about 10,000 women told me I was too short to date them.

John_Doesnt · Answer

Because girls have gotten woke and now they won't act like ladies anymore.

Boaz1208 · Answer

Translation: The married guy who is not my husband, who is romantic with his wife, but not me; isn't romantic. I don't like my husband that much so he doesn't count. And the other guy had a baby just to piss me off.
Don't be a low-life and you might be happier.

IDontBelieveIt · Answer

I was romantic but the girl I was with didn't appreciate being taken to Paris to get engaged over a weekend it several years ago, dating sites in uk I been on which ever way I do it doesn't get dates now think a foreign girl wants me because of my romance. If I try asking questions it stops after a couple of questions,

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Possible reasons.

1. They don't have much time.
2. Responsibilities.
3. Being romantic is a one way street you do all the things and put lots of effort and then nothing will get nagged for all the things that was never right 🤣.
4. Also if you want a guy to be romantic give him something to be romantic about.
5. Initiate things romance attracts romance

Gustav1 · Answer

The way I perceive it: either girls can't tell the difference between good looks, general manners and romance; or women demand both good looks and romance for a relationship to work. I am yet to hear of a romantic relationship where the guy isn't good looking. It's as if women are unaware of how much looks matter to them.

Anonymous · Answer

Because the MeToo statutes and extreme feminism have made guys avoid women out of fear they'll be branded a rapist for approaching her and spend the rest of their life in prison

At least this might solve the rampant overpopulation problem presently gripping the planet but probably not, we need more say full-on separate continents to keep men and women apart

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Ah "romance", which equals "spend a lot of money on me for dinners, flowers , trips, jewelry" etc.  You can thank "equality" for killing romance.

Anonymous · Answer

In my experience being romantic, putting in effort, being vulnerable, showing you care just gets you rejected.

ChubbyKing · Answer

Girls don't deserve it anymore. y'all want 1 sided relationships and we've had enough of it

Sangyoul2020 · Answer

Because they can't differentiate between girls like us who want romance from the hyper, crazy third wave feminists who will scream about the patriarchy/sexual harassement when they try to do something romantic.

Anonymous · Answer

Women treat romantic men like shit , specially when they are young now a days. Being bad boys are treding. Girls are getting attracted by those macho charismatic personality over soft romantic gestures. Guys want to woo girls , over the years they have seen being romantic only leads to friendzone. That's why majority have switched and that made them more successful with girls

FamilyStranger · Answer

Toxic Females aka Extreme feminist who hates men.

1. We don't feel loved by the women.
2. We don't know which girls just want to have sex with us.
3. We don't know if girls want us just for our money.
4. We don't know if girls are just using us as a stepping stone.
5. We do have romantic.
6. We don't want fake women aka manipulative girls.
7. We don't want controlling women. We don't mind being boss by women but trying to control everything.

The-Wise-Phoenix · Answer

"Chivalry is dead and women killed it."  Chris Rock

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Why don’t women act like, speak like, dress like, or look like women anymore. Solve your problems before trying to pin them on men.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Because the message is out now, most of us know. NICE GUYS FINISH LAST

Coulis · Answer

Because that's sexist. A guy can't be chivalrous without taking somebody's agency away and smashing the patriarchy blah blah blah some crap like that. Completely ruined everything.

scuff1986 · Answer

Older generations are still romantic, the younger generation from what I've seen don't feel it's necessary sadly. The art of courting is a dying thing sadly

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

We are, you must have to look. also it’s one of those things where being romantic actually takes two people…

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

It just seems like feminism has taken over. I'm still romantic but no one cares.

Malik00 · Answer

Because frankly it just isn't worth doing the "pick me" dance anymore.

MzAsh · Answer

Some guys still are romantic. Pay attention. The rest are for the streets.

have_a_good_day · Answer

it's this new breed. this hookup culture. they put so much focus on themselves that people forget that there is shadows beside the spotlight.

NathanDavis · Answer

I'm about to write a poem... based on your profile pic just to prove that wrong it will be in Spanish though, be right back...

jeffryrobertbabb · Answer

I think feminism killed off romance. Once you would give girl a box of chocolates or a bunch of flowers when you are taking her out. I still give European women flowers. If women don't respond correctly, why do it?

Anonymous · Answer

This...

crazy8000 · Answer

Female's aren't 😉

They aren't romantic.

See no point in investing when she doesn't in the same manner.

You get what you putt in.

He must start doing things.

High risk factor of being accused of all kind of thing.

Anonymous · Answer

Because romance these days gets us nothing what so ever.. I married someone thankfully that appreciates it, and reciprocates. But most women i have had contact with, its all one way, all receive on their end and no return.

Minahh · Answer

My boyfriend said to me through text that he isn't romantic. He indeed is but in his own way. Also it took some time for him to show to me his romantic side.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@nazgol I'm no longer romantic after reading news articles about the child custody battle between Brad Pitt & Angelina Jolie & Jeff Bezos losing money in the divorce.

Anonymous · Answer

Women ridicule it.  You're a woman. Imagine you dressed real sexy and everytime the guy ridiculed it. How many times would you endure that before you stopped dressing sexy.

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