What hurts you more: someone not wanting to go out with you or someone not wanting to be friends with you? Why?

[Bethany22]

Someone not wanting to go out on a date with me hurts more

Someone not wanting to be my friend hurts me more

A total of 90 votes were cast: 34 girls and 56 guys. See detailed results

[BobbieBoy666]

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[Purpleronnie]

Hard to say for sure really , it’s not so clear cut as for me it may depend on the reason (s) for either.


In either case being rejected for something negative I have done, and so deservedly , is equally hard assuming your any sort of decent person with a shred of accountability. Being rejected because I’m not a billionaire would mean nothing , I’d likely smile dodging a bullet , being rejected because I had lied well I may deserve the judgement.


Not wanting to be friends “any more” would hurt more for sure , because I’ve had friendship and lost it through my action or inaction , but it’s not what you are asking.


People change , the reasons for friendship or more can just disaapear , it doesn’t have to be anyone’s fault or need to hurt just accepted that nothing stands still.

[DishLady]

Depends on the person, obviously, but generally speaking, if a guy wants to go out with me it's usually because we can already tell that we're attracted to each other. If he doesn't no love loss bc it's honestly not usually someone I'd want to be around either. Same goes for friendship. Acquaintances are different. I might genuinely want to have a professional connection or cordial online exchange with someone who either does or doesn't reciprocate. If they do, awesome, we chat; if not, there could be a sense of loss, esp if you've been chatting for a while. (With the other two (dating and friendship), by the time I'm willing to consider a person for either category I have a fair sense of who they are already.)

[silvermoon84]

I voted “someone not wanted to be my friend” but honestly at my age, honestly neither one hurts me tbh, but when I was younger both bothered me at different points in life. In my teens and early 20’s, not having any friends hurt me. From about 25 to 32, I was more hurt by the fact that I couldn’t get/keep a boyfriend. At 40, I really don’t give a crap about either. I have good friends now and that’s all I care about. If you want to be in my life, great. If not, bye. Four or five good, solid friendships are better than a hundred fake ones, and single is better than being in a bad relationship.

[Summeroflove]

Not wanting to be friends is worse…. Being friend zoned means someone at least likes you as a person and you must have likable qualities. Someone not even wanting to be your friend they don’t even want you as a friend…

[Avicenna]

LOL, it's harder to get a genuine platonic female friend than it is to get a girlfriend, much harder.

[Malriarch1990]

The whole rejection thing usually hurts. Being a loner, it’s something I got used to as a child and tomboy. Other girls didn’t want to be my friends because I liked doing “boy” things like fixing stuff, camping, fishing, and I picked up and enjoyed snakes, snails, worms, and nature. Almost all my friends later in life, like college, were boys with a fellow tomboy female. A lot of guys didn’t want me or to be friends because I wasn’t a boy (girl cooties and not into sports) or much to do with me because I wasn’t into the whole skimpy or girly clothes and puffing anyone’s ego. By the time I hit late high school, stopped giving a flying fig what others thought. Still never had problems finding a partner due to being not unattractive and being able to understand guys, be bluntly honest with them, and willing to have fun trying different foods, music, and positive experiences.

[Anonymous]

Well if they're not my friend to begin with then I'm fine with them not wanting to be as I'll see them just as a stranger, then as for dating, I already have a husband and he's been by only romantic partner in my life and neither us really needed to date to get together as we just clicked and got along well together & at some point we both mutually fell in love plus neither of us would have asked the other out if we didn't know they felt the same in the first place. Let's say hypothetically I was the only one who feelings, I would be able to tell if someone doesn't have feelings for me in the first place so I wouldn't ask them out and I wouldn't feel that hurt as my feelings are still in the sort of 'crush' phase and not deeply in love yet so I had time to brush off my feelings.

[OneViewpoint]

Ummmm... neither? Whether you don't wanna be my buddy or you don't wanna go out to dinner with me Saturday night, you are entitled to make your own decisions. My feelings aren't hurt. I'll just move on. That's my decision to make. There are plenty of people in this world. I'm not wasting my time or money trying to change your mind. I don't need (or want) everyone I meet to like me. Next...

[DarkCarousel]

Probably the latter, if either. My friends are people who I’m drawn to and vice versa and there’s never really been a decision of ‘oh let’s be friends’ but more of just falling into it. Dating for me, I have to really like them so it’s going to hurt a bit if they’re not interested in me.

[RetroReviews]

Date hurts more , if you ask someone a date then you have special feelings towards them and are open to a possible future with them which would mean giving yourself to them. If someone don't wanna be Buddy's not a big deal can get over that much easier

[Sonorous]

Chose date because women don't go on dates with men they find ugly. So by rejecting me, I'd know they find me ugly 🤣 that hurts way more than not having a friend. Friendship isn't even reliable these days anyway. People are usually only friends with other people because they want some extremely shallow benefit from the friendship. Then when they get it, they move on. I can easily do without that.

[Crimsyjo]

Not wanting to date you just means you are not a person's type or compatible or whatever they are looking for and that's their perogative so it really doesn't mean they don't like you or think your a good person.

Someone not wanting to be your friend means they actually dislike you. Of course maybe they just having time or some other reason. But it's gonna sting more on a personal level.

[NicholasRedone]

I voted A because sometimes, and look no blame, sometimes I wonder if women appreciate how eyes can sometimes give off the wrong impression. Aka they can accidentally make a guy think "flirty gaze* - it's wasted me much time in the past.

Ah well, no wonder I should just stick to words and stick to lefties. They never done me wrong yet. Right handed women, sigh. Always right handed women, romantically strung me

[NicholasRedone]

Its like "I wish people knew, or if they knew then didn't, if they give off flirty eyes without having meant to kick-start" sigh

[NicholasRedone]

Otherwise some people are just you know. evil

[NicholasRedone]

The way they you know it's like having a fake friend. Claims they'll always be there, claims they'll have the rent money. It never comes lol 😆

[ProbablyClueless]

Not wanting to be friends. Because it's not just "I don't want to have sex with you," it's "I don't want to be around you."

I don't want to have sex with most people I meet. I don't meet too many people that I don't even want to be around though.

[emeraldsaphire]

You normally can have only one partner. Things like appearance can play a role in dating and bed room stuff. With a friendship, it's pretty much 100% personality, plus you can have more then one. So denied friendship is way more hurtful

[Caroline91]

Neither. There are plenty of other people who do. Not everyone is going to like me and I'm ok with that. I don't like everyone either, but I do try to be polite and kind.

[LouieLouie69]

Neither. Others decisions and feelings are to be observed and respected we owe ourselves the decency of acceptance

[Shiprex]

Neither. I don't want to be around someone who doesn't want to be around me. That I value myself as valid is more important than what another person bring to my life.

[Valdemort]

Not wanting to be friends.

Dating involves a lot more than just liking an individual, it doesn't have to be personal. The latter is.

[Nikki1989]

Finding someone to go out with you is too easy. You can't say that about finding a true friend.

[andreasderjuengere]

Neither option hurts me.
If I would not have "enemies", then I'd be an opportunist.
I do not like all the world; in return I expect that there are others who do not like me.

[WhitneySnow]

Both hurt equally but maybe the friend one more because that’s a rejection of your personality instead of just your looks

[rienna888]

I guess some may not want to go out with you due to jealousy. But not wanting to date you means you’re not attractive to them and I feel that hurts you ego more

[PeachyPie93]

Probably someone not wanting to date me since no one ever rejected being my friend.

[marfaret]

neither. people have their own right, also I'm not the first person who recommends

[LiamJHayden]

Honestly neither. I have no issue getting dates or making friends, but I also do not expect every lady I approach to say "Yes." nor do I expect everyone I meet to like me.

[CuriousKevin_]

I can handle not being fuckable but not being likeable…😭😭😭😭

[jazzy34]

I’d rather be friend zoned than not being in the person’s life at all.

[Theguywhogoesnude]

The mind wanders as to what led to it but maybe that's just me

[blackeagle007]

Frankly it is what it is. When I get “I see you as a friend” I just move on, not be friends with her and forget it. I don’t need to ego boost her. Sick of low self esteem women

[MoonFace2]

Someone not wanting my friendship. I’m used to being single.

[Anonymous]

Neither anymore to be honest. Because I've got enough friends I really do not need another. And as far as dating I see little utility in dating anymore.

[Caroline005]

Friends cause it can be the gate way to a relationship.

[izzyleelee]

friends for sure, because people have their preferences for people to date, but not wanting to be friends before even getting to know me hurts :(

[Silver158]

only really bothers me if someone has been leading me on or pretending to be my friend. If they're straight about it then fair enough.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Neither one hurts. Rejection is a part of life. I learned a long time ago that everybody i like may not necessarily like me back

[wydadman]

Probably none, them not wanting me is a good reason for me to not want them. Being wanted is very attractive!

[Anonymous]

I always feel as though there is something wrong with me when a woman declines to go out on a date with me.

[forensicexpert]

Someone not wanting to go out on a date with me hurts more

[WonderingManII]

They both hurt me the same.

[Beachbummama84]

I dunno.. guys?

[jahaims]

Neither hurt me. I'm emotionally healthy

[Jeff51]

I think friends 1st

[msc545]

Not wanting to be friends is worse.

[Priya99999]

I like romantic attention

[itsannalee]

Neither

[naartjie]

Honestly, neither.